Quando sabemos que nunca vai dar certo, mas continuamos a voltar um para o outro

Sometimes, your love for someone is stronger than everything else. Sometimes, your mind simply can’t control your actions, no matter how hard you try. Sometimes, you need to put a stop to some things but you just can’t help yourself.

Se alguma vez esteve numa situação em que está louca por um homem mas sabe que não há futuro para os dois, sabe exatamente do que estou a falar.

Este homem abalou o teu mundo desde o primeiro momento em que o viste. E sabes que ele sente o mesmo por ti.

Vocês os dois são loucamente apaixonados um pelo outro and you can’t keep your hands off of one another.

Mas desde o momento em que o conheceste, soubeste ele era um problema. Sabias que os dois nunca poderiam encontrar paz um ao lado do outro.

Yes, you’ve always thought that he is your other half—you could never imagine loving someone that much.  

You both want things between you to work out badly but somehow that is not happening. You keep fighting and breaking up because you simply can’t get along.

And you don’t know why that is so. You don’t doubt his feelings and you are certain that you love him as well.

Apesar de tudo, continuam a voltar um para o outro. No fundo, ambos sabem que nunca conseguirão ter uma relação saudável e forte, mas há uma força inexplicável que os arrasta um para o outro.

Every time you break things off, you decide to call it quits for good. You decide this is the last time you’ll let this man into your life, because you know he is toxic for you.

It doesn’t have to mean that he is a bad guy—vocês os dois simplesmente não são adequados um para o outro. He wakes up the worst in you and that is something you don’t need in your life.

Mas sempre que ele vem a rastejar de voltae tu voltas a levá-lo, como se nada tivesse acontecido.

Embora saibas que não há futuro para vocês os dois, esperas secretamente que desta vez seja diferente. And I am here to tell you that it won’t.

Neither of you is obviously ready to change. You are both grown-ups and it would be absurd to expect either of you to change so that you could fit the other person’s standards.

It is possible that you are both hot-tempered or that your personalities simply don’t match.

The two of you have been together for ages and by now, you should’ve learned how to function together. But, obviously, that didn’t happen.

And if it hadn’t happened by now, why would you think it would in the future? Porque é que acha que desta vez vai ser diferente, se no passado as coisas acabaram sempre da mesma maneira?

Whatever it is that is keeping you two from being happy, it is obviously something that you can’t surpass and it’s time for you to stop running from that fact.

It’s time you accept the fact that your partner is not someone you need in your life, despite all the love you feel for him.

Sei que pensas que o amor verdadeiro pode derrotar tudo. E pode mesmo. But it’s obvious that this is not true love, as much as you wish for it to be.

True love shouldn’t make you feel like this. Yes, this guy gives you butterflies and passion you’ve never felt before, but admit it—you feel stressed and overwhelmed all the time.

Nunca se sabe qual é a nossa posição em relação a ele e nunca se sabe o que o futuro vos reserva. Embora isto possa parecer excitante no início, com o tempo torna-se cansativo.

True love will make you feel peaceful. It will feel like home. It will make all the puzzles fit in place and it will be everything you’ve been looking for all along, without even knowing it.

Por isso, por favor, para bem da sua saúde mental e física, seja o único a afastar-se. Porque isto não é amor verdadeiro—it’s torture.

I know you are scared of making the wrong decision and I know you don’t want to hurt yourself or your partner. And I am not going to lie to you—it won’t be easy.

Ficarás devastada quando finalmente puseres fim a esta charada. E vais sentir muito a falta dele.

You will cry, you will feel like you can’t live without him and you will want to go back to him. And this is when you’ll have to be the strongest.

This is when you’ll have to realize that sometimes o amor não é suficiente and this is when you’ll have to accept the fact that you’d never be happy with this guy.

But all of this pain will go away in time. And you’ll be grateful you finally ended it. You’ll be thankful you saved yourself from a lifetime of misery.