14 Sinais inconfundíveis de que a sua mulher o quer deixar
A verdade é que, na maioria dos casos, o marido é o último a aperceber-se dos sinais de que a mulher o quer deixar.
You simply don’t want to see the facts and you’re lying to yourself that it’s nothing but a short term crisis in your marriage. However, there are times when, like it or not, the harsh reality must be faced.
Times when a husband has to accept that his marriage is coming to an end, that his wife no longer loves him, and that she’ll probably file for divorce soon.
So, if you are not sure whether you’re imagining things or there really is something to worry about in your marriage, we’re here to help.
Basta ler a seguinte lista dos sinais mais comuns de que uma mulher quer deixar o marido e ver se se identifica com algum deles.
1. She is always picking fights…
Todos os casais discutem e é inevitável que, a dada altura, você e o seu cônjuge também discutam sobre algumas coisas que mais tarde se revelam tolas e sem importância.
After all, I’m sure you’ve had disagreements since the first day of your relação a longo prazo.
No entanto, agora tudo parece estar diferente. De facto, parece que a sua mulher está constantemente a arranjar discussões, como se gostasse de discutir consigo.
She acts as if she waits for a perfect opportunity to fight about literally anything. Well, if this is the case, it’s definitely an alarming sign that she might be thinking about divorcing you.
However, there is a possibility that she doesn’t have a “strong” enough reason to leave.
This woman clearly doesn’t have the courage to tell you straightforwardly that she wants out of the marriage, so she is making up reasons to clear her conscience.
Of course, you’re always wrong in all of these arguments.
It’s actually pretty simple: for her, it’s easier to perceive you as the bad guy than admit that she is responsible for the breakup of your marriage.
She is doing her best to provoke you into saying things you don’t actually mean or doing something to prove that she is completely right for wanting to start the divorce process.
Além disso, há claramente algumas questões não resolvidas entre vocês os dois e bagagem emocional do passado que está a causar esta tensão que ambos sentem neste momento.
Maybe you haven’t worked on your problems properly and have tried to sweep them under the carpet. Well, everything you’ve both tried to run away from has risen to the surface.
Pode parecer que você e a sua mulher estão a discutir por causa de tudo.
If your wife is constantly picking fights, she is clearly not satisfied with your marriage but she doesn’t have the bravery to tackle some of the more serious issues.
Consequently, that dissatisfaction shows in your everyday life and it results in this drama you’re going through right now.
2. …or she’s stopped arguing completely
This might sound odd but if you’re wondering how to tell if your wife wants to leave you, you should also pay attention to the way she avoids arguments.
A verdade é que demasiadas lutas nunca fizeram um relação saudável any good. However, don’t think it’s a good sign if your partner doesn’t want to argue with you at all.
Acredita em mim: desde que uma mulher se preocupe, ela gosta de si. Ela pode parecer irritante com todos os seus pedidos, mas isso é um sinal de que ela ainda o ama e continua a investir em si.
Enquanto ela se queixar de alguma coisa no vosso casamento, isso significa que está a tentar mudar as coisas para melhor. Significa que ela tem esperança de que pode fazer a diferença.
However, once a woman becomes silent on the storms that are happening between you, sadly she’s let you go and there is not much you can do.
Even though she hasn’t told you this directly, inside of her head, your marriage is pretty much over.
At first, you might enjoy this kind of environment in your relationship. Everything may seem to be going smoothly and it might appear that you’ve finally achieved peace.
No entanto, este tipo de situação pode ser bastante alarmante.
This is especially the case if your wife suddenly changed her ways and shifted from being a drama queen to someone you can’t fight with, even if you want to.
Sadly, this means that she’s probably given up on your marriage.
Esta mulher está cansada de se repetir e de discutir as mesmas coisas durante anos e acha que qualquer outra conversa é completamente inútil.
She has no energy left to fight with you or to fight for your marriage. She literally doesn’t care what happens next.
Basically, this woman doesn’t want to work on your issues. She doesn’t care if you can’t find the middle ground and she is not interested in putting any effort into your marriage anymore.
She doesn’t care if you do things your way, if some things are left unsaid, or if you think that she is wrong about something.
In fact, the biggest problem is that it looks like she’s lost all of her emotions towards you. She doesn’t hate you but she doesn’t love you either.
