Queridas mulheres, podemos admitir que os encontros modernos são TOTALMENTE uma porcaria?

Homens que são TÃO maus a enviar mensagens de texto. 

Jogadores.

Homens que nos fazem pensar demasiado nas coisas. 

Quantas de vós, senhoras, já lidaram com este tipo de homens ou outros semelhantes, pelo menos uma vez, nesta era moderna dos encontros? Um a mais, não é?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this matter and here’s my conclusion: Modern dating SUCKS. Big time. 

Porque é que os encontros modernos são péssimos para as mulheres?

“Online dating is like being a shopper at a bazaar in Istanbul. You are greeted by several guys who whistle at you, tell you they got the best Turkish carpets and can offer you Turkish tea to buy them. Some people try to win you over by throwing Hollywood song and dance if you’re European or Bollywood song and dance if you’re south Asian or Kpop dances if you’re East Asian. While it is fun to look for some cool items, it’s exhausting to say no to several pushy vendors over and over again. Except, you can explore a bazaar for maybe a couple hours and then do something else that doesn’t involve pushy bazaar vendors. Dating apps are constantly buzzing 24-7.” (Publicado poru/nouseforaname888 no Reddit)

It sucks to deal with men who push your boundaries and then accuse you of playing games just because you’re not interested in them. And there is so much more! Here are a few key points why modern dating sucks for women:

1. É uma chatice ter de lidar com homens insistentes vezes sem conta

Some men can be really stubborn and regardless of what you say to them, they’ll keep testing your boundaries. If you ask me, there’s a special place in Hell for such men. 

The more polite you are to them, the less willing they are to accept the fact that you’re not into them. 

When you lose your cool, they accuse you of being a “careless bitch” who only thinks about herself. Some men don’t take Não for an answer and that’s what makes modern dating so exhausting! 

2. É mau lidar com os jogadores

Here’s my “favorite” kind – players. They will text you day and night only to lure you in and then they will vanish into thin air. 

Jogar jogos quentes e frios é o seu passatempo preferido. Eles arranjam desculpas, fazem promessas falsas e fazem exatamente o que pensam que vai fazer com que se apaixone por eles. 

Eles vão-te dar um fantasma e depois obrigam-te a pensar que o mereceste. Lidar com jogadores é uma das piores coisas quando se trata de encontros modernos, porque é uma grande porcaria!

3. It sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate

Apart from players, there are also men who don’t know how to communicate either virtually or IRL. Such men will bombard you with questions or write a simple “Hi” waiting for you to continue the conversation as if you contacted them first. 

Some men don’t bother replying to longer texts thus leaving you on ler. Some of them force uninteresting conversations and don’t ask the right questions (read: meaningful questions). Well, it sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate!

4. É uma chatice estar sempre a ouvir isso As mulheres são complicadas

As mulheres são, de facto, complicadas ou são os homens que complicam as coisas devido aos encontros modernos? It sucks to hear that your wishes and needs are complicated for men to understand when it shouldn’t be so. 

I daresay that only low effort men use the word ‘complicated’ to justify their unwillingness to invest in their relationships. Amen. 

5. É mau pensar demasiado em tudo.

Queridas mulheres, sei exatamente como se sentem:

“I’m so sick of not texting back immediately so that I don’t appear desperate.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking when he doesn’t text back for hours.” 

“I’m so sick of receiving unsolicited nudes.” 

“I’m so sick of keeping track of who texted first in the last few weeks.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking whether his profile is real or fake, or whether my text message is too long for him to read.” 

It sucks to overthink everything and that’s why modern dating SUCKS!

6. É mau contentar-se com pouco ou esperar demasiado

Is expecting them to reply to your every text (be it short or long) too much to ask for? Does keeping up with someone’s bullshit means settling for too little? 

Modern dating is forcing us to shift from one extreme to the other. The word ‘balance’ doesn’t exist here. 

Somos obrigados a contentar-nos com muito pouco ou a esperar demasiado. Ficar repetidamente desiludido com as pessoas com quem se namora também é muito mau.

7. It sucks to pretend that modern dating doesn’t suck

And do you know what sucks the most? It’s the fact that we should keep pretending that modern dating doesn’t suck at all. A SÉRIO? 

Devemos continuar a perder o nosso tempo com os encontros modernos sem nunca questionar as suas consequências?

I don’t enjoy it, my friends don’t enjoy it, my colleagues don’t enjoy it, the friends of my friends don’t enjoy it…

Agora, podemos admitir que os encontros modernos são TOTALMENTE uma porcaria?