Mulher revela 5 regras não negociáveis que o namorado deve seguir
Toda a gente tem expectativas diferentes quando se trata do seu parceiro de sonho. Talvez eu até já tenha tido demasiadas. No entanto, sempre pensei que it’s good to be direct with what you want and communicate your boundaries so there’s no room for misunderstanding.
Apesar de, por vezes, assumirmos que algumas expectativas são normais e comuns, para alguns podem ser ultrajantes. We differ in our opinions of what’s right and wrong and therefore it’s important to be clear from the very beginning.
Taylor Donoghue fez-se entender ao mostrar a sua lista de 5 regras ao mundo inteiro no TikTok! Now guys can’t say they didn’t know what they got themselves into!
1. Nada de melhores amigas!
Começou o vídeo por afirmar a sua primeira e principal regra:
“First is super obvious, but I would never allow my boyfriend to have a girl best friend. I don’t believe in them.”
Before anyone gets pissed off, she explained that it’s okay if he has female acquaintances, but o lugar de melhor amigo está reservado apenas para homens! Acrescentou ainda que ter uma melhor amiga pode ser complicado e ninguém quer isso.
Some agreed with this and one woman even said she didn’t think this would be a problem so she allowed her boyfriend to have a girl roommate. Let’s just say it didn’t end well.
2. A localização deve estar sempre ligada!
Esta é uma grande bandeira vermelha para algumas pessoas. Consideram que está a invadir a privacidade do seu parceiro, mas Taylor thinks it’s more a safety measure. Disse ela:
“I feel like you get to a point where when you’ve been dating someone for so long, having each other’s like locations on like “Find My iPhone” is more of a safety thing. I just want to make sure he’s okay.”
However, she’s not purely concerned with safety because she also thinks not letting your partner know where you are is shady. Others think she just has trust issues.
I kinda agree because me and my partner never have our locations on. If he tells me he’s going to some pub with the boys, I know he’s going there. But we’re also grown-ups who have free will to go where we want without someone breathing down our neck.
3. Os clubes de striptease são um grande NÃO!
Prosseguiu com a terceira regra, dizendo que esta pode ser controversa, mas her record is set straight – no strip clubs! Como ela explicou:
“The third thing I never allow my boyfriend to do is go to strip clubs. And I feel like this is a controversial one, and some couples go to them together. But nope, not our scene. You can go to bars, you can have a guys’ night, but strip clubs… Absolutely not.”
Are there really people who allow their significant others to go to strip clubs? Couldn’t be me, but you do you.
4. As finanças são divididas a 50-50!
I feel like guys really loved this one…wonder why. As mulheres do outro lado tinham opiniões diferentes. Acham que os homens deviam, pelo menos, pagar os seus encontros. No entanto, Taylor disse:
“The fourth thing I would never allow my boyfriend to do is pay all the bills. I feel like the men paying for 100% of everything is just like wrong. And I’m not even trying to sound ‘pick me.’”
I think paying 50-50 is slowly becoming a standard set for women. They want us to be homemakers but also contribute financially. And while this would be fine if men did the same, they mostly don’t participate in the homemaking part at all.
5. Gostar de fotos de biquíni está fora dos limites!
Taylor thinks liking provocative pictures of girls on Instagram is a major red flag saying it simply doesn’t look good from the perspective of others:
“I feel like there’s been so much more awareness on this, but it always makes me sad when I see someone that’s like married with kids or just in a relationship and they’re like, liking girls’ photos, especially very like provocative ones. I’m just like, it’s not a good look.”
Ela considera que esta é uma expetativa bastante óbvia that doesn’t need further explanation. And while some agreed with everything she listed, others said it doesn’t make sense to have these rules.
É controladora ou razoável?
Um disse que estes são os princípios básicos:
“I agree with you on every one of these. It is basic respect and for the health of the relationship.”
Alguém concordou dizendo:
“These are all completely normal things everyone should expect in a relationship. How is it a red flag? Basic respect has just gone…”
Um homem ficou chocado com os comentários negativos:
“What are these comments!? it’s not controlling or being insecure. It’s called being reasonable and having standards.”
A lot of people said Tayor is controlling and they wouldn’t set these rules:
“I hope this works for you cause there’s no way I’m telling my man what’s allowed and what’s not… he’s an adult.”
Some think we shouldn’t have any rules:
“I have one rule … you won’t tell me what I can and can’t do and vice versa. Been happily married for 25 years.”
Enquanto as pessoas estavam a discutir se isto era normal ou não, outros queriam saber se o namorado tinha algumas regras para ela e ela, felizmente, fez outra vídeo sobre isso.
Her boyfriend said he only has 4 simple rules – no flirting with guys, no liking pictures of other men, and no lip fillers. He also said he wants her to update him every hour or two when she’s out without him.
Everyone seemed more chill with his boundaries and said this is a bare minimum. Of course, everything’s fine and nothing’s “controlling” or “insecure” when it comes to men sharing their rules.
O que é que acha? Têm algumas regras na vossa relação?
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