6 maneiras poderosas de tirar o seu relacionamento de uma fase difícil

A vossa relação parece diferente daquilo a que estão habituados. Estão a acontecer coisas que nunca aconteceram antes.

You’re feeling so many new, negative emotions and don’t know what to think or how to react to them.

If this is a description of how you’re feeling right now, you should read our heartfelt advice on how to save your relationship.

Accept that there’s something going on

When people are in a happy, committed relationship and they encounter difficulties, it’s hard for them to accept that there’s something disturbing their peaceful romance. 

What happens is that they go through a whole lot of denial before they decide to come clean to themselves and their partner that something’s wrong.

Admitir que tem um problema sempre foi e sempre será o primeiro passo para o resolver. Reúna os seus pensamentos e diga a si próprio que ter problemas é normal, independentemente do quanto está apaixonado pelo seu parceiro.

Having difficulties doesn’t mean you’re not a good couple or that you don’t have a future together, it just means you have to find a way to get through them.

A comunicação é fundamental

Of course, you’re not supposed to solve everything on your own. You have to talk to your partner. Tell them exactly how you feel.

Encontrar uma forma de comunicar o que acha que causou esta fase difícil na vossa relação e aguarde a resposta.

Incentive o seu parceiro a ajudar a resolver esta situação difícil em vez de o atacar ou de o fazer sentir-se culpado.

There’s a good chance that you both played your own part in getting here so make sure they know you’re not blaming them for everything and you’re taking your part of the responsibility.

Manter-se positivo

Don’t let negativity rule over you.

Of course you’re feeling many negative emotions such as disappointment, fear, confusion… still, stay aware that they are only a part of what you’re feeling and aren’t bigger or stronger than what you have with your partner.

Tell yourself and your partner that this tricky time will pass, and don’t let yourself fall into a well of negativity.

If you go down that road, there’s a good chance you won’t be able to save your relationship. Choose to think positive, your love deserves that.

Don’t make any rash decisions

During this time, there’ll be a voice in your head that will emphasize every single flaw or weakness your partner has ever shown.

A voz maléfica dir-lhe-á que você e o seu parceiro nunca foram feitos um para o outro e que deve pensar em encontrar outra pessoa.

Do your best not to listen to it. It’s just your insecurities speaking up. It’s perfectly normal to have them, but you shouldn’t let them rule over your life.

Fale com o seu melhor amigo

Por vezes, precisamos de uma nova perspetiva para nos ajudar a sair da confusão de pensamentos e emoções em que nos encontramos.

Confide in your best friend and ask for their opinion. They’ll probably tell you things that you didn’t even think of and remind you of how amazing your relationship is.

You’ll get the motivation and encouragement you need to continue fighting for your love.

Aprofundar a intimidade emocional

Since you and your partner have hit a bump, you were either somewhat disconnected before or you’ve grown disconnected through this period of uncertainty.

Tente voltar ao tempo em que se sentiam como uma só pessoa. Visualizem os vossos dias mais gloriosos de ligação emocional e recriá-los.

A coisa mais importante que tem de fazer para ultrapassar os seus problemas é dar o seu melhor para restabelecer a ligação com o seu ente querido.

Don’t allow yourself to withdraw from them and don’t stop including them in your thought process, your emotions, and plans. 

You’re both in this together, two parts of a whole – fight for your unity.

Always keep in mind that just because your relationship isn’t perfect in every single moment that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worthy of your attention, time, and energy. Nothing functions perfectly all of the time.

Commitment, strength, and love are shown in the way you get through the difficult times. Remember that whenever you’re thinking of giving up.

You’ll get out of this stronger, happier, and more in love than ever before.