Porque é que os homens param de mandar mensagens e depois começam outra vez? 19 razões
Hmm… Porque é que os homens deixam de enviar mensagens and then start again? I’m sure it all starts like this:
Parabéns! You’ve been texting for weeks/months now and you’re 99% sure your relationship is on its way to becoming something more. E depois BOOM!
Ele já não lhe responde. Ele deixou subitamente de enviar mensagens de texto sem lhe dizer porquê, para que saiba se deve entrar em pânico ou não.
Como mulher, sei certamente que o pânico é a primeira coisa que nos vem à cabeça nestas situações. I mean, it’s really a BIG DEAL when someone you really like suddenly stops texting you for no reason!
Do you know what’s even more confusing? Quando ele voltar a enviar-lhe mensagens após um determinado período de tempo (tempo que normalmente passamos a pensar demais e a dramatizar).
Yes, in our head there isn’t one valid reason for such a selfish act but today, we’ll try to look at things from a different perspective.
Today we’ll answer the famous question: Why do guys stop texting and then start again? Take a deep breath and let’s get to work! ?
Porque é que os homens param de enviar mensagens e depois começam outra vez?
I would be more than happy if there was only one reason why guys stop texting and then start texting you again. Unfortunately, there is a list of common reasons why they do that. I’m sure the following reasons will bring you some clarity:
1. He’s mentally preoccupied with other things
One of the most common reasons why guys suddenly stop texting is that they are bad at multitasking! I can confirm the validity of this statement because the guy I’m seeing right now is going through this.
He’s preoccupied with other things and that’s why we no longer text as frequently as we did before. Por vezes, envia-me mensagens passados dois ou três dias, ou mesmo uma semana.
He admitted that he’s really bad at multitasking and he needs to redirect all his focus on the thing he’s doing at the moment. He also told me that, once he’s done with it, he’ll go back to his normal texting behavior. ?
2. He’s scared of how much he likes you
Está preocupado com o seu hábitos de envio de mensagens? Bem, ele pode estar preocupado com os seus sentimentos. Os seus altos níveis de afeto para contigo assustam-no.
Yup, that’s actually possible. There are guys who are afraid of their feelings because vulnerability is not their strongest attribute. They’re simply not ready to admit to themselves that they are crazy about you.
Por esse motivo, optam por o ignorar durante algum tempo e depois voltam a aparecer. É muito incómodo, concordo.
3. He’s testing you
Why do guys stop texting for a few days, back off, and then start texting you again? It could be that he’s actually testing you. Espera, porque é que ele faria isso?
Because he’s not sure whether you like him or not. Then, why doesn’t he simply ask you? Porque os homens. ?
So, if you show concern when he stops texting you, he’ll take this as confirmation that you like him. He knows that a woman who is not interested in a man would never bother about him not texting her any longer.
4. Jogar duro para conseguir
We all know that playing hard to get is primarily a woman’s sport but men are not excluded either.
Ele está a fazer-se de difícil? Será que ele pensa que o facto de não te enviar mensagens durante alguns dias vai fazer com que o persigas?
Well, he’s probably right about it. We women are really suckers for men who shower us with attention and then make us beg for it.
If he’s playing hard to get, you can do the same! Fortunately, two can play this game and it’s only a matter of time before someone will admit that they’ve had enough. That’s when the real game begins!
5. He’s busy texting others
Or maybe the reason why he’s ghosting you is that he’s busy texting other ladies. That and him being a player are the two worst reasons for his selective texting.
Let’s say that he no longer texts you because he suffers from the síndrome da erva mais verde.
In other words, he thinks there are more attractive and prettier women out there and he doesn’t want to miss out.
Because of that, he’s sitting on multiple chairs until he falls down. Depois, levanta-se e volta a enviar-lhe mensagens. O conselho do dia: Don’t be anyone’s second choice.
6. Por causa de algo que fizeste
Porque é que os homens deixam de enviar mensagens e depois começam outra vez? Pode ser que a razão seja você. Talvez tenha dito algo que o tenha irritado ou o tenha insultado involuntariamente.
Literally, it could be anything, and since I’m not a seer by profession, you’ll have to find the reason on your own. You’ll do that by evaluating previous communication and any arguments that you might have had.
If you find out that you’re the reason why he stopped texting you, make sure to apologize to him. And remember that this is totally okay. We all make mistakes because we’re human beings, right?
7. Ele quer abrandar um pouco
Every single one of us has our own pace when it comes to dating and relationships. What’s fast for him may not be fast for you and vice versa.
Portanto, uma das razões pelas quais ele deixou de enviar mensagens de texto é que decidiu abrandar o ritmo das mensagens de texto e tudo o mais.
Além disso, presta atenção ao timing. Um rapaz novo que conheci parava frequentemente de enviar mensagens a meio da conversa. Quando lhe perguntei por que razão o fazia, disse-me que queria abrandar as coisas.
