Quando si sa che non funzionerà mai, ma si continua a tornare l'uno dall'altro

Sometimes, your love for someone is stronger than everything else. Sometimes, your mind simply can’t control your actions, no matter how hard you try. Sometimes, you need to put a stop to some things but you just can’t help yourself.

Se vi siete mai trovati in una situazione in cui siete pazzi di un ragazzo ma sapete che non c'è futuro per voi due, sapete esattamente di cosa sto parlando.

Questo ragazzo ha sconvolto il vostro mondo dal primo momento in cui lo avete visto. E sai che lui prova la stessa cosa per te.

Voi due siete follemente innamorati l'uno dell'altro and you can’t keep your hands off of one another.

Ma dal momento in cui l'ha incontrato, ha capito che era un problema. Sapeva che voi due non avreste mai potuto trovare pace l'uno accanto all'altro.

Yes, you’ve always thought that he is your other half—you could never imagine loving someone that much.  

You both want things between you to work out badly but somehow that is not happening. You keep fighting and breaking up because you simply can’t get along.

And you don’t know why that is so. You don’t doubt his feelings and you are certain that you love him as well.

Nonostante tutto, continuate a tornare l'uno dall'altra. Nel profondo, entrambi sapete che non riuscirete mai ad avere una relazione sana e forte, ma c'è una forza inspiegabile che vi trascina l'uno verso l'altro.

Every time you break things off, you decide to call it quits for good. You decide this is the last time you’ll let this man into your life, because you know he is toxic for you.

It doesn’t have to mean that he is a bad guy—voi due non siete semplicemente fatti l'uno per l'altra. He wakes up the worst in you and that is something you don’t need in your life.

Ma ogni volta torna strisciandoLo riprendete, come se non fosse successo nulla.

Pur sapendo che non c'è futuro per voi due, sperate segretamente che questa volta sia diverso. And I am here to tell you that it won’t.

Neither of you is obviously ready to change. You are both grown-ups and it would be absurd to expect either of you to change so that you could fit the other person’s standards.

It is possible that you are both hot-tempered or that your personalities simply don’t match.

The two of you have been together for ages and by now, you should’ve learned how to function together. But, obviously, that didn’t happen.

And if it hadn’t happened by now, why would you think it would in the future? Perché pensate che questa volta sarà diverso, quando in passato le cose sono finite sempre allo stesso modo?

Whatever it is that is keeping you two from being happy, it is obviously something that you can’t surpass and it’s time for you to stop running from that fact.

It’s time you accept the fact that your partner is not someone you need in your life, despite all the love you feel for him.

So che pensate che il vero amore possa sconfiggere qualsiasi cosa. E certamente può farlo. But it’s obvious that this is not true love, as much as you wish for it to be.

True love shouldn’t make you feel like this. Yes, this guy gives you butterflies and passion you’ve never felt before, but admit it—you feel stressed and overwhelmed all the time.

Non sapete mai a che punto siete con lui e non sapete mai cosa vi riserva il futuro. Anche se all'inizio può sembrare eccitante, con il tempo diventa estenuante.

True love will make you feel peaceful. It will feel like home. It will make all the puzzles fit in place and it will be everything you’ve been looking for all along, without even knowing it.

Quindi, per favore, per il bene della vostra salute mentale e fisica, siate voi ad andarvene. Perché questo non è vero amore—it’s torture.

I know you are scared of making the wrong decision and I know you don’t want to hurt yourself or your partner. And I am not going to lie to you—it won’t be easy.

Sarete devastati una volta che avrete finalmente messo fine a questa farsa. E vi mancherà come l'inferno.

You will cry, you will feel like you can’t live without him and you will want to go back to him. And this is when you’ll have to be the strongest.

This is when you’ll have to realize that sometimes l'amore non basta and this is when you’ll have to accept the fact that you’d never be happy with this guy.

But all of this pain will go away in time. And you’ll be grateful you finally ended it. You’ll be thankful you saved yourself from a lifetime of misery.