6 modi potenti per far uscire la vostra relazione da un momento difficile
La vostra relazione sembra diversa da quella a cui eravate abituati. Stanno accadendo cose che non sono mai accadute prima.
You’re feeling so many new, negative emotions and don’t know what to think or how to react to them.
If this is a description of how you’re feeling right now, you should read our heartfelt advice on how to save your relationship.
Accept that there’s something going on
When people are in a happy, committed relationship and they encounter difficulties, it’s hard for them to accept that there’s something disturbing their peaceful romance.
What happens is that they go through a whole lot of denial before they decide to come clean to themselves and their partner that something’s wrong.
Ammettere di avere un problema è sempre stato e sarà sempre il primo passo per risolverlo. Raccogliete i vostri pensieri e dite a voi stessi che avere dei problemi è normale, non importa quanto siate innamorati del vostro partner.
Having difficulties doesn’t mean you’re not a good couple or that you don’t have a future together, it just means you have to find a way to get through them.
La comunicazione è fondamentale
Of course, you’re not supposed to solve everything on your own. You have to talk to your partner. Tell them exactly how you feel.
Trova un modo per comunicare cosa pensate abbia causato questo momento difficile nella vostra relazione e aspettate la loro risposta.
Incoraggiate il vostro partner a contribuire a risolvere questa situazione difficile, piuttosto che attaccarlo o farlo sentire in colpa.
There’s a good chance that you both played your own part in getting here so make sure they know you’re not blaming them for everything and you’re taking your part of the responsibility.
Rimanere positivi
Don’t let negativity rule over you.
Of course you’re feeling many negative emotions such as disappointment, fear, confusion… still, stay aware that they are only a part of what you’re feeling and aren’t bigger or stronger than what you have with your partner.
Tell yourself and your partner that this tricky time will pass, and don’t let yourself fall into a well of negativity.
If you go down that road, there’s a good chance you won’t be able to save your relationship. Choose to think positive, your love deserves that.
Don’t make any rash decisions
During this time, there’ll be a voice in your head that will emphasize every single flaw or weakness your partner has ever shown.
La voce maligna vi dirà che voi e il vostro partner non siete mai stati fatti l'uno per l'altro e che dovreste pensare a trovare qualcun altro.
Do your best not to listen to it. It’s just your insecurities speaking up. It’s perfectly normal to have them, but you shouldn’t let them rule over your life.
Parlate con il vostro migliore amico
A volte abbiamo bisogno di una nuova prospettiva che ci aiuti a uscire dalla confusione di pensieri ed emozioni che ci troviamo a vivere.
Confide in your best friend and ask for their opinion. They’ll probably tell you things that you didn’t even think of and remind you of how amazing your relationship is.
You’ll get the motivation and encouragement you need to continue fighting for your love.
Approfondire l'intimità emotiva
Since you and your partner have hit a bump, you were either somewhat disconnected before or you’ve grown disconnected through this period of uncertainty.
Cercate di tornare indietro a quando voi e il vostro partner vi sentivate una persona sola. Immaginate i vostri giorni più gloriosi di connessione emotiva e ricrearli.
La cosa più importante da fare nel tentativo di superare i problemi è fare del proprio meglio per riallacciare i rapporti con la persona amata.
Don’t allow yourself to withdraw from them and don’t stop including them in your thought process, your emotions, and plans.
You’re both in this together, two parts of a whole – fight for your unity.
Always keep in mind that just because your relationship isn’t perfect in every single moment that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worthy of your attention, time, and energy. Nothing functions perfectly all of the time.
Commitment, strength, and love are shown in the way you get through the difficult times. Remember that whenever you’re thinking of giving up.
You’ll get out of this stronger, happier, and more in love than ever before.
