Se ele quiser ir embora, mantenha a porta aberta para ele

Haverá por aí alguma mulher que nunca tenha sido abandonada? Não.

One way or another, there’s always a man in every woman’s life who decides not to stay.

It’s heartbreaking and seems like the worst possible outcome at that particular moment but trust me on this one—it isn’t.

Any one man who can’t find a reason to stay on his own is not worth persuading otherwise.

Pode sentir-se tentada a tentar provar que ele está errado. Pode querer enumerar todos os momentos bonitos que passaram juntos.

You might even try to show him how good you are for him so he doesn’t leave you.

Don’t!

If he’s leaving you for another woman, you might want to try and prove to him that you’re the better one.

There’s a chance you’ll want to show him just how wrong she is for him and how you are the one who fulfills him beautifully.

Don’t!

He was there for all of it. He didn’t go anywhere, he wasn’t in a freaking coma. He remembers, trust me.

Tudo o que aconteceu na vossa relação é tão claro para ele como para si.

There’s no way you should try and tell him a lovely story of how things could get better for the two of you.

Se ele quisesse ficar, ficaria.

If he thought all the romantic nights, all the days filled with love, all the amazing things you’ve done for him and all the gentle ways you took care of him were enough, he wouldn’t think about leaving.

No, don’t start thinking about how he loves you deep inside, in his own way. That’s a huge trap you’ll fall right into.

If he loved you, he wouldn’t be leaving.

He has a right to leave. You can’t control that—always remember this.

You can’t control him but you can and you should control yourself. Control your thoughts and your behavior.

Don’t let yourself become a toxic, obsessive shadow of who you were before.

You don’t want to chase him. That shouldn’t even be an option. You don’t want to be with anyone who doesn’t want to be with you.

Why waste your precious time on somebody who doesn’t give a damn?

Ponha-se no lugar dele. O que uma mulher faz, por vezes, é deixar um homem porque não aguenta mais ser magoada.

That’s why you might imagine that all he needs is a bit more persuasion to stay with you.

You should know that men rarely do that. If he’s out, he’s out. There’s no point in holding him back.

Don’t even think about trying to be better for him just so you can keep him. There’s no happiness in changing who you are for anyone.

The right guy will love everything about you. The right guy won’t think about leaving. The right guy won’t need you to change anything to make him stay.

Don’t you dare blame yourself. Just because one guy doesn’t have an appreciation for who you are doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

Don’t think about whether he’ll come back eventually. Just don’t go there.

Toma a tua vida nas tuas próprias mãos. Pensa em todas as coisas boas que vêm com esta separação.

Façam as malas dele e deitem-no fora. Tira algum tempo para fazeres o luto e ultrapassares isso. Tira tudo o que puderes dessa experiência.

Pega em tudo o que te faz melhor. Leva tudo o que te ajudará a apreciar o homem certo quando ele aparecer.

Deixar todos os pormenores deprimentes, tristes e pequenos que não farão mais do que enlouquecer, perguntando-se onde é que tudo correu mal.

Se ele quiser ir embora, deixem-no ir.

Nada do que faça pode mudar a decisão dele e, mesmo que mude, será que é mesmo isso que quer? Sentir que, de alguma forma, o obrigou a ficar quando ele queria ir embora?

I could tell you to think of it as a new beginning rather than an ending but I won’t. It is an ending.

It’s an ending to you wasting your time with someone who doesn’t love you.

It’s an ending to living a life far worse than the one you could be living with the right person.