This woman has absolutely no hope that your marriage can be saved. She’s just let it be and now she is focusing on rebuilding her life without you around.
3. Ela retém o afeto
There is one thing you need to know about women: they’re very different to men when it comes to affection. No, this is not just something they want you to believe – in most cases, it’s the truth.
As a man, you can probably sleep with any girl you find attractive. Don’t worry, I’m not saying that you will fazer um movimento on every female around you, especially if you’re taken or married.
And off course, you won’t try it on with your friends or coworkers either. After all, there are some social or moral norms which prevent you from hitting on literally every woman around you.
However, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll admit that technically, you could sleep with everyone you physically like, if you’re given the opportunity.
It’s enough for you to think a woman is attractive. You don’t have to develop any deeper emotions for her and you can forget that she ever existed the next day.
Well, in most cases, women don’t function that way. In fact, they need to have a deeper emotional connection with a guy in order to engage in any kind of physical contact with him.
Therefore, if your wife is withholding affection, it’s time to ask yourself whether your marriage is coming to an end.
I’m not only talking about sleeping together here.
I’m also referring to the fact that she doesn’t hold your hand the way she did before, she doesn’t kiss you with the same passion, she avoids your hugs at all costs and has stopped telling you “Eu amo-te“.
I won’t lie to you: all of this can be an indicator that she’s fallen out of love with you.
Her body doesn’t have the need for your presence anymore and she simply can’t and doesn’t want to force herself into pretending she feels something she doesn’t.
Detesto ter de ser eu a dizer-lhe isto, mas também pode ser um sinal de infidelidade.
I’m not saying that she is actually involved with someone else but she might be emotionally attached to another man now and she simply can’t bring herself to kiss you, let alone do something more.
Naturally, this doesn’t have to be the only reason for her behavior. Maybe she is going through a rough period, just doesn’t feel her best, or has fallen out of the habit of saying “I love you” all the time.
That’s why you need to talk to your wife regarding this topic, before jumping to any conclusions.
If she gets all defensive and tries to convince you that you’re making things up, sadly, it’s probable that you were right about her reasons.
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4. She’s stopped talking to you
O que muitos casais não notam é a importância da comunicação no seu casamento.
De facto, a comunicação saudável é tão importante que a falta dela pode ser o sinal número um de que a sua união conjugal está prestes a desfazer-se.
At first glance, you might think this is something you don’t have any issues with. You assume that a lack of communication just means your wife is ignoring you or giving you the silent treatment.
Well, let me tell you that the problem is actually much deeper under the surface. It’s not enough for you two to have a little everyday small talk for your communication to be on point.
Afinal de contas, vocês são parceiros de vida e devem ser melhores amigos. Significa que a sua mulher deve falar consigo literalmente sobre tudo, incluindo as pequenas coisas que irritam a maioria dos maridos.
She should see you as her comforter – the one person in the world she can tell literally everything to, without the fear of being judged.
Deve ser a pessoa com quem ela partilha os seus problemas e a quem ela recorre para pedir conselhos sempre que está em apuros.
Deveria ser você a pessoa cuja opinião ela mais aprecia e com quem ela partilha os seus segredos mais obscuros, os seus medos mais profundos e os seus sonhos mais loucos.
Como seu marido, deve ser a primeira pessoa a quem ela recorre para lhe contar tudo o que de bom e de mau lhe aconteceu.
However, you can’t relate any of these sentences to your marriage. In fact, somewhere along the way, your wife has stopped talking to you.
Yes, she talks about the weather or your kids but she’s stopped really communicating with you. If you think about it, you’ll see that you know nothing about this woman’s life or thoughts anymore.
She doesn’t talk to you about her day, about the things that are bothering her, or about those which are making her happy.
She doesn’t value your opinion anymore and she treats you like a stranger, instead of the man she plans on spending o resto da sua vida com.
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5. She loves it when you’re not around
When you’re at the beginning of a healthy relationship, you want to spend every moment of your free time with your new love.
You can’t get enough of this person and it seems like an eternity wouldn’t be enough for you two to spend it together.
However, after a while, it’s natural that this changes. The borboletas and the initial infatuation go and it’s time to keep this person around and to make them a part of your regular life.
Afinal de contas, tem outras obrigações para além da sua relação.
