Não permitas que alguém te trate mal só porque gostas dele

O senso comum de toda a gente diz-lhes que não devem tolerar que as pessoas os magoem.

If your friend was in a bad relationship where a guy treated her poorly, you’d be the first to tell her to call it quits.

No matter how much she loved the guy, you’d know that her place is not next to him.

Porque é que é tão difícil perceber que a pessoa que amamos nos está a tratar mal e porque é que é ainda mais difícil deixar de permitir que isso aconteça?

Love can make us blind, that’s true. Loving someone can make us idealize everything good they do. And then when they do something wrong, we end up making excuses for them.

You weren’t born into this world to waste your energy, good heart, and love on someone who doesn’t appreciate you.

Comece a amar-se a si próprio e a cuidar do seu bem-estar, e as coisas começarão a desenrolar-se para si.

Let’s take off the blindfold love has put over our eyes and try to see things clearly for once.

If they don’t answer when you call them and never even apologize, that’s not right.

If you wait for hours before they answer a simple message, that’s not right.

If they’re never there for you, no matter the reason you need them, that’s not right.

If they can’t find the time or energy to participate in your life, that’s not right.

If the person you’re with can’t seem to respect, support, and love you the way they’re supposed to – that sure isn’t right.

We don’t want to think badly of the person we’ve given so much to. We want them good, pure, and perfect in our minds.

That’s why we never let ourselves confess they are actually treating us quite poorly.

Perceber e confessar que alguém o está a magoar com o seu comportamento é o primeiro passo para resolver este enorme problema.

No matter how much you love someone, you can’t let them break you apart.

Love can’t be one-sided. If you love them, they should love you back, right? If they loved you, would they hurt you? Absolutely not.

A pessoa que o ama verdadeiramente terá sempre em mente os seus melhores interesses. A pessoa que se preocupa nunca o magoará intencionalmente.

Se alguém continua a tratar-nos de uma forma que nunca trataríamos e continuamos a perdoar-lhe, agora é o momento de quebrar esse ciclo vicioso.

Ninguém nos pode magoar, por muito que nos queiram mal.

Would you ever do bad things to someone you love? Sure you wouldn’t. Then, why do you let someone do that to you?

I know you find many reasons to explain them hurting you in a way that makes it seem less important and like it’s not even their fault.

Essas acções maliciosas não só são importantes, como também são cruciais para a sua autoestima e para a sua felicidade futura.

They take your trust and sincerity and they toss it all away, making it seem like you’re the less important person in the relationship.

I wonder how they would feel if you did the same thing to them?! Would they forgive you? I’m pretty sure not.

I’m quite sure they’re constantly apologizing to you, asking your forgiveness. Well, let me tell you something: An apology that doesn’t come with changed behavior é só conversa fiada.

I’m also guessing that if by any chance you choose to actually stand your ground and show them you’re no longer putting up with their shit, they will make you feel bad for being angry at them.

This is the kind of toxic person you don’t want in your life. They might have you believing they will change, but they won’t!

Poderá estar a pensar em dar-lhes uma segunda oportunidade, mas posso dizer-lhe desde já que qualquer oportunidade que lhes dê será desperdiçada.