Ecco come si lascia un uomo che non ti merita

Almost every girl has been crazy in love with a man who didn’t deserve her. And, we’ve all had a man who didn’t treat us well but we loved him blindly, anyway.

Leaving that man is probably the hardest thing you’ll do, even though you clearly know that he is going to hurt you someday for sure if you don’t end it as soon as possible.

All'inizio pensavate che il vostro amore lo avrebbe cambiato. Gli avete dimostrato ogni giorno quanto fosse importante per voi.

Lo amavi ogni giorno di più. Volevate disperatamente che funzionasse.

You really hoped that he’d realize that no one will ever love him the way you did and that would make him change and appreciate you more.

You hoped that for your anniversary he’d get you something special, maybe even an engagement ring. But that didn’t happen.

He didn’t get you anything because he forgot.He has failed you again. You’ve even stopped counting how many times he failed you.

Life can be so unfair sometimes. A person whom you love completely and for whom you would give your life doesn’t give a damn about you.

Leaving him may seem like the hardest thing for you to do right now, but you’ll realize one day that it was the best decision you ever made.

Here is how you’ll finally leave a man like that and leave him in the past once and for all.

Parlare onestamente con se stessi

The most important thing is that you have to be true to yourself. Admitting that he doesn’t deserve you is the first and the hardest step.

Devi essere consapevole di quanto sei coraggiosa. Puoi lasciarlo. Potete continuare la vostra vita. Un giorno, you’ll meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

Lavorare sulla propria autostima

His behavior has affected your self-esteem. He’s made you believe that you don’t deserve to be treated respectfully and that you don’t deserve love at all.

Now it’s time to improve your self-esteem. You have to know that you are worthy of everything and that every other man would be more than happy to have a girl like you.

La persona allo specchio è la vostra migliore amica. Parlate con lei. Fatele dei complimenti.

Comment on her looks and give her fashion advice whenever she’s getting ready to go out.

Ditele quanto è bella. E quando piange a causa di lui, ditele che nessun uomo è degno delle sue lacrime e che non vale certo la pena di rovinarsi il mascara.

Prendetevi un po' di tempo da soli

You have to be alone with your thoughts. You are aware that he doesn’t deserve you and you know that you should leave him.

But that’s easier said than done, right?

Don’t listen to other people and their advice. You shouldn’t even listen to your friends and family.

It’s your life and you are the only one who can make the decision.

Prendete un paio di giorni di pausa dal lavoro e andate in un posto dove potete stare completamente soli.

Un luogo dove poter pensare a tutto.

Bring all the photos you have of you two. Turn off your phone and don’t answer it for anyone.

Ricordate che questo è il vostro tempo libero, il tempo per prendere la decisione finale.

Guardate al passato. Quante volte avete pianto fino ad addormentarvi per colpa sua?

Quante volte vi ha rovinato la serata perché doveva flirtare con altre ragazze?

Ha mai fatto qualcosa di folle solo per dimostrarvi quanto vi ama? Ha mai dimostrato che siete la sua priorità assoluta?

Pensate a tutte queste cose. Soppesate gli aspetti positivi e negativi della vostra relazione.

Prendete la decisione finale. Scegliete di amare di nuovo voi stessi.

Pensate al vostro futuro

Now that you’re done with thinking about the past, take a look at your future.

Immaginate quanto sarebbe bello se poteste finalmente fare tutte quelle cose che vi ha proibito di fare.

To wear all those dresses he didn’t like to see on you because he thought you were wearing them to seduce other men.

You’re an intelligent and successful woman. Focus on your job. Work on yourself. Go out with your friends.

Travel – because it was your favorite thing to do, but he wasn’t a fan of traveling so you didn’t do it while you were dating.

Think about all those things you’ve always wanted to do but he didn’t like them or didn’t allow you to do them.

Once you’ve broken up with him, you’ll be able to enjoy all those things.

Scrivetegli una lettera

This doesn’t mean that you’ll break with him via this letter. No. When the time comes, you’ll break with him in person.

Writing a letter will help you to write down everything you’ve felt over the years and everything he’s made you feel with his actions.

Sentitevi liberi di scrivere tutto ciò che pensate possa aiutarvi a sentirvi meglio. Scrivete tutto quello che avevate paura di dirgli perché temevate che vi lasciasse.

Scrivete quanto vi ha fatto sentire tristi ogni volta che ha dimenticato il vostro compleanno o il vostro anniversario.

How awful you felt every time your friends sent you a text telling you that they’d seen him with some girls at a club.

Write down your deepest feelings. Write that you still love him, but that you’ve made the decision to love yourself more.

E che l'amore che provate per lui non vi impedirà più di raggiungere i vostri sogni e obiettivi nella vita.

Sbarazzarsi delle sue cose

La maggior parte delle persone direbbe che dovreste restituirgli le sue cose e quelle che lui vi ha dato.

But I say that you don’t have to take care of his stuff – just like he never cared about you.

Getting rid of those things will be particularly difficult for you because that’s when you’ll understand that your relationship has come to an end.

However, it’s something that you must do in order to properly move on with your life.

Otherwise, his stuff will only be a reminder of him and the past, and it’ll be painful every time you see something that belongs to him.

Mettete quelle cose in una scatola e buttatele via o, meglio ancora, bruciatele. Fate quello che vi fa più piacere.

Don’t force yourself

You’ve realized that he is wrong for you and that he doesn’t deserve you. I know that you want to break up with him and move on as soon as possible.

There is no need to rush, though. You’ll move on but you need to give yourself time to heal properly first.

You need time to think about everything so that you don’t let any man treat you less than you deserve ever again.

Don’t let other people’s opinions confuse you and make you break up with him before you’re ready to do it.

You should take all the time you need to make it less painful for yourself. Even though he doesn’t deserve it, you love him.

E questo è qualcosa that can’t be changed overnightNon importa quello che dicono gli altri. Fate un passo alla volta.

If you break up with him before you’re ready, you’ll be the one who’s going to suffer.Love shouldn’t make us miserable.

If it’s making you sad and if you’re doubting your partner’s feelings, then it’s not love. Il vero amore dovrebbe farvi sentire come in paradiso.

Dovrebbe essere il vostro angelo, che vi incoraggia sempre a migliorare e non vi permette mai di sentirvi male con voi stessi.

Always know your worth and don’t let anyone make you forget it.

Don’t waste time on people that don’t deserve you perché ogni secondo della vostra vita è prezioso.

Lasciare una persona che si ama, indipendentemente da come ci tratta, è sempre difficile.

But, it’s possible and it’s something you must do to leave space for something better to come.