5 sinais de que você pode ter hiperempatia
Ter a capacidade de simpatizar com os outros é uma coisa óptima. De facto, é um sinal de que é uma boa pessoa e que é tudo menos egoísta.
No entanto, há alguns casos em que a empatia se torna um problema para si pessoalmente. Casos em que começa a preocupar-se demasiado com as outras pessoas e com as suas experiências.
If this is something you can relate to, it’s likely that you’re suffering from a condition called hyper empathy. Here are 5 behavior patterns common for all hyper empaths out there.
1. A sua empatia tem impacto na sua saúde física
The main difference between hyper empaths and ‘regular’ empaths is in the reactions you have.
When you’re a regular empático, you’ll get incredibly sad when someone you love is going through a hard time, since you have an unusual ability to mirror other people’s feelings.
Also, you’re in touch with your emotional side, you are great at reading nonverbal signals and you’re good at giving advice, since you can walk in other people’s shoes.
Of course, all of these things are characteristic of hyper empaths as well. However, in your case, your condition doesn’t stop here.
In fact, the key difference lies in your physical reactions. You won’t just cry when you see another person crying and you won’t only get upset after you see someone in trouble.
Em vez disso, o seu corpo terá uma reação física a tudo isto, o que pode ter um impacto grave na sua saúde a longo prazo.
Therefore, hyper empaths are likely to feel sick or dizzy because of other people’s sadness or anger.
A tensão arterial sobe, perde-se o apetite e sente-se como se toda a força do corpo tivesse desaparecido num piscar de olhos.
2. You don’t know how to say no
Another thing which makes you a hyper empathetic person is your inability to say no. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you’ll always find time to be at someone’s beck and call.
It doesn’t matter how tired you are, you’ll find the strength to help a person in need. You have probably given others a hand a hundred times but you’ll do a hundredth and first as well, if they need you.
The key point here is that you’re not like this just toward your loved ones. Instead, you’re ready to help whoever might be in trouble, even if they don’t ask you to.
Infelizmente, muitas pessoas têm aproveitado dessa tua qualidade. Habituou-os a tê-lo sempre consigo e, por isso, estão sempre a chamá-lo para qualquer coisa. Naturalmente, a sua própria vida sofre com isso.
3. Perdoa demasiado facilmente
Outra razão pela qual muitos o utilizam é a sua natureza indulgente.
I know; wherever you look, you’ll get advice that only great people have the ability to forgive. I won’t argue with that as perdoar alguém que nos fez mal só mostra o enorme e bondoso coração que temos.
Além disso, aceitar desculpas, incluindo as que nunca recebeu, é uma parte importante do processo de seguir em frente.
However, the truth is that in most cases, you’re também perdoar. Assim, em vez de apreciarem esta sua caraterística, as pessoas interpretam-na muitas vezes como uma autorização para continuarem a magoá-lo.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that you should become a vengeful person.
I’m just telling you not to keep allowing anyone to get away with the bad things they do to you and not to keep giving second chances so easily.
4. You’re overwhelmed by other people’s problems
It’s not that you just sympathize with other people’s issues—you get completely consumed by them.
When a friend tells you about some problem they’re going through, you won’t only listen to them and give them a piece of advice.
You won’t go home and forget everything that has happened or think about it occasionally, since you’re too busy with your own life, like other people usually do.
Instead, someone else’s troubles and miseries haunt you.
You have a hard time focusing on your own life because you can’t help but think about how this person must be feeling, which often drains and exhausts you emotionally, mentally and physically.
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5. Tem dificuldade em controlar as suas emoções
When you’re a hyper empath, your emotions control you—not the other way around.
You’re not just a girl who blindly follows your heart, the problem is that too often, your reason has no say in your decisions. In fact, your feelings and urges have taken a lead over you.
For example, when you’re feeling down or depressed, you can’t help yourself to get rid of those emotions. There is nothing anybody can do to drag you out of bed or put a smile back on your face.
Naturalmente, tudo isto torna a sua vida mais difícil. De facto, a verdade é que tem dificuldade em funcionar no mundo real devido a esta caraterística.
