Así es como se deja a un hombre que no te merece

Almost every girl has been crazy in love with a man who didn’t deserve her. And, we’ve all had a man who didn’t treat us well but we loved him blindly, anyway.

Leaving that man is probably the hardest thing you’ll do, even though you clearly know that he is going to hurt you someday for sure if you don’t end it as soon as possible.

Al principio, pensaste que tu amor le cambiaría. Le demostrabas cada día lo mucho que significaba para ti.

Le querías más y más cada día. Querías desesperadamente que funcionara.

You really hoped that he’d realize that no one will ever love him the way you did and that would make him change and appreciate you more.

You hoped that for your anniversary he’d get you something special, maybe even an engagement ring. But that didn’t happen.

He didn’t get you anything because he forgot.He has failed you again. You’ve even stopped counting how many times he failed you.

Life can be so unfair sometimes. A person whom you love completely and for whom you would give your life doesn’t give a damn about you.

Leaving him may seem like the hardest thing for you to do right now, but you’ll realize one day that it was the best decision you ever made.

Here is how you’ll finally leave a man like that and leave him in the past once and for all.

Hable sinceramente consigo mismo

The most important thing is that you have to be true to yourself. Admitting that he doesn’t deserve you is the first and the hardest step.

Tienes que ser consciente de lo valiente que eres. Puedes dejarlo. Puedes continuar con tu vida. Un día, you’ll meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

Trabaja tu autoestima

His behavior has affected your self-esteem. He’s made you believe that you don’t deserve to be treated respectfully and that you don’t deserve love at all.

Now it’s time to improve your self-esteem. You have to know that you are worthy of everything and that every other man would be more than happy to have a girl like you.

La persona del espejo es tu mejor amiga. Habla con ella. Hazle cumplidos.

Comment on her looks and give her fashion advice whenever she’s getting ready to go out.

Dile lo guapa que es. Y cuando llore por él, dile que ningún hombre es digno de sus lágrimas y que no merece la pena estropearse el rímel por él.

Tómese un tiempo a solas

You have to be alone with your thoughts. You are aware that he doesn’t deserve you and you know that you should leave him.

But that’s easier said than done, right?

Don’t listen to other people and their advice. You shouldn’t even listen to your friends and family.

It’s your life and you are the only one who can make the decision.

Tómate un par de días libres en tu trabajo y vete a algún sitio donde puedas estar completamente solo.

Un lugar donde puedas pensar en todo.

Bring all the photos you have of you two. Turn off your phone and don’t answer it for anyone.

Recuerda que es tu momento a solas, el momento de tomar la decisión final.

Echa un vistazo al pasado. Cuántas veces has llorado hasta quedarte dormida por su culpa?

¿Cuántas veces te ha arruinado la noche porque tenía que ligar con otras chicas?

¿Ha hecho alguna locura para demostrarte cuánto te quiere? ¿Te ha demostrado alguna vez que eres su máxima prioridad?

Piensa en todas estas cosas. Sopesa lo bueno y lo malo de tu relación.

Toma la decisión final. Elige volver a quererte.

Piense en su futuro

Now that you’re done with thinking about the past, take a look at your future.

Imagina lo estupendo que sería si por fin pudieras hacer todas esas cosas que te prohibió.

To wear all those dresses he didn’t like to see on you because he thought you were wearing them to seduce other men.

You’re an intelligent and successful woman. Focus on your job. Work on yourself. Go out with your friends.

Travel – because it was your favorite thing to do, but he wasn’t a fan of traveling so you didn’t do it while you were dating.

Think about all those things you’ve always wanted to do but he didn’t like them or didn’t allow you to do them.

Once you’ve broken up with him, you’ll be able to enjoy all those things.

Escríbale una carta

This doesn’t mean that you’ll break with him via this letter. No. When the time comes, you’ll break with him in person.

Writing a letter will help you to write down everything you’ve felt over the years and everything he’s made you feel with his actions.

Siéntete libre de escribir lo que creas que te ayudará a sentirte mejor. Escribe todo lo que temías decirle porque te preocupaba que te dejara.

Escribe lo triste que te hacía sentir cada vez que olvidaba tu cumpleaños o tu aniversario.

How awful you felt every time your friends sent you a text telling you that they’d seen him with some girls at a club.

Write down your deepest feelings. Write that you still love him, but that you’ve made the decision to love yourself more.

Y que el amor que sientes por él ya no te impedirá alcanzar tus sueños y metas en la vida.

Deshazte de sus cosas

La mayoría de la gente diría que deberías devolverle sus cosas junto con las que él te dio a ti.

But I say that you don’t have to take care of his stuff – just like he never cared about you.

Getting rid of those things will be particularly difficult for you because that’s when you’ll understand that your relationship has come to an end.

However, it’s something that you must do in order to properly move on with your life.

Otherwise, his stuff will only be a reminder of him and the past, and it’ll be painful every time you see something that belongs to him.

Mete esas cosas en una caja y tíralas o, mejor aún, quémalas. Haz lo que te produzca más placer.

Don’t force yourself

You’ve realized that he is wrong for you and that he doesn’t deserve you. I know that you want to break up with him and move on as soon as possible.

There is no need to rush, though. You’ll move on but you need to give yourself time to heal properly first.

You need time to think about everything so that you don’t let any man treat you less than you deserve ever again.

Don’t let other people’s opinions confuse you and make you break up with him before you’re ready to do it.

You should take all the time you need to make it less painful for yourself. Even though he doesn’t deserve it, you love him.

Y eso es algo that can’t be changed overnightNo importa lo que digan los demás. Ve despacio. Ve paso a paso.

If you break up with him before you’re ready, you’ll be the one who’s going to suffer.Love shouldn’t make us miserable.

If it’s making you sad and if you’re doubting your partner’s feelings, then it’s not love. El verdadero amor debe hacerte sentir como si estuvieras en el cielo.

Debería ser tu ángel, siempre animándote a ser mejor y nunca permitiéndote sentirte mal contigo mismo.

Always know your worth and don’t let anyone make you forget it.

Don’t waste time on people that don’t deserve you porque cada segundo de tu vida es precioso.

Dejar a una persona a la que quieres, independientemente de cómo te trate, siempre es duro.

But, it’s possible and it’s something you must do to leave space for something better to come.