Ecco perché ha rinunciato a cercare di essere la sua priorità

"Arriva un momento in cui devi smettere di attraversare gli oceani per persone che non salterebbero nemmeno le pozzanghere per te".

Many asked her how she could let him go so easily. Many asked her why she didn’t fight harder, why si è arresa quando erano destinati a stare insieme.

Little did they know that she didn’t give up but he didn’t even try anymore.

They acted as if it was all her fault, as if it was her job to keep him or to make him stay. As if they didn’t know that you can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to stay.

Ha messo una distanza tra i due. Maybe he didn’t do that willingly, maybe something stole his attention, but maybe he didn’t really care for her anymore.

Forse si era stufato. Forse la dava per scontata. In ogni caso, ha smesso di considerarla una priorità.

Si è concentrato sulla sua vita. Si è concentrato a occuparsi di tutti tranne che di lei. Era così impegnato con la sua vita che si è dimenticato della vita che aveva con lei.

Lui si è dimenticato dei suoi bisogni e lei si è trasformata in una di quelle donne emotivamente trascurate.

Lei non era più una priorità per lui. He didn’t bother to call just to hear her voice. He was always busy. He never had time for dates or to spend some quality time with her.

He even spent more time with his friends than he did with her. He started leaving her alone too much and he allowed days to pass when they didn’t hear from each other.

Ha cercato di parlargli. She tried to tell him that things had started going downhill and how he wasn’t the same person he used to be. She tried so hard to open his eyes.

Alla fine della giornata, era la sua anima gemella, il suo compagno di vita, la persona con cui vedeva il suo futuro.

Despite what everyone else thought, she didn’t just give up on him. She really tried, but he didn’t see the same things she did.

Per lui era tutto a posto. Non c'era bisogno di lavorare su nulla. Ha detto che erano buono e di come fosse solo paranoica.

And then he went off and didn’t reply to her messages for hours and when he finally did, it was just a one-word message. Something was off, but he didn’t care to fix it.

Perhaps he thought he’d still have her, even when he stopped putting any effort into their relationship. But he was wrong.

Per tanto tempo ha cercato di infilarsi nei suoi programmi. Per tanto tempo è stata piegarsi all'indietro che lui si accorgesse di lei. Sembrava che stesse morendo solo per avere un po' del suo tempo.

She really tried. But she didn’t manage to succeed.

Alla fine, quando ha visto che lui aveva smesso di fare di lei la sua priorità, ha rinunciato a cercare di esserlo. Ha rinunciato a chiamarlo, ha rinunciato a mandargli continuamente messaggi, ha rinunciato a cercare di farsi notare da lui.

She gave up on making plans because she knew he’d cancel them last minute anyway.

Now it’s time for people to understand that obiettivi di relazione sono più che mettere un hashtag sotto una foto carina su Instagram.

It’s making time for the person who loves you even when your schedule is crazy.

It’s responding as soon as you see a message because it’s not like those thirty seconds will harm your work. It’s constantly trying to keep the love burning and not just hoping things will work even when you don’t try.

Si rese conto che doveva smettere di sforzarsi così tanto per qualcuno che si era arreso molto tempo fa.

She realized she should stop tearing her self-worth down for a man who didn’t even notice her anymore.

She realized that she should stop trying too. That way, in case she meant anything to him, he’d notice her pulling away and reach back to her.

E se la lasciava andare facilmente, significava che gli stava bene perderla.

If he didn’t reach out to her, if he didn’t hear the wake-up call, it meant she had done right when she chose to stop trying.

Because regardless of how much it hurts, it’s always better to break yourself once by leaving than to allow yourself to be broken every day by letting him take you for granted.

When you have to fight to be someone’s priority, then that’s a sign that it’s time to invest your efforts into a relationship with someone who you won’t need to beg to make time for you but with someone who’s going to give it to you willingly and on his own.

Sometimes when others aren’t willing to make you their priority it’s your task to make yourself a priority and take care of yourself.

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