Nunca invista em alguém que não está a persegui-lo
Aquele sorriso quando mandas uma mensagem a alguém de quem gostas, aquelas chamadas longas, aqueles algumas datas que eram espantosos, esses pequenos e simples esforços faziam-nos felizes para além do imaginável.
Onde é que essas coisas foram parar de repente?
Something that started off great is slipping through your fingers and you don’t know how to hold onto it.
Alguém que investiu totalmente no início começou a afastar-se. Sente-se perdido e ninguém o pode censurar.
Ele aparece e depois desaparece da sua caixa de entrada e da sua vida.
As suas mensagens começam a aparecer em intervalos aleatórios, não todos os dias como antes.
He makes last-minute plans to see you. He snaps you when you think he’s already forgotten you.
Ele espera que saltes para os seus braços quando ele achar conveniente.
Likewise, he believes it shouldn’t bother you when he doesn’t feel like being a part of your life and starts ignoring you all of a sudden.
You can’t make sense out of the situation you’re in. He is and isn’t a part of your life at the same time and it’s driving you crazy.
He’s the main topic of all of the conversations you have with your friends.
He’s on your mind 24/7 and you can’t help yourself.
Analisa o seu comportamento e consulta os seus textos antigos, à procura de pistas sobre a razão pela qual tudo começou a descambar.
So you try harder. You’re always there when he calls.
You send that followup text or you always text first. You make all the effort while he does absolutely nothing. And it’s time you stop.
You see, him not chasing you makes you want him even more, and that’s the curse we’ve all suffered from at some point in our love lives.
It’s like a fault in our DNA that makes us want someone that’s simply out of reach.
That’s something that needs to be fixed, ASAP. Life is too short to allow someone to treat you as a game.
Nunca deixes que alguém te dê migalhas enquanto estiveres a apostar tudo. It’s time to break that curse.
It’s time to remember what you deserve. Yes, it’s time to parar de o perseguir.
It’s time for you to remind yourself what you’re made of and just how worthy of someone’s efforts you are.
Love is about “give and take” and you can’t be the only one giving and giving and giving all the time.
Tem de ser nos dois sentidos. É preciso tirar tanto quanto se está a investir. Por isso, mudem as vossas maneiras.
Don’t act unavailable, actually be unavailable.
The truth is when you bend over backward to please a man, you’re not giving him the impression that you are a mulher de elevado valor e o seu interesse começa a diminuir rapidamente.
Ser uma mulher que tem uma vida própria para levar.
Uma vida cheia de interesses e de coisas divertidas para fazer, e nunca as cancelar só porque ele liga do nada.
Ouçam o que ele diz e prestem atenção ao que ele faz.
If he is more interested in how you look naked than in how you feel and what you’re about, he isn’t worth your time.
If he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, believe him and stay away.
Follow his lead – invest as much as he is investing and not an ounce more.
If he has genuine feelings for you, as soon as you lower your investments, he’ll start chasing because he’ll be scared to lose you.
As soon as you tell him that you can’t see him because you have better things to do, he’ll start to plan ahead and schedule an actual date.
As soon as you stop responding immediately to his late texts, he’ll make an effort to text back in time.
If he doesn’t go after you, if he isn’t capable of meeting you halfway, then he’s not worth your time.
You see, it’s not about tactics and playing mind games.
It’s not about figuring out his mixed signals and tolerating him treating you like you aren’t important.
You are important. You are worthy of someone who’s able to give you a chance for true love.
That’s why there is only one rule you should follow when it comes to your love life:
Have standards and don’t invest your heart, your body, or your soul in someone who isn’t investing in you.
