Queridas mujeres, ¿podemos admitir que las citas modernas son una mierda?

Hombres que son TAN malos mandando mensajes. 

Jugadores.

Hombres que te hacen pensar demasiado las cosas. 

¿Cuántas de ustedes, señoras, han tratado con estos tipos de hombres o similares al menos una vez en esta era moderna de las citas? Uno de más, ¿verdad?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this matter and here’s my conclusion: Modern dating SUCKS. Big time. 

¿Por qué las citas modernas son un asco para las mujeres?

“Online dating is like being a shopper at a bazaar in Istanbul. You are greeted by several guys who whistle at you, tell you they got the best Turkish carpets and can offer you Turkish tea to buy them. Some people try to win you over by throwing Hollywood song and dance if you’re European or Bollywood song and dance if you’re south Asian or Kpop dances if you’re East Asian. While it is fun to look for some cool items, it’s exhausting to say no to several pushy vendors over and over again. Except, you can explore a bazaar for maybe a couple hours and then do something else that doesn’t involve pushy bazaar vendors. Dating apps are constantly buzzing 24-7.” (Publicado poru/nouseforaname888 en Reddit)

It sucks to deal with men who push your boundaries and then accuse you of playing games just because you’re not interested in them. And there is so much more! Here are a few key points why modern dating sucks for women:

1. Es un asco tratar con hombres prepotentes una y otra vez

Some men can be really stubborn and regardless of what you say to them, they’ll keep testing your boundaries. If you ask me, there’s a special place in Hell for such men. 

The more polite you are to them, the less willing they are to accept the fact that you’re not into them. 

When you lose your cool, they accuse you of being a “careless bitch” who only thinks about herself. Some men don’t take No for an answer and that’s what makes modern dating so exhausting! 

2. Es un asco tratar con jugadores

Here’s my “favorite” kind – players. They will text you day and night only to lure you in and then they will vanish into thin air. 

Jugar a juegos calientes y fríos es su pasatiempo favorito. Pondrán excusas, harán falsas promesas y harán exactamente lo que crean que hará que te enamores de ellos. 

Te engañarán y luego te obligarán a pensar que te lo merecías. Tratar con jugadores es una de las peores cosas en lo que respecta a las citas modernas, ¡porque apesta A LO GRANDE!

3. It sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate

Apart from players, there are also men who don’t know how to communicate either virtually or IRL. Such men will bombard you with questions or write a simple “Hi” waiting for you to continue the conversation as if you contacted them first. 

Some men don’t bother replying to longer texts thus leaving you on leer. Some of them force uninteresting conversations and don’t ask the right questions (read: meaningful questions). Well, it sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate!

4. Apesta seguir escuchando que Las mujeres son complicadas

¿Son las mujeres, de hecho, complicadas o son los hombres los que complican las cosas debido a las citas modernas? It sucks to hear that your wishes and needs are complicated for men to understand when it shouldn’t be so. 

I daresay that only low effort men use the word ‘complicated’ to justify their unwillingness to invest in their relationships. Amen. 

5. Es un asco pensar demasiado en todo.

Queridas mujeres, sé exactamente cómo os sentís:

“I’m so sick of not texting back immediately so that I don’t appear desperate.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking when he doesn’t text back for hours.” 

“I’m so sick of receiving unsolicited nudes.” 

“I’m so sick of keeping track of who texted first in the last few weeks.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking whether his profile is real or fake, or whether my text message is too long for him to read.” 

It sucks to overthink everything and that’s why modern dating SUCKS!

6. Es un asco conformarse con poco o esperar demasiado

Is expecting them to reply to your every text (be it short or long) too much to ask for? Does keeping up with someone’s bullshit means settling for too little? 

Modern dating is forcing us to shift from one extreme to the other. The word ‘balance’ doesn’t exist here. 

Te ves obligado a conformarte con poco o a esperar demasiado. Que te decepcionen repetidamente las personas con las que sales también apesta MUCHO.

7. It sucks to pretend that modern dating doesn’t suck

And do you know what sucks the most? It’s the fact that we should keep pretending that modern dating doesn’t suck at all. ¿EN SERIO? 

¿Debemos seguir perdiendo el tiempo en las citas modernas sin cuestionarnos nunca sus consecuencias?

I don’t enjoy it, my friends don’t enjoy it, my colleagues don’t enjoy it, the friends of my friends don’t enjoy it…

¿Podemos admitir que las citas modernas son una mierda?