Se o teu homem faz estas 10 coisas, ele é um SOCIÓPATA tóxico
Foi isto que me aconteceu, por isso sei do que estou a falar. Quero partilhar a minha experiência extremamente dolorosa.
Quero abrir o meu coração e tornar-me completamente vulnerável diante de todos vós.
I’m doing this in the hope that my story will help others break free from the hell they are going through like I broke free from mine.
It took me a long time to understand what kind of a monster I was married to—it took me 4 years. 4 years of tears, 4 years of crippling pain, 4 years of thinking it was all my fault.
After all that time, I’m not the same anymore. He took that part of me that made me who I am.
He stole it from me and turned me into something I didn’t want to be. Something he wanted me to be.
Something he could control—a mannequin disguised as a woman.
He was an infinite bastard. A heartless mother fucker. He didn’t care for a single soul in this world except for himself.
He didn’t care for his family or his friends. Actually, he didn’t even have any friends.
And he robbed me of mine, as well. It was so calculated, it was so sneaky and I didn’t get it.
I couldn’t leave just like that. Even when I started to realize what he was doing to me, I couldn’t just walk away.
It’s not as easy as it seems. I know people sometimes judge women who are being abused for still sticking to their abusers.
These abused women even defend their abusers and make excuses for them. Well, it’s easy to play the role of just an observer and judge those women.
Mas viver esse cenário e acordar todas as manhãs com o estômago cheio de medo e com a desilusão estampada na cara é algo completamente diferente.
Estas mulheres têm medo to leave because they got used to the poor treatment they get. They don’t know any better.
It is insanely weird, because, to some extent, they have at least some kind of security, even if it’s living with an abuser. These homens tóxicos sabem como nos enganar e fazer-nos pensar que gostam mesmo de nós.
Sabem como dar-vos atenção suficiente para vos fazer ficar.
And when they do, they turn into toxic sociopaths, their actual real selves, all over again, and the vicious circle goes on. That’s why you can’t leave.
Ele continua a dar-te esperança de que vai mudar.
A única coisa que estas mulheres conhecem são os maus-tratos. Quando alguém grita e nos agride todos os dias, isso torna-se o nosso ambiente natural.
After some time, those harsh loud insults don’t offend you as much.
His threats and his violent behavior don’t affect you as much. I mean it does affect you, but you swallow it all up.
You don’t shake anymore in front of him, but you go through hell inside of you.
Ele dá-nos uma dose de si próprio e ficamos viciados.
It’s like you are a drug addict. He made you try it a few times and now, you can’t stop.
You need more and more and he keeps giving you something you think you need, something you think you can’t live without.
Quando um toxicodependente fica sóbrio, apercebe-se do que estava a fazer a si próprio.
He realizes how much damage he has done to his precious mind and body and he realizes how stupid he was up to the point when he couldn’t have enough.
It’s either give up on drugs or die. It’s the same for you. Leave him or die from the inside.
If your guts are telling you something is wrong, and if you’re feeling like you’ve been imprisoned, if your true self is slowly starting to fade or if you have disappeared completely, then you are being abusado emocionalmente.
All of the things I wrote are true, but most of the women who are living it can’t accept it or are afraid to.
If you’re still too scared to take the step to being ‘sober’, to abandon the sociopath that constantly feeds you with toxicity, remember this…
Love isn’t supposed to be that way. Love isn’t supposed to yell at you because it’s having a bad day.
Love isn’t supposed to emotionally blackmail you. Love isn’t supposed to make you feel less worthy.
Love isn’t supposed to break you.
Mas estes homens são tudo menos amor. Eles gritam, berram e desrespeitam.
These men don’t know how to love. They know how to pretend to love you.
They use their villain manipulative power to gaslight you and make you completely oblivious to what’s happening.
They have the power to control you, but only until you wake up from the nightmare they’ve directed and realize you deserve and want way better than you have now.
Open your eyes to save yourself. See what he’s doing to you, and just like myself, run for your life.
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Ele está a enganar-te e a fazer-te sentir que tu é que és a maluca
It’s his favorite tactic, something he does best. He makes you believe things which are not true.
Mesmo que duvide dele no início e o confronte sobre o assunto, ele apresentará desculpas tão fortes e vivas que a discussão se prolongará durante dias.
He will act like it’s not a big deal. Even if you caught him texting another woman who is clearly his mistress, he will make you believe it’s not true.
At first, you will insist on him explaining you the situation, but after some time of hearing the same excuses, you’ll start doubting yourself.
You will actually make yourself believe it’s all in your head, that you are pushing things too far.
