Amamo-nos mas não podemos estar juntos: O que fazer
‘We love each other but can’t be together’… Yes, there are two sides of love, and this is the not-so-pretty one. O tipo de amor proibido, quase impossível pode magoar mais uma pessoa.
It’s when your heart is filled with love for some person, but at the same time, you’re a passar pelo desgosto mais doloroso. You love them, but you know you shouldn’t, and it’s killing you inside.
Indeed, our heart has that awful habit of ignoring our mind a little too often. It’s just that no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want it, you just can’t control it.
You can’t control your romantic emotions nor do you have the power to delete someone from your heart. No entanto, deve saber que independentemente da situação, amor verdadeiro is always worth the fight. And, I’m here to help you come out from that battle as a winner.
We Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together: 8 Possible Reasons, With Relationship Advice
There are various reasons why two people in love can’t be together. I’ve selected the most common ones and provided them with some efficient relationship advice.
Conhece o ditado, a procrastinação traz prejuízos… So, let’s find a way to build a bridge between you and your loved one, and make things between you work.
1. We love each other but can’t be together because of distance.
I know… being in uma relação à distância é uma seca. Quando estávamos a namorar, o meu marido teve de se mudar para longe por causa do trabalho dele e juro que foi o ano mais difícil da minha vida.
No entanto, nunca considerámos a separação como uma opção. We made a promise to each other that we’ll stay together no matter what, and that no distance will be able to separate us.
To make a long story short, we endured it all, and now, four years later, we’re happily married. Your love story can have the same ending, but only if you make efforts to fazer com que a sua relação à distância resulte.
- A compreensão e a comunicação regular são a arma mais poderosa contra a distância
You should simply behave like you’re in a ‘normal’ relationship. Mantenham-se em contacto regularmente, falem e façam facetime um com o outro todos os dias, falem sobre os vossos dias, planeiem as vossas férias juntos, encontrem uma forma de manter a intimidade alive whether it’s through sexting or whatever…
Ser paciente e compreensão acima de tudo. Não se esqueça de que a distância não significa nada quando duas pessoas se amam sinceramente e querem ficar juntas, aconteça o que acontecer.
2. We love each other but can’t be together because of different faiths.
I always try to comfort myself that our society has overcome these faith-related issues, but unfortunately, that’s not true. These things still exist and many couples decide to break up because of as suas diferentes religiões.
Please don’t become one of those couples. God loves us all, and in His eyes, we’re all the same.
- Tudo começa e termina com respeito e aceitação
You can always agree to disagree about some things; however, you shouldn’t desrespeito or completely refuse your partner’s values and beliefs. If they’re important to them, such things must be important to you, too.
In the end, different holidays come with different faiths. That means you’ll have more reason for celebrations and more reasons to be happy and surrounded by people you love.
3. We love each other but can’t be together because we’re committed to other people.
You’re deeply in love with each other, but are one or both of you married? The fact is, these things happen every day, and that’s exactly the reason why divorce exists.
However, don’t engage in any kind of relationship while you don’t end your marriage. Estar numa relação com um homem casado/woman is terribly difficult and almost never ends in a good way… trust me, I know it best.
- Ambos têm de escolher um lado
Nesse processo de decisão, deve perguntar a si próprio uma coisa e ser brutalmente honesto com a resposta. Are you truly in love with each other or do you think it’s just passion or infatuation?
Isto pode ajudar-te a encontrar a resposta; 10 diferenças cruciais entre amor e paixão.
If you have any doubts regarding the strength of your love, you might make a huge mistake by leaving your partner… a mistake that will haunt you for the rest of your life.
However, if you’re sure of what you feel for each other, then it’s unfair to lie to your life partner. You need to find the strength to deixar o seu casamento e ficar ao lado uns dos outros, mesmo que o mundo inteiro esteja contra vós.
4. We love each other but can’t be together because we keep hurting each other.
Gaslighting, abuso emocionalA falta de compreensão e de respeito, a manipulação, jealousy… São estes os padrões da vossa relação?
Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you also have to be blind. It’s good that both of you are aware of your unhealthy relationship, but it’s not good that you’re thinking about desistir do vosso amor.
If one person keeps hurting the other, then it’s amor não correspondidoE não vale a pena lutar por esse tipo de relação. No entanto, se ambos forem igualmente culpados desses erros, podem fazer com que a vossa relação volte a funcionar se a vontade de se esforçar for mútua.
- Trabalhe na sua relação em vez de desistir dela
Só os cobardes abandonam e desistem quando as coisas se tornam difíceis. O objetivo é ficar e continuar a lutar.
Já deu um grande passo em frente consertar a sua relação; you admitted that it’s toxic. Agora, só precisa de encontrar uma forma de espremer essa toxicidade e torná-la novamente saudável.
Just because you walked onto a few obstacles on your way doesn’t mean you can’t be together anymore. You can and you must for the sake of your love.
