Non investite mai in qualcuno che non vi sta inseguendo

Quel sorriso mentre mandi un messaggio a qualcuno di cui sei innamorato, quelle lunghe telefonate, quei poche date che erano incredibili, quei piccoli e semplici sforzi ti rendevano felice oltre ogni aspettativa. 

Dove sono finite quelle cose all'improvviso? 

Something that started off great is slipping through your fingers and you don’t know how to hold onto it.

Qualcuno che ha investito completamente all'inizio ha iniziato ad allontanarsi. Vi sentite persi e nessuno può biasimarvi. 

Appare e scompare dalla vostra casella di posta e dalla vostra vita. 

I suoi messaggi iniziano ad arrivare a intervalli casuali, non più ogni giorno come prima.

He makes last-minute plans to see you. He snaps you when you think he’s already forgotten you. 

Si aspetta che vi buttiate tra le sue braccia quando lo ritiene opportuno.

Likewise, he believes it shouldn’t bother you when he doesn’t feel like being a part of your life and starts ignoring you all of a sudden. 

You can’t make sense out of the situation you’re in. He is and isn’t a part of your life at the same time and it’s driving you crazy. 

He’s the main topic of all of the conversations you have with your friends.

He’s on your mind 24/7 and you can’t help yourself.

Analizzate il suo comportamento e sfogliate i suoi vecchi messaggi, alla ricerca di indizi sul motivo per cui tutto è iniziato ad andare a rotoli. 

So you try harder. You’re always there when he calls.

You send that followup text or you always text first. You make all the effort while he does absolutely nothing.  And it’s time you stop. 

You see, him not chasing you makes you want him even more, and that’s the curse we’ve all suffered from at some point in our love lives. 

It’s like a fault in our DNA that makes us want someone that’s simply out of reach.

That’s something that needs to be fixed, ASAP.  Life is too short to allow someone to treat you as a game.

Non permettete mai a qualcuno di darvi le briciole mentre siete tutti dentro.  It’s time to break that curse. 

It’s time to remember what you deserve. Yes, it’s time to smettete di inseguirlo. 

It’s time for you to remind yourself what you’re made of and just how worthy of someone’s efforts you are. 

Love is about “give and take” and you can’t be the only one giving and giving and giving all the time.

Deve andare in entrambe le direzioni. Dovete prendere tanto quanto investite. Quindi cambiate strada. 

Don’t act unavailable, actually be unavailable. 

The truth is when you bend over backward to please a man, you’re not giving him the impression that you are a donna di alto valore e il suo interesse inizia a calare rapidamente. 

Essere una donna che ha una vita propria da condurre.

Una vita piena di interessi e di cose divertenti da fare, e non cancellarle mai solo perché lui chiama all'improvviso. 

Ascoltate ciò che dice e prestate attenzione a ciò che fa. 

If he is more interested in how you look naked than in how you feel and what you’re about, he isn’t worth your time. 

If he says he isn’t ready for a relationship and doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, believe him and stay away. 

Follow his lead – invest as much as he is investing and not an ounce more. 

If he has genuine feelings for you, as soon as you lower your investments, he’ll start chasing because he’ll be scared to lose you. 

As soon as you tell him that you can’t see him because you have better things to do, he’ll start to plan ahead and schedule an actual date. 

As soon as you stop responding immediately to his late texts, he’ll make an effort to text back in time. 

If he doesn’t go after you, if he isn’t capable of meeting you halfway, then he’s not worth your time. 

You see, it’s not about tactics and playing mind games. 

It’s not about figuring out his mixed signals and tolerating him treating you like you aren’t important.  

You are important. You are worthy of someone who’s able to give you a chance for true love.

That’s why there is only one rule you should follow when it comes to your love life: 

Have standards and don’t invest your heart, your body, or your soul in someone who isn’t investing in you.