É por isso que ela desistiu de tentar ser a sua prioridade

"Há uma altura em que temos de deixar de atravessar oceanos por pessoas que nem sequer saltariam poças por nós."

Many asked her how she could let him go so easily. Many asked her why she didn’t fight harder, why ela desistiu quando estavam destinados a ficar juntos.

Little did they know that she didn’t give up but he didn’t even try anymore.

They acted as if it was all her fault, as if it was her job to keep him or to make him stay. As if they didn’t know that you can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to stay.

Ele colocou uma distância entre os dois. Maybe he didn’t do that willingly, maybe something stole his attention, but maybe he didn’t really care for her anymore.

Talvez ele se tenha fartado. Talvez a tenha tomado como garantida. Seja como for, deixou de a considerar uma prioridade.

Concentrou-se na sua vida. Ele concentrou-se em lidar com toda a gente menos com ela. Ficou tão ocupado com a sua vida que se esqueceu da vida que tinha com ela.

Ele esqueceu-se das necessidades dela e ela transformou-se numa daquelas mulheres emocionalmente negligenciadas.

Ela deixou de ser uma prioridade para ele. He didn’t bother to call just to hear her voice. He was always busy. He never had time for dates or to spend some quality time with her.

He even spent more time with his friends than he did with her. He started leaving her alone too much and he allowed days to pass when they didn’t hear from each other.

Ela tentou falar com ele. She tried to tell him that things had started going downhill and how he wasn’t the same person he used to be. She tried so hard to open his eyes.

No final do dia, ele era a sua alma gémea, o seu parceiro de vidacom quem ela via o seu futuro.

Despite what everyone else thought, she didn’t just give up on him. She really tried, but he didn’t see the same things she did.

Para ele, tudo estava bem. Não havia necessidade de trabalhar em nada. Ele disse que eram bom e que ela estava apenas a ser paranoica.

And then he went off and didn’t reply to her messages for hours and when he finally did, it was just a one-word message. Something was off, but he didn’t care to fix it.

Perhaps he thought he’d still have her, even when he stopped putting any effort into their relationship. But he was wrong.

Durante muito tempo, ela tentou encaixar-se na agenda dele. Durante tanto tempo, ela foi inclinar-se para trás para ele só reparar nela. Parecia que ela estava a morrer só para ter um pouco do seu tempo.

She really tried. But she didn’t manage to succeed.

Por fim, quando viu que ele tinha deixado de fazer dela a sua prioridade, desistiu de tentar ser uma. Desistiu de lhe telefonar, desistiu de lhe enviar mensagens de texto constantemente, desistiu de tentar que ele reparasse nela.

She gave up on making plans because she knew he’d cancel them last minute anyway.

Now it’s time for people to understand that objectivos de relacionamento são mais do que colocar uma hashtag por baixo de uma fotografia gira no Instagram.

It’s making time for the person who loves you even when your schedule is crazy.

It’s responding as soon as you see a message because it’s not like those thirty seconds will harm your work. It’s constantly trying to keep the love burning and not just hoping things will work even when you don’t try.

Ela apercebeu-se de que precisava de parar de se esforçar tanto por alguém que já tinha desistido há muito tempo.

She realized she should stop tearing her self-worth down for a man who didn’t even notice her anymore.

She realized that she should stop trying too. That way, in case she meant anything to him, he’d notice her pulling away and reach back to her.

E se ele a deixasse ir facilmente, isso significava que não se importava de a perder.

If he didn’t reach out to her, if he didn’t hear the wake-up call, it meant she had done right when she chose to stop trying.

Because regardless of how much it hurts, it’s always better to break yourself once by leaving than to allow yourself to be broken every day by letting him take you for granted.

When you have to fight to be someone’s priority, then that’s a sign that it’s time to invest your efforts into a relationship with someone who you won’t need to beg to make time for you but with someone who’s going to give it to you willingly and on his own.

Sometimes when others aren’t willing to make you their priority it’s your task to make yourself a priority and take care of yourself.

Esqueça o que os outros dizem ou o que acham que deve fazer. Cuide sempre de si em primeiro lugar.