É assim que se deixa um homem que não nos merece

Almost every girl has been crazy in love with a man who didn’t deserve her. And, we’ve all had a man who didn’t treat us well but we loved him blindly, anyway.

Leaving that man is probably the hardest thing you’ll do, even though you clearly know that he is going to hurt you someday for sure if you don’t end it as soon as possible.

No início, pensaste que o teu amor o iria mudar. Mostraste-lhe todos os dias o quanto ele significava para ti.

Amava-o mais e mais todos os dias. Querias desesperadamente que desse certo.

You really hoped that he’d realize that no one will ever love him the way you did and that would make him change and appreciate you more.

You hoped that for your anniversary he’d get you something special, maybe even an engagement ring. But that didn’t happen.

He didn’t get you anything because he forgot.He has failed you again. You’ve even stopped counting how many times he failed you.

Life can be so unfair sometimes. A person whom you love completely and for whom you would give your life doesn’t give a damn about you.

Leaving him may seem like the hardest thing for you to do right now, but you’ll realize one day that it was the best decision you ever made.

Here is how you’ll finally leave a man like that and leave him in the past once and for all.

Ter uma conversa honesta consigo próprio

The most important thing is that you have to be true to yourself. Admitting that he doesn’t deserve you is the first and the hardest step.

Tens de ter consciência de como és corajosa. Podes deixá-lo. Podes continuar com a tua vida. Um dia, you’ll meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

Trabalhar a sua autoestima

His behavior has affected your self-esteem. He’s made you believe that you don’t deserve to be treated respectfully and that you don’t deserve love at all.

Now it’s time to improve your self-esteem. You have to know that you are worthy of everything and that every other man would be more than happy to have a girl like you.

A pessoa no espelho é a sua melhor amiga. Fala com ela. Elogia-a.

Comment on her looks and give her fashion advice whenever she’s getting ready to go out.

Diz-lhe como ela é bonita. E quando ela chorar por causa dele, diga-lhe que nenhum homem é digno das suas lágrimas e que certamente não vale a pena estragar o rímel dela.

Passar algum tempo sozinho

You have to be alone with your thoughts. You are aware that he doesn’t deserve you and you know that you should leave him.

But that’s easier said than done, right?

Don’t listen to other people and their advice. You shouldn’t even listen to your friends and family.

It’s your life and you are the only one who can make the decision.

Tire uns dias de folga do seu trabalho e vá para um sítio onde possa estar completamente sozinho.

Um sítio onde se pode pensar em tudo.

Bring all the photos you have of you two. Turn off your phone and don’t answer it for anyone.

Lembre-se, este é o seu tempo a sós, o tempo para tomar a decisão final.

Olha para o passado. Quantas vezes chorou até adormecer por causa dele?

Quantas vezes é que ele estragou a sua noite porque tinha de namoriscar com outras raparigas?

Alguma vez fez alguma loucura só para te mostrar o quanto te ama? Alguma vez mostrou que tu és a sua prioridade?

Pensem em todas estas coisas. Ponderem as coisas boas e as coisas más da vossa relação.

Tomar a decisão final. Escolha amar a si mesmo novamente.

Pense no seu futuro

Now that you’re done with thinking about the past, take a look at your future.

Imagina como seria bom se pudesses finalmente fazer todas as coisas que ele te proibiu de fazer.

To wear all those dresses he didn’t like to see on you because he thought you were wearing them to seduce other men.

You’re an intelligent and successful woman. Focus on your job. Work on yourself. Go out with your friends.

Travel – because it was your favorite thing to do, but he wasn’t a fan of traveling so you didn’t do it while you were dating.

Think about all those things you’ve always wanted to do but he didn’t like them or didn’t allow you to do them.

Once you’ve broken up with him, you’ll be able to enjoy all those things.

Escrever-lhe uma carta

This doesn’t mean that you’ll break with him via this letter. No. When the time comes, you’ll break with him in person.

Writing a letter will help you to write down everything you’ve felt over the years and everything he’s made you feel with his actions.

Pode escrever o que achar que a vai ajudar a sentir-se melhor. Escreva tudo o que tinha medo de lhe dizer porque receava que ele a deixasse.

Escreva o quão triste ele a fazia sentir cada vez que se esquecia do seu aniversário ou do seu aniversário.

How awful you felt every time your friends sent you a text telling you that they’d seen him with some girls at a club.

Write down your deepest feelings. Write that you still love him, but that you’ve made the decision to love yourself more.

E que o amor que sente por ele já não a impedirá de alcançar os seus sonhos e objectivos na vida.

Livrar-se das coisas dele

A maior parte das pessoas diria que deve devolver-lhe as coisas dele, bem como as coisas que ele lhe deu.

But I say that you don’t have to take care of his stuff – just like he never cared about you.

Getting rid of those things will be particularly difficult for you because that’s when you’ll understand that your relationship has come to an end.

However, it’s something that you must do in order to properly move on with your life.

Otherwise, his stuff will only be a reminder of him and the past, and it’ll be painful every time you see something that belongs to him.

Ponha essas coisas numa caixa e deite-as fora ou, melhor ainda, queime-as. Faça o que lhe der mais prazer.

Don’t force yourself

You’ve realized that he is wrong for you and that he doesn’t deserve you. I know that you want to break up with him and move on as soon as possible.

There is no need to rush, though. You’ll move on but you need to give yourself time to heal properly first.

You need time to think about everything so that you don’t let any man treat you less than you deserve ever again.

Don’t let other people’s opinions confuse you and make you break up with him before you’re ready to do it.

You should take all the time you need to make it less painful for yourself. Even though he doesn’t deserve it, you love him.

E isso é algo that can’t be changed overnightNão importa o que os outros digam. Avança passo a passo.

If you break up with him before you’re ready, you’ll be the one who’s going to suffer.Love shouldn’t make us miserable.

If it’s making you sad and if you’re doubting your partner’s feelings, then it’s not love. O verdadeiro amor deve fazer-nos sentir como se estivéssemos no céu.

Ele deve ser o seu anjo, encorajando-o sempre a ser melhor e nunca permitindo que se sinta mal consigo próprio.

Always know your worth and don’t let anyone make you forget it.

Don’t waste time on people that don’t deserve you porque cada segundo da vossa vida é precioso.

Deixar uma pessoa que amamos, independentemente da forma como ela nos trata, é sempre difícil.

But, it’s possible and it’s something you must do to leave space for something better to come.