You have best friends you also enjoy spending a lot of time with, a family you love being around, a job you like doing, hobbies which fulfill you…
Assim, deixa de estar tão obcecado com a pessoa amada. A última coisa que querem é cansarem-se um do outro.
This continues when you get married, as well. Even if you could, you and your wife don’t want to spend every moment of every day next to each other.
Afinal de contas, só porque casou-se, it doesn’t mean that suddenly you’ve become conjoined twins. You are still separate individuals with your own interests and lives outside of the marriage.
Besides, having enough personal space and time is good for your mental health and it’s beneficial for your relationship.
Dá-vos a oportunidade de sentirem saudades um do outro, o que reforça a vossa ligação emocional.
Therefore, if your wife asks for some time for herself, that shouldn’t be a problem. This is especially the case if she is burdened with kids, the house, and other everyday duties.
In that situation, it’s perfectly normal that she needs a break from the entire world, including you. So, please don’t be insulted over this.
No entanto, tem um problema se ela parece estar mais do que feliz sempre que passa algum tempo longe de si.
In fact, she loves it when you’re not around and uses every opportunity to avoid spending time with you, especially if we’re talking about alone time.
Your wife doesn’t want to go out on dates anymore, she refuses your invitation for a romantic getaway together, and it’s like she arranges her schedule so she can see you as little as possible.
In fact, every time you come home, she can’t help but look disappointed to see you.
6. Ela não está interessada na tua vida
You know how we already discussed the fact that this woman doesn’t let you in her life, mind, and heart? How she’s grown distant from you and shut you off completely?
Well, your troubles sadly don’t end there. In fact, your wife is not interested in your life, either.
Even when she sees that you’re feeling down, she won’t ask you what’s wrong. She doesn’t care about your feelings and she is not there to help you out with your issues.
This woman has stopped listening to you. She no longer remembers little things about you, she has no idea what you’re telling her, and she completely ignores your complaints.
Your wife is not there to comfort you when you need a shoulder to cry on and she doesn’t put any effort into making you smile. She doesn’t share your sadness or happiness.
A verdade é que, ultimamente, ela não sabe nada sobre a sua vida. Não está interessada nos seus amigos, no seu trabalho ou nos seus passatempos.
Whenever you try talking to her, you feel like you’re talking to a wall. There is absolutely no feedback on her behalf and it is evident that she can’t wait for you to be done.
Even when she acts as if she’s listening to you, you can’t help but notice how distant she actually is. She is not engaged in your life, issues, and dilemmas and couldn’t care less about helping you out with them.
The same goes for her jealousy. Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not saying that a good sign of her amor incondicional para si seria um comportamento possessivo.
No entanto, é perfeitamente normal que uma mulher que o ama e se preocupa com o seu casamento sinta alguns ciúmes.
I’m not saying that it’s okay for her not to trust you but even if she is completely sure about you, she’ll be a little medo de te perder.
Nevertheless, your wife doesn’t behave like this. It seems that you could be flirting with another woman right in front of her eyes and she wouldn’t even notice.
In fact, she might even be happy that you’ve found a replacement because that would make it easier for her to abandon you with a clear conscience and to put all the blame for the break up of your marriage on you.
She is not concerned about your whereabouts, she doesn’t care who you spend your time with, and it looks like she couldn’t care less if you are unfaithful.
7. She’s become secretive
Outro dos maus sinais de que a sua mulher o quer deixar é o seu súbito comportamento reservado.
As already stated, just because you are married, it doesn’t mean that your spouse doesn’t have the right for some personal space and time.
O mesmo se aplica à privacidade dela. Ela não tem o dever de lhe contar todos os pormenores da sua vida, nem você tem o direito de bisbilhotar o telemóvel e as coisas dela.
No entanto, o conceito de privacidade muda significativamente quando se casa.
Afinal de contas, você e a sua cara-metade partilham agora uma vida em comum e é perfeitamente natural que não tenham grandes segredos.
Foi exatamente assim que as coisas funcionaram entre si e a sua mulher no passado. Partilhavam quase tudo e nenhum de vocês escondia nada do outro.
Nevertheless, that’s all changed lately. In fact, your wife has become secretive and you’ve even caught her lying a few times.
All of a sudden, you know nothing about her daily habits. You don’t know where she is, who she spends all of her free time with, and she tells you nothing about her new, changed schedule.
