Os 5 principais assassinos de relacionamentos mais destrutivos (e como combatê-los)
Uma relação é um santuário entre duas pessoas, onde podem ser elas próprias verdadeiras e sem remorsos, sem medo de serem julgadas.
And every relationship is based on certain fundamentals that help it run smoothly and keep it from running into glitches and obstacles. It’s really simple—if you don’t take care of your relationship, sooner or later it’s doomed to fail.
Por isso, se quer manter a sua relação saudável, feliz e duradoura muito tempoPara além disso, deve estar ciente dos aspectos que comprovadamente fazem toda a diferença no que diz respeito à qualidade e longevidade do produto.
Passado algum tempo, a maioria dos casais sente-se demasiado à vontade um com o outro e esquece-se de ter cuidado com certas coisas que colocam a sua relação em risco de uma rutura prematura e desastrosa.
Para evitar complicações e manter a sua relação idílica como está, tenha cuidado com estes 5 assassinos de relações mais comuns.
1. Má capacidade de comunicação
Let’s face it, we all believe that we’re really good at communicating and getting our points across, but the truth is, we all mess up and let the intensity of the situation get the better of us at times.
It’s almost too easy turning a normal discussion into a yelling session where nothing productive gets done, and all that’s achieved is getting you both that much more agitated and annoyed at each other.
Da próxima vez que quiser tirar uma foto com o seu homemtente isto. Por muito irritante que ele possa ser nesse momento, conte até dez, organize os seus pensamentos e ouça o que ele tem para dizer.
Não interromper, não gritar e não apontar o dedo.
Hear him out, and try to understand where he’s coming from. In turn, he’ll do the same for you. Peacefully talk it out whilst trying to find common ground as opposed to assigning blame, which leaves nobody happy.
2. Incapacidade de confiar plenamente uns nos outros, mesmo quando isso significa dar um salto de fé
If you can’t trust your partner, you’ll never be truly happy in your relationship. The whole point of partnership is knowing that you’ve got each other’s backs no matter what.
But it doesn’t work if you doubt every other thing he says and does, which is ultimately a toxic waste of your time.
Sometimes, being in a relationship means taking a huge leap of faith and believing them even when you have no proof that they’re telling the truth.
Isto é a sua pessoa and your rock. Would he lie to you? I think you know the answer to this. So give him the benefit of the doubt, and trust that he’s making good decisions and keeping you in the loop.
Até que ele prove o contrário, opte por ter fé nele e deixe-se ser feliz sem esse peso desnecessário da desconfiança.
3. Identifying yourself solely as somebody’s girlfriend
Manter a sua própria identidade ao longo da relação é crucial para que esta dure e seja bem sucedida.
It’s cute when you’re so close that you finish each other’s sentences and don’t mind just napping when you’re together with no need to actually do anything. It feels nice whatever you do, as long as you’re together.
But don’t let your girlfriend role be your whole identity!
Remember who you are outside of your relationship,m and keep doing your own thing. Don’t neglect your people and passions, and make sure to find a balance between your two worlds.
You’re an amazing girlfriend and that’s a fantastic part of your life, but there is so much more to you than just that. So don’t lose sight of your other world, and be true to yourself.
4. Arranjar desculpas uns para os outros por medo de ficarem sozinhos
Sure, there will be times where you’ll both screw up, and the adult thing to do is forgive, learn from it, and move on.
Mas quando se trata de comportamento de merda e abuso emocionalSe não se tem uma relação com uma pessoa que nos rebaixa, não se deve de forma alguma desculpar esse tipo de comportamento. É incomensuravelmente melhor estar sozinho do que com alguém que o rebaixa.
Make sure you’re being treated right, and forgive only when your heart tells you it’s the right thing to do. If you sense your partner is genuinely sorry for certain actions that resulted in you being hurt, find it in your heart to forgive.
But never let it happen twice. One time is a mistake, two times – it’s a choice.
5. Not having each other’s backs through thick and thin
Sometimes, your partner will take on more than he can handle. At times, you won’t agree with his choices, but you need to let him do his thing, and if need be, let him learn from his mistakes.
É suposto apoiarem-se mutuamente no matter what. Even when it feels like it’s a bad idea, let him try, and cheer him on as loudly as you can.
It’s important that you have his back and vice versa because without each other’s support, where would you be?
Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader, and show him that you’ve got him—always. If he fails, be his shoulder to cry on, and if he succeeds, be a proud girlfriend!
Por vezes, estar presente e não interferir é a melhor coisa que se pode fazer.
You won’t always agree with his choices, but that doesn’t mean you can’t root for him to succeed. Estar presente even when it’s hard to do, and he’ll do the same for you.
