Si quiere irse, déjale la puerta abierta

¿Hay alguna mujer que nunca haya sido abandonada? No.

One way or another, there’s always a man in every woman’s life who decides not to stay.

It’s heartbreaking and seems like the worst possible outcome at that particular moment but trust me on this one—it isn’t.

Any one man who can’t find a reason to stay on his own is not worth persuading otherwise.

Puede que sientas la tentación de demostrarle que está equivocado. Puede que quieras enumerar todos los momentos bonitos que pasasteis juntos.

You might even try to show him how good you are for him so he doesn’t leave you.

Don’t!

If he’s leaving you for another woman, you might want to try and prove to him that you’re the better one.

There’s a chance you’ll want to show him just how wrong she is for him and how you are the one who fulfills him beautifully.

Don’t!

He was there for all of it. He didn’t go anywhere, he wasn’t in a freaking coma. He remembers, trust me.

Todo lo que pasó en vuestra relación está tan claro para él como para ti.

There’s no way you should try and tell him a lovely story of how things could get better for the two of you.

Si quisiera quedarse, lo haría.

If he thought all the romantic nights, all the days filled with love, all the amazing things you’ve done for him and all the gentle ways you took care of him were enough, he wouldn’t think about leaving.

No, don’t start thinking about how he loves you deep inside, in his own way. That’s a huge trap you’ll fall right into.

If he loved you, he wouldn’t be leaving.

He has a right to leave. You can’t control that—always remember this.

You can’t control him but you can and you should control yourself. Control your thoughts and your behavior.

Don’t let yourself become a toxic, obsessive shadow of who you were before.

You don’t want to chase him. That shouldn’t even be an option. You don’t want to be with anyone who doesn’t want to be with you.

Why waste your precious time on somebody who doesn’t give a damn?

Ponte en su lugar. Lo que a veces hace una mujer es dejar a un hombre porque ya no puede soportar que la hieran.

That’s why you might imagine that all he needs is a bit more persuasion to stay with you.

You should know that men rarely do that. If he’s out, he’s out. There’s no point in holding him back.

Don’t even think about trying to be better for him just so you can keep him. There’s no happiness in changing who you are for anyone.

The right guy will love everything about you. The right guy won’t think about leaving. The right guy won’t need you to change anything to make him stay.

Don’t you dare blame yourself. Just because one guy doesn’t have an appreciation for who you are doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

Don’t think about whether he’ll come back eventually. Just don’t go there.

Toma tu vida en tus manos. Piensa en todas las cosas buenas que vienen con esta ruptura.

Haz las maletas y échalo. Tómate un tiempo para llorar y superarlo. Saca todo lo que puedas de esa experiencia.

Toma todo lo que te haga mejor. Toma todo lo que te ayude a apreciar al hombre adecuado cuando llegue.

Deja cada deprimente, triste, pequeño detalle que no hará más que volverte loco, preguntándote dónde salió mal.

Si quiere irse, que se vaya.

Nada de lo que hagas puede cambiar su decisión e incluso si lo hace, ¿es realmente algo que quieres? ¿Sentir que de alguna manera le obligaste a quedarse cuando él quería irse?

I could tell you to think of it as a new beginning rather than an ending but I won’t. It is an ending.

It’s an ending to you wasting your time with someone who doesn’t love you.

It’s an ending to living a life far worse than the one you could be living with the right person.

Pero realmente es un comienzo. El comienzo de una nueva tú. La que se aprecia a sí misma y no deja que ningún hombre decida su valor.

Remember this once he’s standing on that doorstep.

Lo único que debes hacer si quiere irse es mantenerle la puerta abierta de par en par.