5 señales de que podrías tener hiperempatía

Tener la capacidad de simpatizar con los demás es algo estupendo. De hecho, es señal de que eres una buena persona y de que eres cualquier cosa menos egoísta.

Sin embargo, hay algunos casos en los que tu empatía se convierte en un problema para ti personalmente. Casos en los que empiezas a preocuparte demasiado por los demás y sus experiencias. 

If this is something you can relate to, it’s likely that you’re suffering from a condition called hyper empathy. Here are 5 behavior patterns common for all hyper empaths out there. 

1. Tu empatía influye en tu salud física

The main difference between hyper empaths and ‘regular’ empaths is in the reactions you have. 

When you’re a regular empático, you’ll get incredibly sad when someone you love is going through a hard time, since you have an unusual ability to mirror other people’s feelings.

Also, you’re in touch with your emotional side, you are great at reading nonverbal signals and you’re good at giving advice, since you can walk in other people’s shoes. 

Of course, all of these things are characteristic of hyper empaths as well. However, in your case, your condition doesn’t stop here.

In fact, the key difference lies in your physical reactions. You won’t just cry when you see another person crying and you won’t only get upset after you see someone in trouble.

Por el contrario, tu cuerpo tendrá una reacción física a todo esto, que puede afectar gravemente a tu salud a largo plazo.

Therefore, hyper empaths are likely to feel sick or dizzy because of other people’s sadness or anger.

Te sube la tensión, pierdes el apetito y sientes que toda la fuerza de tu cuerpo ha desaparecido en un abrir y cerrar de ojos. 

2. You don’t know how to say no

Another thing which makes you a hyper empathetic person is your inability to say no. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you’ll always find time to be at someone’s beck and call.

It doesn’t matter how tired you are, you’ll find the strength to help a person in need. You have probably given others a hand a hundred times but you’ll do a hundredth and first as well, if they need you. 

The key point here is that you’re not like this just toward your loved ones. Instead, you’re ready to help whoever might be in trouble, even if they don’t ask you to. 

Lamentablemente, muchas personas aprovechado de esta cualidad tuya. Les has acostumbrado a tenerte a todas horas, así que no paran de llamarte para cualquier cosita. Naturalmente, tu propia vida a menudo se resiente por ello. 

3. Perdonas con demasiada facilidad

Otra razón por la que muchos recurren a ti es tu naturaleza indulgente. 

I know; wherever you look, you’ll get advice that only great people have the ability to forgive. I won’t argue with that as perdonar alguien que te ha hecho daño sólo demuestra el enorme y bondadoso corazón que tienes. 

Además, aceptar las disculpas, incluidas las que nunca recibiste, es una parte importante del proceso de superación. 

However, the truth is that in most cases, you’re demasiado perdonar. Así que, en lugar de apreciar este rasgo tuyo, la gente suele malinterpretarlo como una autorización para seguir haciéndote daño.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that you should become a vengeful person.

I’m just telling you not to keep allowing anyone to get away with the bad things they do to you and not to keep giving second chances so easily. 

4. You’re overwhelmed by other people’s problems

It’s not that you just sympathize with other people’s issues—you get completely consumed by them. 

When a friend tells you about some problem they’re going through, you won’t only listen to them and give them a piece of advice.

You won’t go home and forget everything that has happened or think about it occasionally, since you’re too busy with your own life, like other people usually do. 

Instead, someone else’s troubles and miseries haunt you.

You have a hard time focusing on your own life because you can’t help but think about how this person must be feeling, which often drains and exhausts you emotionally, mentally and physically. 

Véase también: Factores desencadenantes habituales en las personas empáticas y formas de controlarlos

5. Le cuesta controlar sus emociones

When you’re a hyper empath, your emotions control you—not the other way around.

You’re not just a girl who blindly follows your heart, the problem is that too often, your reason has no say in your decisions. In fact, your feelings and urges have taken a lead over you.

For example, when you’re feeling down or depressed, you can’t help yourself to get rid of those emotions. There is nothing anybody can do to drag you out of bed or put a smile back on your face. 

Naturalmente, todo esto te hace la vida más difícil. De hecho, lo cierto es que tienes problemas para desenvolverte en el mundo real debido a esta característica.