That was his plan all along. To make you believe you’re the crazy one and that he never did anything wrong.
Ele está a fazer-te pensar que tudo é culpa tua.
He is totally guilt-tripping you. He makes you think you are the one to blame for literally anything—his and your mistakes.
Afinal, ele é o perfeito e é impossível que cometa um erro. Tu és a incapaz, a submissa, a última da lista.
É assim que ele te chantageia emocionalmente.
If he has troubles in his life, he will guilt you by saying you don’t love him or that you don’t give him enough of your time and that’s why he’s been failing. Not because he is incompetent, but because you don’t try hard enough.
He’s a control freak
He is obsessed with control. That’s why he has isolated you from the rest of the world.
He doesn’t want you to communicate with anybody but him, so he can feed you with his toxic thoughts and violent behavior.
Por isso, pensa que não há nada melhor para si, apenas o que ele lhe dá.
He also knows he can’t keep your attention. After you fall for him, he knows he has to do something to force you to stay.
To make this come true, he has mastered controlling any possible situation, so there won’t be any surprises. This makes you feel like a prisoner.
He’s a complete hypocrite
No início, ele será perfeito. Ele moverá montanhas por si e você por ele. Mas, passado algum tempo, ele mudará e tornar-se-á cada vez pior.
Ele vai fazer batota, vai mentir e vai manipular-te. Vai tratar-te como se fosses a última da lista de prioridades dele, porque, na verdade, és.
And what’s hilarious is that you are supposed to remain perfect and flawless.
Tens de ter cuidado com o teu comportamento e tens de ter cuidado para não o magoares de qualquer forma possível enquanto ele te trata como lixo.
O mundo gira à volta dele
Ele precisa de ser o centro das atenções e todo o vosso mundo tem de girar à volta dele.
If you do something that doesn’t have to do anything with him, he’ll get insanely jealous and make you pay for that ‘mistake’ you made.
In fact, he doesn’t have an identity of his own. He needs you to boost his ego and to feed him with your approval which is sad when you look at it more closely.
He doesn’t respect your boundaries
This is again because he doesn’t respect you enough to care. We all have boundaries, we all draw the line when something is too much for us.
Temos coisas que toleramos e coisas que desprezamos.
Well, he doesn’t respect that. He thinks he has the right to set your boundaries for you.
And even if you remain firm and let him realize when it’s enough, he won’t respect it.
He will cross those boundaries every time he wants because he doesn’t care at all about what you need or think.
Ele mente perfeitamente
Ele nasceu assim. Quase tudo o que ele diz é mentira. Mente tão perfeitamente que nunca se duvidaria dele e é coerente.
Ele nunca se perde na confusão de mentiras que cria. Mesmo que o apanhem a mentir, ele mantém-se calmo e tranquilo. E também mentirá para sair dessa situação.
Ele vai consumir-te lentamente
Ele vai usá-la e sugar a sua energia. E isto vai continuar enquanto ele precisar.
Mesmo quando se está esgotado e não resta mais nada, ele vai deixá-lo por um tempo para recarregar as baterias e voltar e banquetear-se contigo mais um pouco.
Ele vai contagiar-te com a sua toxicidade e impedir-te de veres como és capaz, forte e bonita.
O seu principal objetivo é assegurar-lhe que é um grande nada sem ele.
E para o conseguir, joga todo o tipo de jogos mentais emocionaisSó para vos assegurar que ele é tudo o que podeis ter.
Se ele tentasse manter-te de qualquer outra forma, ficaria sozinho para sempre.
You’re fighting with anxiety and you don’t know why
You’re anxious and you can’t figure out why. Well, it’s because your whole relationship is wrong.
He is wrong. It’s because you don’t feel good in your relationship and you feel he is being disrespectful and mean for no good reason.
Pensas que tudo é culpa tua e culpas-te porque ele te engana para fazeres isso.
Pensa que é menos digno e começa a acreditar que tem sorte em ter qualquer tipo de relação.
You’re anxious because you overanalyze things which are so simple, only you can’t see them yet.
É extremamente mal-educado para com as pessoas que não lhe interessam
He was only kind to you and he only bothered to impress you. He doesn’t care about other people and is never kind to anyone.
On contrary, he is extremely rude and unpleasant. That’s because he doesn’t need anything from those people, so he doesn’t hide his real face and treats them like crap.
When he actually needs someone’s help, he turns on his full charm and of course gets what he wants.
Afterwards, you’re just another face in the crowd for him—completely irrelevant and non-existent.