8. Esgotou os temas interessantes
“He texted me every day, and then he stopped.” What’s up with this guy? Why did he suddenly decide to ghost you after so many interesting conversations you had?
Pode ser que simplesmente não tenha mais coisas interessantes e excitantes para falar. Se o teu homem não gosta de conversa fiada, compreendo-o perfeitamente.
Talvez alguns textos de sedução will tickle his imagination and you’ll no longer have to worry about him stopping texting you.
9. Ele precisa de espaço
Será que ele precisa de espaço?? Maybe that’s the reason why he decided not to text you for a couple of days.
Tenha em atenção que nem todos os homens fazem isto quando precisam de espaço. Alguns homens dizem-no mesmo (como um dos meus amigos homens).
Shout out to all those guys who tell honestly what’s on their minds!
10. He’s just not that into you
I always say: If he’s not that into you, his texting behavior will show it.
Or maybe you went on a date but it didn’t go well. If that’s the case with you, then you know he’s just not that into you.
And yes, he’s kind of a coward for not telling you honestly how he feels but he chooses to ghost you. That’s why you’re better off without him anyway.
11. Ele quer que desejes a sua presença
O que significa quando um rapaz deixa de lhe enviar mensagens todos os dias? Pode significar que ele quer que sintas a falta dele.
Because of that, he no longer texts you, and he’s no longer responsive on social media (he no longer likes your posts) and things like that. Ele faz tudo isto para te fazer desejar a sua presença.
He wants you to miss him because he’s either unsure about your feelings for him or he’s seeking attention.
12. He’s unsure of your compatibility
"Ele deixou de me enviar mensagens.” “I have no idea why and what I should do about it.” Maybe you should give him some time because he might be unsure of your compatibility.
Do you think that you’re compatible? Is there any reason why he would think otherwise?
I’ve noticed that, when men are unsure of their feelings or your overall compatibility, they immediately pull back.
Vão passar algum tempo na sua caverna de homem para esclarecerem as coisas. After doing that, they either text you back or subtly let you know that you’re simply not meant for each other.
13. Tentativas de validação e de procura de atenção
Sabes que tipo de homens procuram normalmente validação e atenção? Homens com baixa autoestima. Rapazes que procuram constantemente a atenção das mulheres pode ser um verdadeiro fardo.
Estão literalmente prontos a fazer qualquer coisa para obter uma dose de validação e atenção dos outros. Não te enviar mensagens e voltar a enviar-te depois de algum tempo é um dos seus métodos favoritos para procurar atenção.
To us, it’s one of the most annoying things we have to deal with but that’s just how it goes. We’re talking about a vicious cycle that isn’t easy to break.
I’m talking about one of the verdades psicológicas sobre o ghosting by Psychology Today: “People who are ghosted become more likely to do the same to someone else.”
14. He’s intimidated by you
Is it possible that he doesn’t text you back because he feels intimidated by you? Sure. There are many guys nowadays who feel intimidated by a successful and independent woman.
Here’s what I have to say to them: “If you feel intimidated by me, then you definitely don’t deserve me. If you play texting games with me, I won’t be interested in you.”
Only weak men are intimidated by powerful women. Don’t fall to their level. Find a man who is strong enough not to be intimidated; someone who is proud of you.
15. He’s bad at texting
Porque é que os homens param de enviar mensagens e depois começam outra vez? O meu primeiro encontro virtual com um rapaz que é mau a enviar mensagens de texto was truly annoying. I thought the guy didn’t like me at all!
Quer dizer, como é que se pode gostar de alguém e não ter o desejo de lhe enviar uma mensagem? Para mim, isto parece contraditório mas, para eles, faz todo o sentido.
If that’s what’s happening to you at the moment, then face-to-face communication or phone calls are great alternatives.
Whatever you do, just don’t force him to text you back because this can only make things worse.
16. He wants to see how you’ll react
Seriously? Are you telling me that he wants to see how my reaction will be once he stops texting me? I bet that’s what you’re thinking right now. ?
Então, o que é que significa quando um rapaz deixa de nos enviar mensagens? Sometimes it means that he wants to see whether you’ll become overly needy or clingy.
When he no longer sends you good morning texts or those random texts he used to send you, he wants to see whether you’ll notice it. He wants to see how you’ll cope with it.
Vais seguir em frente imediatamente? Vais ficar zangada com ele? Ou vai ficar desesperada?
Como sempre, a escolha é sua.
17. Ele quer ser misterioso
Why do guys text less after a while? Well, one of the reasons is that they want to add some mystery to the equation. Perhaps he’s scared that he’ll start boring you; hence all those disappearing acts.
I know this is one of the weirdest reasons why a guy would stop texting you, but it’s definitely one of the possible reasons.
Advice to guys: There are other ways to preserve the mystery. You don’t need to ghost a woman in order to get her attention.
I hope they’ll understand the absurdity of their actions.