5. We love each other but can’t be together because our families don’t approve of it.
No matter how much you try to prove that your love is sincere and that you’re really made for each other, your families just won’t support a vossa relação.
Percebo porque é que acham que seria melhor seguirem caminhos separados e continuarem com as vossas vidas. They’re the people you love the most in the entire world, and it’s completely normal that their opinions matter to you that much.
However, shouldn’t your happiness be the most important thing for them? If you two make each other happy, aren’t they being unfair for standing in the way of your love?
- Ter o apoio dos seus entes queridos é importante, mas tem de decidir quais são as suas prioridades
Têm duas opções: ou se abandonam um ao outro só para agradar às vossas famílias, ou vão contra elas e lutam pelo vosso amor.
I agree… both of them are hard ones. However, together, you can find a way to deal with your families while, on the other hand, if you choose the first option, you might regret it for the rest of your life.
After all, they’ll have to find a way to accept you two as a couple sooner or later. I think they won’t risk losing their family members just because they don’t particularly like your life partners.
6. We love each other but can’t be together because our life goals don’t align.
Hoje em dia, tornou-se um equívoco comum pensar que duas pessoas numa parceria amorosa têm de ter as mesmas ambições, objectivos e metas para o futuro ou, pelo menos, semelhantes.
Pelo contrário, o objetivo do uma relação saudável é manter a sua independência. Pode ter diferentes objectivos de vidamas devem apoiar-se e ajudar-se mutuamente a atingi-los.
- Compromise! It’s always better to bend a little than to break into pieces
Para que uma relação funcione, devem partilhar apenas um objetivo: envelhecer juntos. Se esse for o único objetivo que os dois têm em comum, nada mais importa.
Don’t let your selfish desires ruin what you two have. I’m not saying you should give up on your goals and dreams, but by cultivating acceptance and respect, you will be able to find common ground… the ground to build your future together.
7. We love each other but can’t be together because of the big age gap.
Vocês os dois estão apaixonados, mas a enorme diferença de idades between you is causing you real problems, and you think it’ll never allow you to be happy together.
Of course, it’s not only age, but all the differences and different life experiences that come with it… para além disso, presumo que as vossas famílias são fortemente contra a vossa relaçãonão é?
Well, let me tell you one thing: none of those things matter because you’re looking at it from a very wrong perspective…
- Deve encará-lo como uma oportunidade e não como um obstáculo
Most couples are terrified of their differences because they think it’ll ruin their relationship sooner or later. Unfortunately, they’ve no idea how wrong they truly are.
Essas diferenças podem, de facto, aproximar duas pessoas. As diferenças permitem-nos descobrir e aprender muitas coisas uns com os outros, o que só pode resultar no reforço da ligação entre parceiros.
After all, love doesn’t care for age, faith, race, and such things… actually, when two people truly love each other, nothing else matters except that love.
8. We love each other but can’t be together because of his/her infidelity.
Estava numa relação amorosa, mas, de repente, o seu conto de fadas foi destruído porque o seu parceiro traiu-o?
Now, you know you still love them and they claim they love you, too, and how it was all just a mistake they don’t plan to repeat ever again. However, do you think that you aren’t able to leave their mistakes behind, but at the same time, you think you can’t leave them behind either?
Para ser sincero, escolher entre perdoar um traidor and letting go of them is a tough call, but you’ll have to decide what to do soon. I hope this will help you make the right decision…
- O perdão é a forma mais elevada de amor
There is nothing wrong with forgiving your partner for cheating on you. However, it’s only if you’re doing it for the right reason… if you’re doing it because you really love them and see that they honestly regret their mistake.
Os erros tornaram-se uma grande parte das nossas vidas, e a verdade é que ninguém está imune a cometer erros, especialmente no que diz respeito à nossa vida amorosa.
On the other hand, if you really can’t find the strength to forgive your partner for betraying you in such a way, you really shouldn’t continue that relationship. It’ll be a deeply unhealthy relationship, and sooner or later, you will break up and it’ll be for good.
What Do You Do When You Love Someone But Can’t Be Together?
Being in this situation can seriously impact your mental health, especially if you don’t know how to cope with it. Here are a few tips that will help you keep your own sanity during these hard times in your life.
1. Seja realista e veja as coisas como elas são.
Don’t get me wrong… you should have the faith that one day, you’ll overcome obstacles and finally be together. However, what you shouldn’t do is keep living in hope.
You can spend some time there, but sooner or later, you’ll have to step into reality and stay there. Por muito dura ou injusta que a vida se torne, não temos outra escolha senão vivê-la.
You have to keep that realistic point of view for the sake of your own sanity. Living in a bubble may work for some time, but once you step out of it, you’ll be enfrentar o desgosto mais doloroso da sua vida.
2. Accept that some people simply aren’t meant to be together.
Algumas coisas estão fora do nosso controlo e temos de o aceitar. No matter how much you want something to work out, God has other plans for you, and that’s something you can’t change.
