Vi sentite un relitto emotivo? (E come fermarlo)

A sensitive heart can be a heavy burden. Your heart is so fragile, so gentle, and so delicate that even the smallest things can disrupt its balance. But that’s okay.

You are crying now and you can’t focus your mind, right? I know the feeling.

That feeling where you’re choking on your own fears, emotions, and tears. It’s like your own body can’t handle itself. It’s an emotional state almost impossible to escape. 

Sometimes I feel like it’s just anxiety playing with me, or that it’s the people around me who are the only ones to blame for my emotions.

Ma alla fine dei conti, conta davvero la causa? O conta di più il modo in cui si reagisce?

Can I just tell you: what I’ve learned that helps the most in these moments is accepting that minute of feeling lost and out of your mind.

Siete sempre così impegnati, volete ottenere qualcosa nella vostra vita e vi stressate per ogni cosa.

Si fanno piani, si organizzano le cose e la sera ci si addormenta esausti per tutte le cose fatte quel giorno.

At the end of the day, you completely ignore your mental health and can’t understand that you’re under a lot of unnecessary stress.  

But let me just tell you that being productive and following your dreams doesn’t always mean that your heart is protected.

Basta che una persona nella vostra vita dica qualcosa prima di pensare o faccia qualcosa che vi faccia chiedere se vi ha mai amato, perché cadiate in ginocchio e sentiate il cuore spezzarsi nel petto.

Ti ha fatto del male. Ti ha fatto questo. Quando ci ripensate, vi ricordate di quella volta che eravate lì per lui quando era così perso.

Vorresti che fosse accanto a te e che ti aiutasse a superare questa situazione. Ma non è così.

He’s not there with you and you know that he won’t even come.

You’ll be crying your eyes out for a while, but that is fine. You’ll feel that churning sensation like you’re about to throw up.

But it’s all normal. You shouldn’t be blaming yourself for this emotional moment.

Your mind is blank, isn’t it? You feel everything so deeply that your mind has shut itself down, because there’s nothing it can think at this moment to make you feel better.

Quindi lasciate che sia io a dirvelo: Accettatevi per quello che siete in questo momento! Lei è un naufragio emotivoQuindi accettatelo!

Più si cerca di mettere a tacere le proprie emozioni, più si cerca di nasconderle al mondo, più danni causeranno sul corpo, sulla mente e sull'anima. La distruzione non è una questione di secondi.

It’s a matter of months, or even worse – years. It’s so slow that you don’t notice it coming!

Il danno andrà oltre le lacrime perché continuerete a portare con voi quelle emozioni ovunque andiate!

Isn’t it better to just let it all go? It feels awful right now, but in the morning you will feel relieved! You’ll feel lighter, like you have let go of a huge burden.

You shouldn’t be angry at yourself for feeling all of these things! You’ll only be adding another emotion, and anger aimed at yourself isn’t going to do you any good right now.

Ciò di cui avete bisogno ora è incondizionato, amore duraturo per voi stessi! Ne avete bisogno ora più che mai.

You need to realize that even though it’s harder to breathe through all these tears, even though your face is swollen and blotchy, there’s still no reason for you to not love yourself.

Quando vi sveglierete la mattina, con quelle borse sotto gli occhi, ricorderete come vi siete sentiti e rispetterete voi stessi abbastanza da non permettere che vi succeda di nuovo.

You won’t let anyone treat you that way again, because fa troppo male di essere delusi da qualcuno che si amava nella sua interezza.

But at this moment, it’s better to let it all out than to  drag it along with you, because you’ll meet someone and want to give them everything, but you won’t be able to due to your emotions being held inside for so long.

That’s why you have to let go of all of it. And this is how you’re going to achieve that stato naturale di agio.

Come smettere di essere un relitto emotivo: 

1. Distrarsi 

Sappiamo tutti che quando non si ha nulla da fare, si pensa alle cose.

Più si pensa, più ci si preoccupa. L'ansia si fa sentire e si inizia a pensare troppo. 

Therefore, if you’re determined to avoid becoming an emotional wreck, the smartest move you can pull is to distract yourself.

Find something to do on social media – there are always interesting things on every platform. 

Google things you’ve always been interested in, but never quite investigated. Try things for the first time – you never know what you might like.

Maybe exactly that turns out to be your new hobby that will help to distract you and enable you to move on from the terrible emotional state you’re in. 

2. Tenere lontana la negatività 

Are you in a toxic relationship? Break up – it’s not as hard as you think. Get rid of all the things that are causing you pain in life. No one is forcing you to be unhappy. 

La negatività di cui ti sei circondato non fa che trascinarti verso il fondo.

It’s so dark there… when you hit rock bottom. Sadly, many never find their way back to the top. They get stuck in. 

Why you made certain choices is your secret to keep. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.

Alla fine, dovete davvero spiegarvi perché volete che la vostra vita diventi meno miserabile? 

3. Incolpare chi deve essere incolpato

Although this doesn’t look quite healthy at first, in-depth it really is. By blaming someone, but only platonically blaming, you’re doing yourself a favor and you’re healing faster.

It’s always easier to point your finger at someone and blame them for your problems. 

The end result of this is – you appear to become a victim because it’s not your fault, it’s someone else’s.

Se si arriva a questo punto prima di rendersi conto di dover ammettere i propri errori, ci si trova potenzialmente in una situazione pericolosa di auto-illusione. 

If you have a close friend, you should use them now to snap you out of this while it’s still not too late. 

4. Analizzare la propria situazione

By analyzing what has happened to you, you’ll be able to find a solution to feel better.

Succeeding in achieving that is called personal growth – when you finally realize by yourself what is best for you and which way you have to go to fulfill things you’ve dreamed of.

For example, you’ve gone through something extremely painful. Now, you’re dealing with it, but instead of lying back and letting what happened to you disappear, you’re obsessing with it.

You put so much pressure on yourself that at some point you become a loner. You refuse to hang out with anyone because you’re only stuck in your head. 

You’re only thinking about what happened to you over and over again. Do you really think that things would be different if you knew about the betrayal or that person’s intentions towards you?

Dovete decidere di stare meglio. Dovete uscire dal buco nero in cui vi sta trascinando quell'orribile stato emotivo.

Perché un giorno, quando incontrerete qualcuno che merita completamente ogni piccolo pezzo di voi, rimpiangerete di non essere riusciti a dargli tutto quello che siete.