O meu marido ignora-me: 10 maneiras de o fazer abrir-se a si

Ninguém gosta de ser ignorado. Ser ignorado é como se alguém estivesse a negligenciar-nos como seres humanos, porque todos nós precisamos de atenção até um certo ponto.

When someone you don’t really know ignores you, it’s not such a big deal because you’re not that emotionally attached to that specific person.

But, if someone in your circle of friends or family ignores you, you start panicking because you don’t know what to do or how to feel about it. It is especially painful if the person who ignores you is your husband.

O MEU MARIDO IGNORA-ME

Se lhe apetecer o seu marido ignora-a to the extent that you don’t remember the last time the two of you had a decent conversation, you have a problem. Do you feel humiliated thinking that something’s wrong with you?

Or you feel like he isn’t paying attention anymore like he used to?

Lack of communication is a serious issue when it comes to marriage because it is the essence of your bond. If you two cannot communicate properly, you’re subconsciously creating a gap in your marriage.

A depressão, a humilhação e o aborrecimento são sintomas de uma falta de comunicação. Por isso, se quer salvar o seu casamento, encontrar uma solução é da maior importância.

10 MANEIRAS DE FAZER COM QUE ELE SE ABRA CONSIGO

1. Descubra os interesses dele para o envolver mais numa conversa

 

Os homens são muito difíceis quando se trata de comunicar. Se quer que ele se abra consigo, tem de encontrar uma forma de o fazer participar mais nas conversas. Primeiro, pense nos interesses e passatempos dele.

Are there any specific activities that he enjoys doing in his free time? Does he collect vintage toy cars perhaps or stamps? Does he play the guitar? If yes, ask him about the progress of that certain activity to show him that you’re interested in what is going on in his life.

If you’re not sure how to initiate a conversation on a specific activity, just Google it beforehand. I’m sure he will be more than happy to start talking to you because when we are passionate about something, our brains simply light up at the mention of that specific thing.

O segredo é tornar o tema interessante para ele. Se o fizer, metade do seu trabalho está feito.

2. Don’t interrupt him while he’s talking

Quando conseguir que o seu homem fale, não o interrompa, porque ele pode voltar a retirar-se e todo o seu esforço será em vão. Por isso, a melhor opção é deixá-lo falar e só intervir se sentir que ele está prestes a parar, porque os homens são muito sensíveis quando se trata de serem interrompidos.

Men are really hard to open up, but once they’re engaged in a conversation they enjoy, you will not be able to stop them.

3. Fazê-lo rir

Everyone thinks that only women are those who should be laughing at their partners’ jokes. But, the truth is men like to be treated the same way. Remember the time when you two started dating.

He probably enjoyed making you laugh all the time because it makes men feel like they’ve accomplished something. They want to feel like that, too.

Se uma mulher faz um homem rir, conquistou o seu coração instantaneamente. Por muito zangado que ele esteja e por muito ignorado que esteja, não conseguirá deixar de se rir.

It doesn’t have to be big. Simply make a funny comment about that guy on news or something similar. He will immediately cheer up because laughter is very soothing, and it deletes all the negative emotions he may be going through at the moment.

4. Surpreende-o!

Even though he’s ignoring you, do not give up on the idea of surprising him. Men like to be surprised just as women do.

It doesn’t matter if it is something trivial like his favorite bread or something spicier like a new sexy outfit. I know it is hard to even think of sex games when he is ignoring you, but if you don’t try, you can never know solve anything.

Join him in the shower, and I’m sure that he will not be able to reject you. Revive the old passion, and he will not only talk, he will start eating out of your hands.

Os homens são criaturas estranhas e, na maioria dos casos, a principal razão da sua retirada é o facto de sentirem a falta de paixão no seu casamento. Pode evitar que isso aconteça, apimentando a sua vida sexual de vez em quando.

That way he will be unable to ignore you because he knows that he will not get a piece of his favorite cake – you.

I know this is a little bit sneaky, but it’s how they function, and we just have to adapt to their shifty nature.

