Alla ragazza che ha bisogno di smettere di cercare di salvare le persone tossiche
It’s a hard thing to realize that you’re attracting toxic people—let alone realizing that you’re trying to save them, too. You’re someone who knows you were born to help others.
Sapete che far sì che le persone trovino la loro strada e diventino le persone che sono sempre state destinate a essere è nel vostro sangue. Ma sapete anche che c'è un limite che, per qualche motivo, viene sempre superato.
Lei è il tipo di persona che metterebbe a rischio la propria vita per salvare chiunque.
And even though that’s an amazing trait, it leaves you open to being taken advantage of and hurt constantly—which you’ve had to deal with plenty of times before.
The thing is though, you don’t need to deal with it from toxic people.
You don’t need to stop helping people, but you do need to stop trying to help persone tossiche. You have to start deciding: who deserves you in their life and who doesn’t?
La parte più difficile dell'essere un risparmiatore e una persona che farebbe di tutto per aiutare qualcun altro è che si dà troppo di sé stessi.
And you don’t ask for anything in return—which leaves you hurting and empty after an encounter with a toxic person.
Dovete concentrarvi su voi stessi e su ciò di cui avete bisogno, oltre che su ciò di cui hanno bisogno gli altri. Siete così inclini a mettere gli altri al primo posto che dimenticate quanto sia importante prendervi cura di voi stessi e di ciò di cui avete bisogno.
Life is too short to not be enjoying it. And yes, saving people is just what you do, but you can’t save toxic people.
Toxic people will drain, manipulate, and hurt you—no matter how much they need help and someone in their corner. That person can not be you.
You’re too kind, too giving, and you have a hard time standing up for yourself. Now this is in no way bad.
Ma una volta che una persona tossica si impossessa di voi, può cambiarvi in peggio.
Cominciano a farvi sentire arrabbiati e feriti per il dono che avete. Vi fanno sentire come se il mondo fosse senza speranza e tutto ciò che chiunque farà sarà solo ferirvi e usarvi.
You’ll go down a path that will kill you from the inside out. And it will be terribly hard to find the person you used to be—the one who only ever wanted to help others.
It’s going to be hard to say no. These people are going to make you want to cave in and want to help them, but you know all too well what will happen.
So, please stay strong. Don’t let people who don’t care about your amazing outlook on the world and its people change you. Vi renderanno solo infelici.
Toxic people will always be toxic. It’s something they have inside that won’t change unless they change it themselves.
E quando si tratta di persone come voi, persone che hanno un cuore d'oro, si approfittano di voi il più possibile.
Because deep down, they wish that your heart was theirs, and they wish that the world wasn’t so cruel to them and so good to you.
Little do they know, it’s not the world who’s been cruel, it is them.
But they end up trying to make you a cruel person because they are jealous. It’s a cycle that isn’t fair, but you can stop it.
Quando si incontra una persona tossica, indipendentemente dal fatto che la si ami o meno, bisogna andarsene.
You need to remind yourself that your gift of helping people needs to go to those who deserve it—the people who always give something back.
These are the people who will appreciate you and all you do for them and will never make you feel hurt or like you aren’t getting anything in return.
Your life, and everyone’s for that matter, is hard enough as it is. So, stop trying to fix those who don’t want to be fixed.
It will save you so much heartache and it will remind you that some people don’t deserve someone as good as you in their lives.
di Nicole Clements
