Una mujer revela 5 reglas no negociables que su novio debe seguir
Todo el mundo tiene expectativas diferentes cuando se trata de la pareja de sus sueños. Puede que yo haya tenido demasiadas. Sin embargo, siempre pensé it’s good to be direct with what you want and communicate your boundaries so there’s no room for misunderstanding.
Aunque a veces asumimos que algunas expectativas son normales y comunes, para algunos pueden ser escandalosas. We differ in our opinions of what’s right and wrong and therefore it’s important to be clear from the very beginning.
Definitivamente, Taylor Donoghue se expresó alto y claro al mostrar su lista de 5 reglas al mundo entero en TikTok! Now guys can’t say they didn’t know what they got themselves into!
1. ¡Nada de mejores amigas!
Comenzó el vídeo declarando su primera y principal regla:
“First is super obvious, but I would never allow my boyfriend to have a girl best friend. I don’t believe in them.”
Before anyone gets pissed off, she explained that it’s okay if he has female acquaintances, but ¡el puesto de mejor amigo está reservado sólo para hombres! Añadió que tener una mejor amiga podría ser complicado y nadie quiere eso.
Some agreed with this and one woman even said she didn’t think this would be a problem so she allowed her boyfriend to have a girl roommate. Let’s just say it didn’t end well.
2. La ubicación debe estar encendida en todo momento.
Esta es una gran señal de alarma para algunas personas. Consideran que invade la intimidad de su pareja, pero Taylor thinks it’s more a safety measure. Dijo:
“I feel like you get to a point where when you’ve been dating someone for so long, having each other’s like locations on like “Find My iPhone” is more of a safety thing. I just want to make sure he’s okay.”
However, she’s not purely concerned with safety because she also thinks not letting your partner know where you are is shady. Others think she just has trust issues.
I kinda agree because me and my partner never have our locations on. If he tells me he’s going to some pub with the boys, I know he’s going there. But we’re also grown-ups who have free will to go where we want without someone breathing down our neck.
3. ¡Los clubes de striptease son un gran NO!
Continuó con la tercera regla diciendo que esto podría ser controvertido, pero her record is set straight – no strip clubs! Como ella misma explicó:
“The third thing I never allow my boyfriend to do is go to strip clubs. And I feel like this is a controversial one, and some couples go to them together. But nope, not our scene. You can go to bars, you can have a guys’ night, but strip clubs… Absolutely not.”
Are there really people who allow their significant others to go to strip clubs? Couldn’t be me, but you do you.
4. Las finanzas se reparten al 50%.
I feel like guys really loved this one…wonder why. Las mujeres del otro bando tenían opiniones diferentes. Creen que los hombres deberían al menos pagar por sus citas. Sin embargo, Taylor dijo:
“The fourth thing I would never allow my boyfriend to do is pay all the bills. I feel like the men paying for 100% of everything is just like wrong. And I’m not even trying to sound ‘pick me.’”
I think paying 50-50 is slowly becoming a standard set for women. They want us to be homemakers but also contribute financially. And while this would be fine if men did the same, they mostly don’t participate in the homemaking part at all.
5. Está prohibido que te gusten las fotos en bikini.
Taylor thinks liking provocative pictures of girls on Instagram is a major red flag saying it simply doesn’t look good from the perspective of others:
“I feel like there’s been so much more awareness on this, but it always makes me sad when I see someone that’s like married with kids or just in a relationship and they’re like, liking girls’ photos, especially very like provocative ones. I’m just like, it’s not a good look.”
Considera que se trata de una expectativa bastante obvia that doesn’t need further explanation. And while some agreed with everything she listed, others said it doesn’t make sense to have these rules.
¿Es controladora o razonable?
Uno dijo que estos son los fundamentos:
“I agree with you on every one of these. It is basic respect and for the health of the relationship.”
Alguien estuvo de acuerdo diciendo:
“These are all completely normal things everyone should expect in a relationship. How is it a red flag? Basic respect has just gone…”
Un hombre se sorprendió por los comentarios negativos:
“What are these comments!? it’s not controlling or being insecure. It’s called being reasonable and having standards.”
A lot of people said Tayor is controlling and they wouldn’t set these rules:
“I hope this works for you cause there’s no way I’m telling my man what’s allowed and what’s not… he’s an adult.”
Some think we shouldn’t have any rules:
“I have one rule … you won’t tell me what I can and can’t do and vice versa. Been happily married for 25 years.”
Mientras la gente discutía si esto era normal o no, otros querían saber si su novio tenía algunas reglas para ella y ella felizmente hizo otro vídeo sobre eso.
Her boyfriend said he only has 4 simple rules – no flirting with guys, no liking pictures of other men, and no lip fillers. He also said he wants her to update him every hour or two when she’s out without him.
Everyone seemed more chill with his boundaries and said this is a bare minimum. Of course, everything’s fine and nothing’s “controlling” or “insecure” when it comes to men sharing their rules.
¿Qué opina usted? ¿Tienes reglas en tu relación?
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