Leia isto se já esteve numa situação de fracasso

As separações são difíceis, não há dúvida. Perdemos a pessoa de quem gostamos muito e, de repente, temos de aprender a viver sem ela.

It doesn’t matter who initiated the end of your relationship – whenever it happens, it’s painful for both parties.

Even if you’re the one who happened to stop loving your romantic partner, you can’t help but feel sorry for the fact that you two had to say your final goodbyes.

However, if you’re honest, you’ll see that breakups happen all the time.

This might sound harsh, but the truth is that every couple who doesn’t end up married or as life partners, has to part ways sooner or later.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that statistically speaking, most of your romantic relationships will end up with breakups. Sadly, it’s all a part of life and something we all have to face.

Nevertheless, what can be even worse is when you end things with someone you weren’t even really a couple with.

Passar por um fracasso situação é muito mais doloroso do que uma relação falhada.

Sei que muitos vão discordar de mim neste ponto, mas acreditem em mim quando digo que it’s quite possible to miss someone you never actually had.

You don’t only miss this person, you suffer even more for the potential your romance might have had.

Chora por todas as coisas que podia e devia ter feito. Todas as coisas que imaginou ao lado deste homem, todos os planos futuros que tinha e o facto de que nada disso se tornará realidade.

If you’ve ever been in a failed situationship, you’ll know that it leaves the most devastating consequences on your self-esteem.

Whether you like to admit it or not, you’re not only hurt by the fact that you have to go on without this man, but you’re also devastated that he never had the decency to choose you for real.

Depois de todo este tempo que passaram juntos, ele nunca te chamou namorada. Nunca pegou na tua mão e te apresentou orgulhosamente a todos os seus amigos e familiares.

Ele nunca quis comprometer-se e continuava a recusar-se a pôr um rótulo na vossa relação. Vocês nunca foram exclusivos e nunca soube qual era a sua posição em relação a ele.

Então, you assume that you can’t expect anything more or better from any other man.

You’re clearly not meant to be loved, and you’ll never be enough for a guy to prioritize you and make you the only woman in his life.

Well, let me tell you that you can’t be more wrong. Just because you had one situationship like this, it doesn’t mean that you can’t form a real relationship.

I know that this sounds like I’m trying to comfort you, but believe me on this one: It’s not you, it’s him.

It was never your fault that this immature boy didn’t have the capacity to give you what you deserve.

You’re not to blame for the fact that he didn’t know what he wanted and couldn’t make up his mind about you.

I won’t lie to you. You’re guilty of allowing him to keep treating you like this, after realizing that he’ll never be the man you need. I get it.

Esperava que ele mudasse, mas tudo continuava na mesma.

No entanto, não vale a pena estar agora a pensar no passado. O que aconteceu, aconteceu, e tudo o que se pode fazer é aprender com isso.

Em vez de deixar que esta experiência o arruíne de forma irreparável, tome-a como uma lição. Aprenda a evitar o tipo de homens que são claramente jogadores e que, obviamente, vão esmagar o vosso coração.

Mais importante ainda, ensinar-se a nunca se contentar com menos do que merece. Realize that it’s not acceptable to be someone’s last resort and don’t let another man ever treat you as such.

Só quando atingirem esta mentalidade é que verão que o fim desta situação é certamente não é o fim da sua vida – it’s actually a chance for your new beginning.

Only then will you be ready to meet a man who won’t just treat you like his first choice, but his one and only choice.

A man who will always be sure about you, won’t have any doubts about his feelings and will make you feel safe and loved.