Para a rapariga que precisa de parar de tentar salvar pessoas tóxicas
It’s a hard thing to realize that you’re attracting toxic people—let alone realizing that you’re trying to save them, too. You’re someone who knows you were born to help others.
Sabes que fazer com que as pessoas encontrem os seus caminhos e se tornem as pessoas que sempre estiveram destinadas a ser está no teu sangue. Mas também sabes que há um limite que, por alguma razão, é sempre ultrapassado.
É o tipo de pessoa que poria a sua vida em risco para salvar alguém.
And even though that’s an amazing trait, it leaves you open to being taken advantage of and hurt constantly—which you’ve had to deal with plenty of times before.
The thing is though, you don’t need to deal with it from toxic people.
You don’t need to stop helping people, but you do need to stop trying to help pessoas tóxicas. You have to start deciding: who deserves you in their life and who doesn’t?
A parte mais difícil de ser um poupador e uma pessoa que faria qualquer coisa para ajudar outra pessoa é que damos demasiado de nós próprios.
And you don’t ask for anything in return—which leaves you hurting and empty after an encounter with a toxic person.
Tens de te concentrar em ti e no que precisas, bem como no que os outros precisam. Está tão inclinado a colocar os outros em primeiro lugar que se esquece de como é importante cuidar de si próprio e das suas necessidades.
Life is too short to not be enjoying it. And yes, saving people is just what you do, but you can’t save toxic people.
Toxic people will drain, manipulate, and hurt you—no matter how much they need help and someone in their corner. That person can not be you.
You’re too kind, too giving, and you have a hard time standing up for yourself. Now this is in no way bad.
Mas quando uma pessoa tóxica se apodera de nós, pode mudar-nos para pior.
Começam a fazer-nos sentir zangados e magoados com o dom que temos. Fazem-nos sentir que o mundo não tem esperança e que tudo o que as pessoas fazem é magoar-nos e usar-nos.
You’ll go down a path that will kill you from the inside out. And it will be terribly hard to find the person you used to be—the one who only ever wanted to help others.
It’s going to be hard to say no. These people are going to make you want to cave in and want to help them, but you know all too well what will happen.
So, please stay strong. Don’t let people who don’t care about your amazing outlook on the world and its people change you. Só o farão sentir-se miserável.
Toxic people will always be toxic. It’s something they have inside that won’t change unless they change it themselves.
E quando se trata de pessoas como tu, pessoas que têm um coração de ouro, eles aproveitam-se de ti o mais que podem.
Because deep down, they wish that your heart was theirs, and they wish that the world wasn’t so cruel to them and so good to you.
Little do they know, it’s not the world who’s been cruel, it is them.
But they end up trying to make you a cruel person because they are jealous. It’s a cycle that isn’t fair, but you can stop it.
Quando conhecemos uma pessoa tóxica, independentemente de a amarmos ou não, temos de a deixar.
You need to remind yourself that your gift of helping people needs to go to those who deserve it—the people who always give something back.
These are the people who will appreciate you and all you do for them and will never make you feel hurt or like you aren’t getting anything in return.
Your life, and everyone’s for that matter, is hard enough as it is. So, stop trying to fix those who don’t want to be fixed.
It will save you so much heartache and it will remind you that some people don’t deserve someone as good as you in their lives.
por Nicole Clements
