Quando ele voltar para ti, não o vais querer

Quando o homem que amamos nos deixa e sai da nossa vida, pensamos que é a pior coisa que nos pode acontecer.

You spend your days waiting for him to come back to you and thinking about ways to make this happen. You literally put your life on hold, and you don’t see a way for yourself to move on.

Enquanto isto está a acontecer, só te lembras das coisas boas. Esqueces-te de tudo de mau que este tipo te fez passar.

De repente, esquece-se de toda a dor e das lágrimas. Esqueces-te de como ele te fez sentir miserável e infeliz durante toda a vossa relação.

De repente, sente que os dois poderiam resolver todos os seus problemas e ultrapassar todas as suas diferenças se as coisas voltassem a ser como dantes.

Pensas que a tua relação com este homem merecem uma segunda oportunidade e que, desta vez, vocês os dois vão fazer com que as coisas resultem.

Pensa que a sua vida é mais forte do que qualquer obstáculo e só quer ter esse homem na sua vida novamente.

Só queres beijá-lo mais uma vez. Adormecer nos seus braços e acordar ao seu lado.

But that isn’t happening, despite all of your wishes and efforts.

And I know I you don’t think this way now but trust me, it’s better this way.

I know you won’t believe me, but you only think that having this man back in your life would put you out of your misery.

You only think you want him back but trust me—you don’t. And you would understand all of this the moment he came back to you.

The truth is that you idealize this guy just because you don’t have him anymore.

The truth is that you’ve managed to forget all about his flaws and negative sides and that you’ve focused on his positive qualities just because you miss him.

The truth is that you romanticize him and your relationship and that you don’t look it realistically.

But the two of you took separate ways for a strong reason. And that reason won’t go away overnight.

Because you are still the person you’ve always been and ele continua a ser o mesmo homem. And any time apart won’t change that.

Se ele volta para siSe não se aperceberem, todas as vossas diferenças e problemas voltarão a aparecer à superfície.

If he comes back to you, you’ll see that you never wanted this to happen and that him leaving you was the best thing that could occur.

You’ll see that he is not the man for you and that you probably just miss the feeling of belonging to someone and the feeling of partnership.

You’ll see that your ego was more hurt than your heart; that you just couldn’t stand this man you think you love not wanting to be with you anymore.

You’ll realize that you’ve spent all this time trying to get him back simply because you wanted to prove to yourself that he is still yours.

Porque querias provar aos dois que o podes ter quando e como quiseres.

If he comes back to you, you’ll see that you should have never given him a second chance; that he hasn’t changed his ways and that he’ll always be the man who caused you emotional pain.

Se ele voltar para ti, só pensas que lhe vais perdoar tudo o que ele fez.

But trust me—-you’ll always hold grudges. You’ll always resent him for leaving you, without taking your feelings into consideration.

You’ll always question his reasons for walking away, and you’ll always doubt his love for you, even if he makes an effort to prove it to you.

You’ll want to know every single detail of his bachelor life. Has he been seeing some other girls?

O que é que ele andava a fazer? Como é que ele passava os dias, enquanto tu continuavas à espera que ele voltasse?

Se ele volta para si, you’ll see that the two of you have no future and that things should have stayed the way they were.