Quando um homem te conta coisas pessoais sobre si próprio

Quando um tipo te conta coisas pessoais sobre ele próprio, ele quer que o conheças and form a deeper bond with you. It’s because he either feels safe with you as a friend or he’s interested in you romantically.

But there’s another possibility that shouldn’t be ignored: he might not really be opening up to you, but making you think he is para vos manipular.

You’ll have to pay close attention to his behavior to work out what he’s all about, but if you keep reading you’ll get enough tips to figure out where you stand in no time.

O que é que significa quando um homem te conta coisas pessoais sobre ele próprio?

Sharing your feelings, your history or your inner self isn’t easy, but the desire for the other person to know you pushes you to do it anyway. When a guy tells you personal things about himself, you can be almost sure that partilham uma ligação emocional.

Whether he wants a romantic relationship or to deepen your friendship, there’s a growing bond between you

1. Ele confia em ti

Abrir-se consigo é um dos sinais claros de que ele confia em si. É preciso tempo para criar confiança, so your relationship isn’t entirely new. If it is and he’s opening up, he might have a problem. More on that below.

Contar-lhe como foi crescer na sua cidade natal, a separação mais dolorosa que teve ou abrir-se sobre um problema atual mostra que ele tem um grau de familiaridade consigo que só pode advir de uma ligação e confiança.

2. Ele sente-se seguro consigo

À medida que uma relação progride, as pessoas passam lentamente das conversas superficiais e da informação biográfica para algo mais profundo.

Claro que sabe quantos irmãos ele tem, mas talvez não lhe conte logo a história de como ficou com a pequena cicatriz na bochecha porque tem um significado mais profundo.

When he decides to tell you the story about how he got it, you’ll know that ele sente-se seguro e confortável consigo.

3. Ele sente uma ligação emocional

Se um gajo sente uma ligação emocional with you, you’ll probably feel it too because it’s something that grows instead of springs up fully formed. It takes effort to connect emotionally, and you’ve both done your best.

Abrir-se pode ser um sinal de que ele sente uma ligação consigo and that you’ve earned the right to know personal things about him.

4. Ele quer aprofundar a vossa relação

Uma forma de fazer avançar uma relação é deixar a outra pessoa entrar. If he’s interested in deepening your connection, he might start by sharing details about his own life, feelings and things that matter.

Ele quer aproximar-se de si, por isso he’s taking the first step. After you’re sure that you want to, you can reciprocate.

5. Ele valoriza os seus pensamentos e opiniões

Por vezes, quando um homem partilha um problema consigo, quer ouvir a sua opinião. Se ele lhe pedir que comente ou lhe dê uma solução, isso mostra-lhe que ele valoriza a sua forma de pensar e de julgar.

When you know that he wants you to give him advice, don’t hesitate to be honest. If he appreciates your opinions, he won’t mind it, but don’t forget to still have compassion and act with kindness.

6. Ele quer que o compreendas

If he’s sharing personal details that he might be sensitive about, such as mental health issues, insecurities or family problems, he’s showing a great deal of vulnerability and trust because he wants you to understand him.

Honre a sua coragem e força, apoiando-o e tranquilizando-o, especialmente se quiser que ele continue a partilhar assuntos privados consigo.

7. Ele quer que o conheças de verdade

For most people, the innermost self is the most private thing of all. We display different personas in different contexts in our lives, and the smallest, most true part of what makes someone who they are only comes out once they’re on their own.

Se um tipo se abre contigo e shows you what he’s like when he’s on his ownEle quer que o conheças. Ao mostrar-lhe os seus medos mais profundos and brightest dreams, he’s showing you that he’s eager for you to know him.

8. Ele quer que o aceites

Everyone is flawed, but we all want to have someone who accepts those flaws. If he’s going deep and sharing things he’s ashamed or proud of, if he’s sharing his past relationships, childhood traumas or brightest hopes, he’s laying himself bare for you to accept him.

However big or small whatever he shares is, if you take it in with an open mind, you’ll understand him better. And it’s up to you to accept it or not.

9. Ele quer conhecer-te melhor

Sharing his personal life is an invitation for you to share yours too. Don’t jump in and make the moment about you, but keep in mind that you have someone who’ll listen quando também precisa.

A sua reação ao facto de ele se abrir também lhe dirá coisas sobre si e encorajá-lo-á a voltar a partilhar ou a desmotivá-lo a contar-lhe coisas pessoais.

10. You’re special to him

Being able to tell you personal things is a clear sign that you matter to him, as a friend or as a potential partner. Either way, by opening up to you he’s showing you that you’re one of the rare people who has access to his private matters.

It’s a sign that ele aprecia-o and values you, that you’re special to him and he wants you to know it.

Como reagir quando um homem fala da sua vida pessoal?

O que é preciso para se abrir com alguém? A coragem de ser emocionalmente vulnerável, first and foremost, but also the trust that the other person won’t let you down. More than anything else, however, it’s the desejo de estar próximo de outra pessoa.

O que fazer quando um rapaz se abre contigo?