5. Falar com ele quando ele menos espera

In order to make him open up to you, you have to talk to your man when he least expects it. For example, he’s washing the car or perhaps the dishes and you subtly ask him random questions like: Gostaste do jogo?

You can use this situation to ask him more important questions – questions concerning why he is ignoring you. If you ask something that he isn’t expecting, he will subconsciously answer you without even realizing it.

But, don’t create a list of serious questions that you’re about to ask him when he least expect it. Don’t overdo it because he will get scared, and the situation will get even worse.

If you call your man to talk to him face to face, he will most definitely get scared of you and the possible conversation. Men don’t like direct conversations because they always think you’re going to attack them for something they have done.

Por isso, tens de o envolver em conversas indirectas, como descrito acima. Tem de o atrair para a sua caverna. Basta ter tato e estar sempre um passo à frente.

Leia a mente dele e ligue os pontos. Pense como um psicólogo e jogue sujo se for preciso, se isso o fizer abrir-se para si.

6. Tell him how you feel (but don’t attack him)

If everything above fails, don’t hesitate to talk to him directly. Whatever you do, just don’t attack him. Tell him gently your opinions about his behavior, and I’m sure you’ll succeed in making him understand you.

Here it is important the way you construct your statements. For example, don’t tell him: You’re ignoring me! I don’t know what to do anymore!

Even though you’re not attacking him directly, he may feel offended by it because of the statement’s structure. Instead, try with: You’re making me feel ignored. I’m not sure what to do about it.

This way you’re not attacking him, but you’re not indifferent either. You’re just telling him how he is making you feel. You’re not telling him what he is doing to you.

Certifique-se de que ele começará imediatamente a responder porque se sentirá mal e arrependido por a fazer sentir assim.

7. Don’t be an open book. Leave some things to the imagination!

Try using the same strategy he is forcing upon you, but you have to be very skillful and careful with how you’re going to do it. Act like you’re occupied all the time and too busy to notice him ignoring you.

Go out with your favorite people, have a drink or two and don’t answer his calls if he starts wondering where you are. And when you do answer his call, let him know that you’re having a wonderful time (without him), and ask him whether he wants to join you.

He will immediately abandon his man cave and start giving you attention because he knows that you’re good without him.

Instead concentrating on himself, he will give you his full attention which you’ve certainly deserved.

8. Manter-se positivo

I know it’s hard to manter-se positivo quando algo deste género acontece, mas faça o seu melhor e tente não se exaltar com isso. Se se zangar com o seu homem, ele vai ignorá-la ainda mais e vice-versa.

Don’t worry about a thing because every little thing is going to be alright (as Bob Marley would say). Understand that if you stay positive for a certain period of time, chances are higher that he’s going to open up to you.

We all know that no one wants to open up to someone who is all negative about the situation. So, positive thoughts are the best weapon one can use against his “enemy”.

Neste caso, o seu inimigo é o facto de ele o ignorar, e se continuar a ser persistente na resolução da situação, o inimigo desaparecerá sem mais nem menos.

9. Pedir a alguém para o ajudar

If you’ve tried everything and he’s still not giving you any clues that he’s about to open up to you, contact your friends to visit you. It is easier to resolve the issue when there’s a third person in the room.

The third person can have a better insight of the situation, and this will lead to a better understanding. Perhaps an even better solution is to contact his friends, and ask him them to tell you if they’ve noticed something unusual about your husband.

If they confirm it, try to persuade them to talk to him and tell you later if there’s something you should know about him.

10. Estar aberto ao perdão

If you succeed in making him open up to you, please be open to forgiveness. Whatever the reason be, I’m sure he will be more than happy to try to make it up to you.

When he tells you that he is sorry, don’t be stubborn and ignore him just to show that you can. Passive aggressive behavior is the worst enemy of marriage. If you want to save your marriage (and I know you do), then you have to learn to be open to forgiveness.

There will always be someone who sins and the other who has to forgive. Perhaps next time you’ll be the one who will ignore him and after, expect him to forgive you.

Lembrem-se de que o casamento é uma questão de compromisso com o outro. É uma construção complexa que consiste no amor, nos pecados e nos perdões.