Your relationship seems different than what you’re used to. There are things happening that have never happened before.
You’re feeling so many new, negative emotions and don’t know what to think or how to react to them.
If this is a description of how you’re feeling right now, you should read our heartfelt advice on how to save your relationship.
Accept that there’s something going on
When people are in a happy, committed relationship and they encounter difficulties, it’s hard for them to accept that there’s something disturbing their peaceful romance.
What happens is that they go through a whole lot of denial before they decide to come clean to themselves and their partner that something’s wrong.
Admitting you have a problem has always been and always will be the first step to solving it. Gather your thoughts and tell yourself that having issues is normal, no matter how in love you are with your partner.
Having difficulties doesn’t mean you’re not a good couple or that you don’t have a future together, it just means you have to find a way to get through them.
Communication is key
Of course, you’re not supposed to solve everything on your own. You have to talk to your partner. Tell them exactly how you feel.
Find a way to communicate what you think has caused this rough patch in your relationship and wait for their response.
Encourage your partner to help solve this difficult situation rather than attack them or make them feel guilty.
There’s a good chance that you both played your own part in getting here so make sure they know you’re not blaming them for everything and you’re taking your part of the responsibility.
Don’t let negativity rule over you.
Of course you’re feeling many negative emotions such as disappointment, fear, confusion… still, stay aware that they are only a part of what you’re feeling and aren’t bigger or stronger than what you have with your partner.
Tell yourself and your partner that this tricky time will pass, and don’t let yourself fall into a well of negativity.
If you go down that road, there’s a good chance you won’t be able to save your relationship. Choose to think positive, your love deserves that.
Don’t make any rash decisions
During this time, there’ll be a voice in your head that will emphasize every single flaw or weakness your partner has ever shown.
The evil voice will be telling you that you and your partner were never ever meant for each other and that you should think about finding someone new.
Do your best not to listen to it. It’s just your insecurities speaking up. It’s perfectly normal to have them, but you shouldn’t let them rule over your life.
Talk to your best friend
Sometimes we need a fresh perspective to help us get out of the mess of thoughts and emotions we find ourselves experiencing.
Confide in your best friend and ask for their opinion. They’ll probably tell you things that you didn’t even think of and remind you of how amazing your relationship is.
You’ll get the motivation and encouragement you need to continue fighting for your love.
Deepen emotional intimacy
Since you and your partner have hit a bump, you were either somewhat disconnected before or you’ve grown disconnected through this period of uncertainty.
Try to go back to when you and your partner felt like one person. Envision your most glorious days of emotional connection and recreate them.
The most important thing you have to do while trying to overcome your problems is do your best to reconnect with your loved one.
Don’t allow yourself to withdraw from them and don’t stop including them in your thought process, your emotions, and plans.
You’re both in this together, two parts of a whole – fight for your unity.
Always keep in mind that just because your relationship isn’t perfect in every single moment that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worthy of your attention, time, and energy. Nothing functions perfectly all of the time.
Commitment, strength, and love are shown in the way you get through the difficult times. Remember that whenever you’re thinking of giving up.
You’ll get out of this stronger, happier, and more in love than ever before.