Algumas pessoas, apesar dos fortes sentimentos que nutrem uma pela outra, simplesmente não são destinado a ser ou ficar juntos para sempre.
Pode aceitá-lo e concentrar-se na sua cura ou pode continuar a viver numa mentira e continuar a esperar que o impossível aconteça. Para ser honesto, ambas as escolhas são difíceis, mas a primeira é de facto muito menos dolorosa.
3. Lidar com as suas emoções de uma forma saudável.
Don’t even think about suppressing your emotions. You’re separated from the person you love… this is not the time to pretend you’re strong.
You may think that bottling up your emotions helps you ease the pain. But, the truth is, it’ll only prolong your heartbreak because sooner or later, those emotions will find a way out.
Encontrar uma forma de controlar isso montanha-russa de emoções avassaladoras you’re currently dealing with. Cry if you have the need to, break something if it’ll help you with the anger that is eating you inside. Don’t let your emotions consume you… find a healthy way to deal with them.
4. Confie no seu melhor amigo.
Partilhar as suas mágoas com os seus melhores amigos e familiares é a única terapia de que necessita. Even if they can’t offer you advice about what you should do, they will be there for you and they will try everything just to see you smile again.
It’s perfectly normal that you can’t deal with all of this alone. Permita que os seus entes queridos o ajudem e o confortem.
This is really not the time for you to act like you’re so brave and all of that nonsense. Trust me… when it comes to love, we’re all weak and we all need help.
5. Por muito que os ames, deves sempre amar-te mais a ti próprio.
A única pessoa que estará consigo para o resto da sua vida é você mesmo. That’s the only fact, and it’s time to remind yourself of that.
Nunca se deve amar outra pessoa mais do que se ama a si próprio. Lembra-te sempre de uma coisa; you’re the only person you can’t live without.
6. Se não vale a pena lutar por isso, encontre a força para o deixar ir.
If it’s really pointless to keep fighting for it, you need to gather the strength and courage to seguir em frente. Let go of what can’t be and save yourself.
It’s pointless to hold onto something you know can never work. It can only keep breaking your heart, every single day, piece by piece…
7. Acreditar no poder do tempo.
Talvez they aren’t your soulmate after all. Talvez sejam, mas conheceram-se na altura errada.
O tempo o dirá. Não tem outra opção senão dar tempo ao tempo e ver o que acontece. If you’re meant to be together, you’ll cross paths in the future, and you’ll never separate again. On the other hand, if they aren’t your destiny, time will bring you peace and healing.
É possível estar apaixonado sem estar junto?
Unfortunately, you can. In fact, the pain and the longing can intensify the love you feel for them even if they’re taken away from you forever.
Even if many bad things happen between you, even if they’re far away from you, even if you decided to part ways years ago, you can still be in love with them like the very first time you meet them.
Whether we like it or not, love isn’t something that can be controlled. Only our heart has the privilege to decide who it’ll let in and how long that person will stay there.
O botão para desligar as emoções não existe nem nunca existirá. O coração quer o que quer, e não há absolutamente nada que se possa fazer.
We Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together Quotes
You can also seek solace in these powerful ‘we love each other but can’t be together’ quotes.
1. “A flame may love a snowflake, but they can never be together without each harming the other.” – Chris Colfer
2. “I don’t cry because we’ve been separated by distance, and for a matter of years. Why? Because for as long as we share the same sky and breathe the same air, we’re still together.” – Donna Lynn Hope
3. “My heart and mind are telling me two different things. My heart is telling me that this is a great love. My mind is telling me that there is a difference between real love and forbidden love. My mind is also telling me that I shouldn’t want to be with you.” – Cassandra Clare
4. “I love you more than I could ever describe, but our time has come and gone. I don’t want to end things like this, and I don’t give up hope. Maybe someday, we will meet again and it will be back like it used to.” – Unknown
5. “Even though we were never supposed to be together, I can’t be with anyone else, no matter the consequences.” – Nicole Gulla
6. “And then, when there is nothing else between us but love, we can begin to find a way to truly be together.” – S.J. Watson
7. “Our forbidden love was never meant to survive. I had no idea life could be this hard without you with me. I see clearly now that we weren’t meant to be together. The love we have is a forbidden love.” – John West
Reflexões finais
‘We love each other but can’t be together’ is the sentence I hate the most because nothing is impossible with amor verdadeiro. I believe with all my heart that love is the most powerful force in the universe, and the only one that’s capable of making real wonders.
Sometimes, you need exactly that… a wonder. On the other hand, sometimes, a bit of faith combined with mutual effort is more than enough in order to fazer funcionar uma relação saudável.
If it’s truly impossible for you to be together, then you must know that it isn’t amor verdadeiro afinal de contas. E isso tornará o processo de seguir em frente muito mais fácil para si.
One day, you’ll conheça a sua alma gémea; the person who’ll show you what true love really is. At that moment, it’ll be perfectly clear to you why this relationship couldn’t survive.
