10 regras de relacionamento imperdíveis de que ninguém fala

There are oh-so-many rules out there on how people should behave in relationships: Wait three days to call her, don’t kiss him on your first date, and many, many others.

What’s very weird to me is that other, so much more important rules get overlooked. Every relationship is different, but there are some common sense rules you should follow at all times.

Apresentamos-lhe uma lista dessas regras de ouro que nunca deve ignorar.

1. Aprender com o seu passado

Poderá estar a pensar que as suas relações passadas devem ser esquecidas no momento em que entra numa nova. Isso não é de todo verdade.

While you shouldn’t dwell on the past or talk too much about it with your partner, you should absolutely learn something from it.

Cada relação é única, mas há muitas coisas que pode aprender sobre si próprio que o podem ajudar a construir uma relação mais feliz e saudável com alguém novo.

2. Your partner can’t read your mind

Está a contar que o seu parceiro o conheça tão bem que reconheça, em qualquer momento, o que precisa ou quer.

No matter how much they love you and how much they want to please you, it’s impossible for them to always know what you need at any time.

Deve falar sempre sobre os seus sentimentos e dizer-lhes diretamente tudo o que quer ou precisa deles.

Also, if something bothers you or you get angry at them for any reason, don’t wait for them to figure it out on their own, simply tell them.

3. Ninguém pode ser perfeito

No one is perfect. There will always be some flaws in your partner’s character.

You have your own flaws, right? Accept that your partner won’t always be able to do the right thing and prepare yourself to forgive them.

Mostre-lhe que compreende que ele pode cometer um erro e aceite as suas desculpas. Claro, se o que ele fez for algo que possa perdoar.

Also, make sure to forgive yourself and don’t beat yourself up too much if you do something wrong.

4. Pensar bem antes de dizer e fazer as coisas

Words can really be hurtful. Especially when you’re fighting, make sure you don’t say something that would offend your partner, especially if you don’t mean it.

Mesmo que o perdoem, as palavras ficarão gravadas na sua mente para sempre.

O que disser ou fizer pode ser muito difícil de retirar, por isso pense bem antes de destruir a sua relação.

5. É preciso muito tempo para conhecer verdadeiramente uma pessoa

You might be thinking that being in a relationship for a couple of months or even a year means that you know your partner perfectly, but that’s really not true.

São precisos anos para conhecer verdadeiramente uma pessoa.

É necessário que tenham passado por muitas coisas diferentes para se conhecerem verdadeiramente, por isso, deixe algum espaço para elementos inesperados que possa descobrir sobre o seu parceiro.

6. Don’t discuss your relationship in too much detail with others

Talking a bit about your relationship with your friends is fine and expected, but going into too much detail is downright breaking your partner’s trust. No one likes being talked about that way.

You wouldn’t want your partner to discuss everything about you with his friends, right? It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing.

Há coisas que é melhor manter entre si e o seu parceiro.

7. Nunca deixes de mostrar que te preocupas

As time passes, it can be easy to start taking your partner for granted. Make sure you don’t do this. Continue to do all the lovely things you were doing at the beginning of your relationship.

Always act like they are the most important person in your life and you’d never allow yourself to lose them.

Keep acting like you’re trying to get them to fall for you – that’s the only recipe to keep them forever.

8. Value your partner’s (and your own) personal time

When you love someone, you want to spend a lot of time with them, that’s a given. Make sure you don’t overdo it.

Even though you’d like to be with them all the time, you need to let them have their life without you.

They need to have time for their family, friends, and personal interests. The same goes for you. Just because you met someone amazing doesn’t mean they have to be your whole life.

It’s important to continue to maintain your other relationships and hobbies, and have time apart from your partner.

9. Don’t underestimate the power of thoughtfulness

It’s amazing having someone who listens to you – someone who always remembers the smallest things you mention and then uses them to surprise you.

Encontre sempre uma forma de fazer com que o seu parceiro se sinta apreciado. Pequenas coisas podem ser muito importantes.

It’s not only the grand gestures that are important in showing love. Being thoughtful every day is what counts the most.

10. Discutir pode ser muito saudável

Arguing is not the end of the relationship. One fight doesn’t mean you guys have to split up.

Ter discussões é um passo muito importante para conhecer melhor o seu parceiro e construir uma relação de que ambos gostem.

Make sure you don’t hit under the belt when you fight, and always remember you’re talking to the person you love and who loves you.

It’s unhealthy to keep silent about the things that bother you, and arguing can really clear the energy between you and your partner.