5 razões para continuares a persegui-lo, mesmo sabendo que não o deves fazer

You’re not stupid or foolish. You know that this guy isn’t worthy of your attention and you’re aware that he doesn’t deserve you giving him a single thought, let alone something more.

You know that he is good for nothing. You know that he doesn’t treat you right and that you shouldn’t look at him, even if he was the last man in the world.

However, despite all of this, you can’t seem to get yourself to stop chasing him. Why is that so?

1. Deep down, you hope he’ll change

Even though you keep telling everyone that you’ve lost all hope that this guy will become the man you deserve him to be, the truth is actually quite different.

Even though you keep convincing yourself that you’ve finally accepted that this guy will never come to his senses, the fact is that you still expect a miracle.

No fundo, escondido sob a superfície e a face que apresentas ao resto do mundo, há de facto muita esperança.

Quer queiras admitir ou não, a verdade é que uma parte do teu ser ainda pensa que este o homem acabará por mudar.

Naturalmente, queremos estar presentes quando isso acontece.

You keep giving him ‘one last chance’ because you think that he is almost there, that he is about to start treating you right and that he is about to see that you’re the woman for him.

2. You assume that you’ll be the one who will save him

Another reason why most women continue chasing the men they know they shouldn’t is the fact that they want to salvá-los.

You see yourself as this wonder woman who can help this man with all of his problems. You think you’re the only one who can cure his emotional instability.

Aquele que consegue derrubar todas as paredes à volta do seu coração e abrir a sua alma ao amor.

At the end of the day, you’re not leaving him for good because you don’t want to give up on him.

You refuse to walk away from him because deep down, you don’t see him as a toxic man who plays with you.

Instead, you see him as a lost soul who needs your guidance. You refuse to let him be because you think that he couldn’t make it without you and that his well-being has become your responsibility.

3. You’re scared of ending up alone

As crazy as this might sound, the undeniable fact is that this man has become your comfort zone. You’ve gotten used to running after him.

Therefore, you don’t know what you would do with yourself if he wasn’t around. After all, the breadcrumbs of his love and affection are way better than not having anyone.

You might not see it but the truth is that you’re terrified of ending up alone. So, it’s better to have half of a man than no man at all, right?

Well, if you think this way, it’s time to reconsider your attitude. If you’re honest, you’ll admit that you’re more than alone next to this man.

Então, que mudanças cruciais sentiria na sua vida se se livrasse dele? O que é que seria diferente?

Trust me—you don’t have him and you’re already alone and single.

4. You’re sorry for all that time you’ve wasted on him

You’ve been chasing this guy for as long as you can remember. You’ve invested all of your energy and patience into him.

You’ve wasted months or even years of your life on him. You’ve put so much effort into this quasi-relationship.

So, now, you don’t want to give up when you think you’re so close to the finish line. You want to have your way, after all the sacrifices you’ve made to finally have him as your boyfriend.

Well, let me tell you one thing—it’s much better to throw away all this time you’ve wasted until now than to continue wasting more days and weeks of your life.

Além disso, toda esta experiência ensinou-lhe algumas lições de vida novas, dolorosas mas valiosas. Encare-a como um período de tempo em que teve a oportunidade de aprender, em vez de um tempo passado em vão.

5. Não há ninguém melhor por cá

Por fim, continua a perseguir este homem porque está convencido de que todos os homens são iguais.

Even if you decide to give a new man a shot, he’ll also end up hurting you and breaking your heart so why wouldn’t you just stay next to this douchebag?

After all, it’s always better to stick to your enemies than to allow new friends into your life, who will also end up becoming your enemies.

You know the essence of this man’s being. You know what you can expect of him and you don’t want to bother with someone you have no clue about.

Well, let me tell you that you think this way because you never really gave someone else a chance. You can’t know what will happen until you try, can you?