18. Indisponibilidade emocional
You’re being ghosted because he’s emotionally unavailablee, portanto, não está preparado para algo sério.
He’s not ready for a new relationship, he has some major overthinking sessions in the background, and that’s when he decides to stop contacting you.
I’ve had a fair share of dealing with emotionally unavailable guys and my only advice to you would be: CORRE PELA TUA VIDA.
Don’t even think of texting him until he figures out exactly what he wants at the moment. If he’s not ready for something serious at the moment, don’t wait for him.
19. He’s a player
Porque é que os homens deixam de enviar mensagens e depois começam outra vez? Um jogador enviar-lhe-ia mensagens todos os dias?
Se he’s playing mind games with you, chances are he’ll text you intensely in one moment, and in the other, he’ll ignore you completely.
Muitas mulheres acabam por enviar mensagens de texto a um jogador sem sequer o saberem. Uma coisa é certa: If you’re dealing with a player, heartbreak is inevitable.
This kind of guy will text you only when it’s convenient for him because he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. You deserve better.
O que fazer quando ele deixa de te enviar mensagens
Bombarding him with “I love you” texts is not a solution. Mensagens de texto duplas também não é uma solução, porque pode resultar num monte de mensagens de texto não respondidas por ele.
I won’t make this complicated because there’s no need for that. Instead of offering you a list of possible things you could do when he stops texting you, I’ll summarize it all into two choices:
• Talk to him.
Todos sabemos que uma comunicação saudável é a chave para evitar dramas. You’re two adults and if your affection is mutual, I don’t see a reason why you couldn’t solve this through an honest and open conversation.
Diga-lhe o que sente por ele ignorar as suas mensagens. Fiz isso a um rapaz e ele concordou plenamente comigo. Ele compreendeu!
So, what you need to do is let him know what he’s doing is just not right (unless he has a valid explanation for it). After you’re done talking, then it’s up to him how he’ll take it.
Será que ele vai decidir mudar? Conseguirá chegar a um compromisso?
Claro que isso depende muito do nível de afeto que ele tem por si. Acredita em mim, se ele gostar mesmo de ti, fará tudo para te fazer feliz. (Não é bem qualquer coisa, mas já percebeste o que quero dizer).
• Walk away from him.
If talking to him doesn’t bear fruit and his reasons for ghosting you are not valid, then consider walking away from him. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice.
Mereces um homem que arranje sempre tempo para te responder às mensagens. Um homem que não a faça preocupar-se ou pensar demasiado nas coisas. Vale a pena manter um homem assim.
If he stops texting you for no apparent reason, his message to you is very clear: “I stopped texting you because I don’t really care about how this will make you feel.”
Don’t give him the benefit to stop texting you whenever he wants. Instead, afastar-se e fazê-lo implorar pela sua atenção.
Porque é que, de repente, ele voltou a enviar-me mensagens?
The most common reason why guys suddenly text you again is that they’re interested in what’s going on in your life. They want to know about your love life, future plans, you name it. They text you again to see whether they have a chance with you or because they’re legit players.
Dito isto, aqui estão duas sub-razões pelas quais os homens de repente voltam a enviar-te mensagens:
• Because he likes you.
Obviamente, um rapaz que está interessado em si vai enviar-lhe mensagens porque gosta de si e quer fazer parte da sua vida.
Depending on the reasons why he stopped texting you, now he wants to see whether you’re still available. More importantly, he wants to see whether you’re still interested in him.
If you’re interested in him, then feel free to text him back. Still, you shouldn’t ignore the fact that he ignored you for some time. Peça-lhe que justifique o seu comportamento e depois decida se lhe deve ou não dar uma segunda oportunidade.
• Because he’s playing with you.
Another reason why a guy might text you again is that he’s playing games with you. He doesn’t like you but he needs you to like him.
Será ele um narcisista disfarçado?? It’s definitely not excluded. What he’s doing is soprando quente e frio. Ele dá-nos o suficiente para nos manter interessados e depois desaparece.
As you’re craving his presence, he comes back again. I’m pretty sure every single woman on the planet is sick and tired of such behavior from men. Eu primeiro.
If he’s playing with you, don’t think twice about cutting off all communication because life is too short to be surrounded by pessoas tóxicas.
Não se preocupe!
Peço-vos que não se preocupem demasiado com esta questão, “Why do guys stop texting and then start again?” Let me explain…
If he likes you, he will text you back or he will have a valid explanation why he didn’t. If he isn’t into you or he’s a player, he will text you when it’s convenient for him and he won’t care about how you feel.
Em vez de se preocupar com os homens que param de mandar mensagens e depois começam de novo, preocupe-se com o seu bem-estar. Make sure that you’re living your life to the fullest and everything else will fall into place (including your love life).
E sim, merece que lhe enviem uma mensagem de resposta and if he doesn’t know it, then he’s not worthy of being with you. It’s as simple as that.