1. Ser um bom ouvinte

Escutai-o com a intenção de compreender. Don’t interrupt, assume or judge. Em vez de esperar pela sua vez de falar, concentre-se nele.

He might or might not want a reply, so while he’s speaking, it’s best to only try to ouvi-lo e ser solidário.

Give an indication that you’re listening by nodding, through body language or by repeating what he said to make sure you understood.

2. Assegurar-lhe que os seus sentimentos são válidos

After someone has opened up about something important to them, they might regret it and worry whether they’ve done the right thing. Tranquilize-o, dizendo-lhe que aprecia que ele partilhou assuntos pessoais consigo.

If he’s struggling with what he told you, recordar-lhe que os seus sentimentos são válidos. Let him know that it’s okay to feel the way he feels and that he made the right choice to share it.

3. Perguntar-lhe o que ele precisa

Quando alguém confia em nós, podem precisar de conselhos ou apenas de um ouvido amigo. Talvez ele só quisesse sentir-se compreendido e agora sente-se melhor depois de o ter partilhado consigo.

Unless you know for sure that he’s looking for a solution, don’t offer one. It’s best to ask him if he wants advice or if he only needs to talk.

Como é que se sabe quando um rapaz quer ser mais do que amigo?

So when a guy tells you personal things about himself, you know that you’re definitely special to him, but how can you tell if he sees you as his best friend or if he’s in love with you?

Aqui estão todos os sinais de que ele quer ser mais do que amigo.

1. Ele namorisca consigo

Friends sometimes flirt with each other, but if he wants to be more than friends, his flirting won’t be friendly. Instead, he’ll flirt with a passion that betrays how he feels.

2. Ele elogia-o

If he never fails to find something about you to compliment, that’s because he likes so many things about you that he never runs out of something to talk about.

3. Os seus olhos estão sempre postos em ti

If he’s always looking at you, he likes what he sees. There’s nothing friendly about his pointed stare or his lidded gaze always directed at you, always following you.

4. Ele toca-te casualmente

Romantic interest is most obvious in body language and behavior. He’ll always find a way to touch you in a casual way, such as holding a handshake too long, placing his fingers on the small of your back as you’re walking and any other way.

5. Ele faz-lhe perguntas pessoais

He tells you personal things about himself, but he’s also endlessly curious about you. He’s opening up and wants you to open up too.

6. Ele repara em coisas em ti

He notices everything, and everything matters. Because you’re the most interesting person to him, he’s paying attention and noticing things about you – from your gestures and way of talking to small changes.

7. Ele lembra-se de pequenos pormenores sobre si

If he surprises you by knowing something small that you’d never think someone would remember about you, it’s because nothing about you is irrelevant to him. The little things about you are more interesting and memorable than anything else.

8. He’s interested in things you’re interested in

It’s not that your likes and dislikes become his too, but that he gives things a chance because he trusts your judgment. If you like something, it must be amazing, right?

9. Ele fala de si a outras pessoas

He can’t shut up about you, so he doesn’t. If you’re his favorite topic, it’s a good sign that you’re always on his mind and nothing holds the same interest as you do.

10. Ele tenta fazer-te rir

It’s well known that laughing together increases attraction. When he’s being silly trying to get you to laugh, he isn’t only doing it for you, but also for himself – seeing you laugh makes him happy too.

11. He doesn’t like it when you talk to other guys

Whenever your male friends or random guys talk to you, he sulks. If he’s showing a small degree of jealousy, it’s because he’s interested in you and he’s hoping you won’t get together with anyone else.

12. He doesn’t show interest in others

If he gives you his full attention when you’re together even if there are lots of other people around, it’s a sure sign that he likes you. Others just aren’t as cute and cool and sexy as you. In fact, no one can compare.

13. He’s different with you than with anyone else

You’re special, so you get special treatment. If he’s more gentle and caring with you than his other friends, he’s emocionalmente atraído para si.

14. Ele inicia muito o contacto

Por telefone, SMS, redes sociais ou pessoalmente, ele não tem qualquer problema em contactá-la primeiro. Em vez de manter a calma e fazer jogos, ele diz-lhe quando sente a sua falta.

15. Ele quer passar tempo consigo

Spending time together is what dating is all about. If you’re already friends even though you technically never even had a first date. Maybe you can even skip casual dating and go straight to a serious relationship?

16. Ele provoca-te de forma divertida

Playful teasing and having fun together is a sign of a healthy relationship. If you’re not in a romantic relationship yet, make sure to keep enjoying each other’s company the same way once you do.

17. Ele faz questão de que saibas que podes contar com ele

A sure sign that he wants to take things to the next level is if he constantly shows concern for your well-being and makes sure you know that you can count on him if you need something. He’s vulnerável consigo e não tem medo de se expor.

18. Ele faz tudo o que pode por ti

One of the most obvious signs of interest is if, for him, nothing is too difficult when it comes to you. If he’s willing to go to the opposite end of the city just to pick up your favorite food, he probably wants to be more than friends with you.

19. Ele fala consigo sobre os seus planos para o futuro

When he talks to you about his future and includes you in them, is not only a sign that he wants something more, but that he wants a serious relationship. He’s including you in his life now and wants to include you going forward.

