Sente-se um destroço emocional? (e como parar com isso)

A sensitive heart can be a heavy burden. Your heart is so fragile, so gentle, and so delicate that even the smallest things can disrupt its balance. But that’s okay.

You are crying now and you can’t focus your mind, right? I know the feeling.

That feeling where you’re choking on your own fears, emotions, and tears. It’s like your own body can’t handle itself. It’s an emotional state almost impossible to escape. 

Sometimes I feel like it’s just anxiety playing with me, or that it’s the people around me who are the only ones to blame for my emotions.

Mas, no final do dia, será que a causa é realmente importante? Ou será que a forma como se reage a ela é mais importante?

Can I just tell you: what I’ve learned that helps the most in these moments is accepting that minute of feeling lost and out of your mind.

Estamos sempre tão ocupados, queremos alcançar algo na nossa vida e stressamos com tudo.

Fazemos planos, organizamos as coisas e, à noite, adormecemos exaustos de todas as coisas que fizemos nesse dia.

At the end of the day, you completely ignore your mental health and can’t understand that you’re under a lot of unnecessary stress.  

But let me just tell you that being productive and following your dreams doesn’t always mean that your heart is protected.

Basta que uma pessoa na nossa vida diga algo antes de pensarmos ou faça algo que nos faça pensar se alguma vez nos amou, para que caiamos de joelhos e sintamos o coração a partir-se no peito.

Ele magoou-te. Ele fez-lhe isto. Quando olhas para trás, lembras-te do tempo em que estavas lá para ele quando ele estava tão perdido.

Deseja que ele esteja mesmo ao seu lado e a ajude a ultrapassar isto. Mas ele não está.

He’s not there with you and you know that he won’t even come.

You’ll be crying your eyes out for a while, but that is fine. You’ll feel that churning sensation like you’re about to throw up.

But it’s all normal. You shouldn’t be blaming yourself for this emotional moment.

Your mind is blank, isn’t it? You feel everything so deeply that your mind has shut itself down, because there’s nothing it can think at this moment to make you feel better.

Por isso, deixem-me ser eu a dizer-vos: Aceita-te pelo que és neste momento! É um destroço emocionalPor isso, abraça-o!

Quanto mais se tenta silenciar as emoções, mais se tenta escondê-las do mundo, mais danos causarão no vosso corpo, mente e alma. A destruição não é uma questão de segundos.

It’s a matter of months, or even worse – years. It’s so slow that you don’t notice it coming!

Os danos vão para além das lágrimas, porque continuarão a levar essas emoções consigo para onde quer que vão!

Isn’t it better to just let it all go? It feels awful right now, but in the morning you will feel relieved! You’ll feel lighter, like you have let go of a huge burden.

You shouldn’t be angry at yourself for feeling all of these things! You’ll only be adding another emotion, and anger aimed at yourself isn’t going to do you any good right now.

O que precisas agora é de incondicionalidade, amor duradouro para si! Precisas disso agora mais do que nunca.

You need to realize that even though it’s harder to breathe through all these tears, even though your face is swollen and blotchy, there’s still no reason for you to not love yourself.

Quando acordar de manhã, com aquelas bolsas debaixo dos olhos, vai lembrar-se de como se sentiu e respeitar-se o suficiente para não deixar que isso lhe aconteça novamente.

You won’t let anyone treat you that way again, because dói demasiado ser desiludido por alguém que amámos com a nossa totalidade.

But at this moment, it’s better to let it all out than to  drag it along with you, because you’ll meet someone and want to give them everything, but you won’t be able to due to your emotions being held inside for so long.

That’s why you have to let go of all of it. And this is how you’re going to achieve that estado natural de tranquilidade.

Como deixar de ser um destroço emocional: 

1. Distrair-se 

Todos sabemos que quando não temos nada para fazer, pensamos em coisas.

Quanto mais pensamos, mais nos preocupamos. A ansiedade entra em ação e começamos a pensar demais. 

Therefore, if you’re determined to avoid becoming an emotional wreck, the smartest move you can pull is to distract yourself.

Find something to do on social media – there are always interesting things on every platform. 

Google things you’ve always been interested in, but never quite investigated. Try things for the first time – you never know what you might like.

Maybe exactly that turns out to be your new hobby that will help to distract you and enable you to move on from the terrible emotional state you’re in. 

2. Manter a negatividade afastada 

Are you in a toxic relationship? Break up – it’s not as hard as you think. Get rid of all the things that are causing you pain in life. No one is forcing you to be unhappy. 

A negatividade de que se rodeou só o está a puxar para o fundo do poço.

It’s so dark there… when you hit rock bottom. Sadly, many never find their way back to the top. They get stuck in. 

Why you made certain choices is your secret to keep. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.

No fim de contas, será que tem mesmo de se explicar por querer que a sua vida se torne menos miserável? 

3. Culpa quem tens de culpar

Although this doesn’t look quite healthy at first, in-depth it really is. By blaming someone, but only platonically blaming, you’re doing yourself a favor and you’re healing faster.

It’s always easier to point your finger at someone and blame them for your problems. 

The end result of this is – you appear to become a victim because it’s not your fault, it’s someone else’s.

Se as coisas vão tão longe antes de perceber que deve assumir os seus próprios erros, então está potencialmente numa situação perigosa de auto-ilusão. 

If you have a close friend, you should use them now to snap you out of this while it’s still not too late. 

4. Analisar a sua situação

By analyzing what has happened to you, you’ll be able to find a solution to feel better.

Succeeding in achieving that is called personal growth – when you finally realize by yourself what is best for you and which way you have to go to fulfill things you’ve dreamed of.

For example, you’ve gone through something extremely painful. Now, you’re dealing with it, but instead of lying back and letting what happened to you disappear, you’re obsessing with it.

You put so much pressure on yourself that at some point you become a loner. You refuse to hang out with anyone because you’re only stuck in your head. 

You’re only thinking about what happened to you over and over again. Do you really think that things would be different if you knew about the betrayal or that person’s intentions towards you?

Tens de decidir melhorar. Tens de sair do buraco negro para onde esse estado emocional hediondo te está a puxar.

Porque um dia, quando conheceres alguém que mereça completamente cada pedacinho de ti, vais arrepender-te de não teres sido capaz de lhe dar tudo o que és.