20. Ele tenta fazer com que o vejas dessa forma

Quando se conhece um homem à procura de um romance e, desde o início, se considera que ele é um potencial parceiro, as coisas são diferentes do que se se desenvolver primeiro uma amizade entre vocês.

In that case, it might take some work to transition from friends to romantic interests, so if he’s trying hard to change your impression of him from friend to potential boyfriend, it’s a sign that he likes you.

Como é que se pode saber se um homem está a ser honesto?

A sinceridade e a vulnerabilidade são fundamentais para a criação de laços emocionais, mas algumas pessoas utilizam a abertura ou a aparência de abertura para ganhar alguma coisa.

This isn’t always malicious – some people simply carecem de inteligência emocional para formar laços com os outros e tentar fazê-lo da forma errada. Outros, no entanto, estão a tentar manipulá-lo.

Como é que sabe se as coisas pessoais que ele lhe diz são verdadeiras? Aqui estão alguns sinais.

1. As suas histórias são coerentes

If he were manipulating you, all of his stories would serve a certain purpose, so he’d have to change things up to make them fit. If it seems that the as coisas que ele vos diz contradizem-se umas às outras, ele pode não estar a dizer a verdade.

2. The things he tells you don’t always need an emotional reaction

Sometimes people share just to share, but when someone is trying to gain something from a personal story, they’ll always do it através das emoções.

Em vez de lhe contar algo pessoal porque quer que você saiba, conta-lhe uma história para ganhar pena, admiração ou outra reação emocional.

3. He’s not suspicious when you ask him follow-up questions

A person who’s telling the truth has enough information about the topic to be able to answer any follow-up questions without panicking.

Someone who’s lying or making things up will precisam de tempo para pensar no assunto, so you’ll often hear typical liar techniques for delaying answers to invent them.

4. He’s not manipulating eye contact

Quando alguém está a mentir, mantém contacto visual de propósito para vos fazer pensar que não têm nada a esconder, por isso olham-nos demasiado nos olhos. Conversely, if they don’t know that they’re supposed to look you in the eyes, they’ll evitar o teu olhar.

If he’s honest, eye contact will be natural and not premeditated.

5. He’s not vague or overly detailed

A construção de mentiras é complexa, por isso os mentirosos either invent too many details and get lost in them, or they don’t say anything exceto a estrutura básica da mentira.

An honest person might forget things, but even if they don’t recall all the information, they remember the feelings they were experiencing at the time they’re telling you about.

Como saber se um homem a está a manipular para se abrir?

He’s manipulating you abrindo se:

• He wants a specific emotional reaction from you.

• He’s telling you exactly what you want to hear.

• He evades your questions.

• He ignores your responses.

• He insists you listen even if you’re not interested.

• He’s using vulnerability instead of being vulnerable.

• It feels like he’s trying to force intimacy.

• He’s telling you things that are too private for the level of closeness you share.

• He expects something in return.

• His stories seem tailored to show him in a good light.

Mais razões pelas quais um homem pode contar-te coisas pessoais

Sometimes guys have an agenda behind opening up even though they don’t mean to manipulate you. Here are some reasons.

1. Partilha em excesso

If he’s opening up to you because he feels like the relationship you’ve created together is at the level where you have ganhou o direito de ouvir o que ele tem para dizer and he does it because he wants to, it tells you that he feels that you’re the right person to tell things.

When you don’t know each other well or your relationship isn’t the kind where you’d share personal things and he still does, it’s because he’s trying to manufacture a connection demasiado cedo. A partilha excessiva é muitas vezes um sinal de ser carente e depender de outras pessoas para ser feliz.

2. He’s going through something

If he has something stressful going on and he’s feeling emotionally fragile, venting helps distraí-lo dos seus problemas. If you care about wellness, give him a listening ear and think about what’s going on between the two of you after he’s back to normal.

3. Ele quer conselhos

Sometimes he shares because he needs advice and you’re the best candidate to get it from. When it’s just about solving his problem, it’s usually just about that and doesn’t really impact your relationship. Still, it points out that he values your advice.

4. He wants attention and knows you’ll listen

When he’s in need of attention and knows that you’ll give it to him, it’s to be expected that he’ll run to you when he wants some and he’ll tell you something that will turn the spotlight on him.

Isto é provavelmente inofensivo se a vossa relação for diferente recíproca e feliz.

5. He’s testing you

If he wants to see whether he can trust you with something or behaves in a way that specifically triggers an emotional response, he might be playing mind games and testing you to see how you’ll react. He might or might not realize it, but this is manipulative and underhanded.

Resumindo

When a guy tells you personal things about himself, you’ll know why it’s happening if you think about everything else going on in your relationship.

You first need to consider if he’s being honesto e sincero or if he’s tentar ganhar algo de si, contando-lhe uma história.

If you decide that you trust him and if you like that he’s opening up to you, you’re lucky. You either have um amigo íntimo que partilha coisas pessoais consigo ou alguém que gosta de si. By paying attention to his other behaviors you’ll be able to tell which.