She works late without ever mentioning she got a promotion or a raise. Your wife starts hanging out with people you’ve never met before and know nothing about.
Not only that: she is also extremely secretive about her phone. You’ve never been in the habit of going through it but it was always right where you could see it.
Agora as coisas tornaram-se muito diferentes. Ela carrega a mala e o telemóvel para onde quer que vá e certifica-se de que nunca os deixa sem vigilância perto de si.
E não é só isso: também reparou que a sua mulher tem recebido muito mais chamadas telefónicas e mensagens de texto.
She’s constantly texting someone in your presence and can’t help but smile whenever she is on her phone or laptop.
All of this points to just one thing: she is probably being unfaithful. Maybe she’s met someone or started seeing a colega de trabalho.
However, it doesn’t necessarily mean that a sua mulher está realmente a ter um caso. There is a possibility that she’s started to like someone new and she is only flirting with or texting him.
Ou será que ela está apenas a planear expor-se? Talvez ela queira encontrar uma rede de segurança antes de o deixar e esteja a explorar as suas opções antes de visitar o advogado do divórcio.
Ela pode ter instalado algumas aplicações de encontros ou conheceu alguém online. Seja como for, este tipo de comportamento é inaceitável e insere-se certamente na categoria de infidelidade.
The worst part is that she gets all defensive when you try to confront her about all of this. She is trying to make you look like a fool and claims that you’re just imagining things.
For example, when you ask her who she’s been texting or where she spent her day, your wife starts arguing with you.
She accuses you of being overly possessive and tells you that you’re invading her privacy, without ever giving you a concrete answer to your question.
8. Tudo em ti a irrita
Quando nos apaixonamos por alguém à primeira vista, gostamos de tudo nessa pessoa, incluindo as partes da sua personalidade que provavelmente não são tão apelativas para os outros.
Você amar os seus defeitos because they make them who they are and you wouldn’t change a thing about your sweetheart.
No entanto, com o tempo, quando as borboletas voam, é inevitável que ambos os parceiros retirem os óculos cor-de-rosa.
You can’t help but see each other for who you really are and you stop idealizing your significant other.
Mas, mesmo assim, não tem intenção de mudar de parceiro. Aceita-os completamente, incluindo as suas imperfeições.
Bem, era exatamente assim que as coisas funcionavam no seu casamento. Infelizmente, tudo mudou com o tempo.
Agora parece que tudo em si irrita a sua mulher. O mais engraçado é que ela se irrita sobretudo com as coisas que adorava em si quando se conheceram.
Parece que ela até se incomoda com a forma como desempenha as suas funções básicas.
All of a sudden, she can’t stand the way you snore at night so you’ve started sleeping in separate bedrooms.
She is freaked out by the way you chew your food too loudly, she doesn’t like the way you dress or cut your hair, she can’t stand the scent of your perfume…
At one point, you become scared that she’ll have something to say about the way you breathe.
Well, it’s one thing if this is just a phase that lasts a couple of days. Maybe your wife is just nervous about other things and is taking it out on you.
In that case, you either talk to her and tell her that you’re not her doormat or just let her be because she’ll stop with her nasty behavior soon enough.
However, if this has been going on for a while, you certainly have a problem. It’s a telltale sign that this woman can’t stand your presence and that she is sick and tired of you.
I know this sounds harsh but that’s exactly how things are. Don’t beat yourself up about this because it’s just the way your wife feels, regardless of how you behave.
In fact, you could be the best husband in the world but she probably wouldn’t change her mind about you.
If you become romantic, she’ll be sickened by it too, if you buy her presents, she won’t like it, and if you start courting her all over again, she’ll think of it as too cheesy.
Este tipo de comportamento também pode ser um mau sinal de infidelidade da parte dela.
Maybe she’s met someone new and now she is comparing the two of you and is bothered by the fact that you are no longer the man she is in love with.
9. Concentra-se mais na sua aparência
Não há absolutamente nada de errado com um mulher casada que ainda cuida da sua aparência.
In fact, it’s a great thing and is much better than a woman who stops paying attention to her looks the moment she says “I do”.
Nevertheless, if your wife has suddenly put all of her focus on her appearance, despite the fact that it wasn’t so important to her in the past, she may be trying to impress some other man besides you.
She’s started exercising and has become obsessed with becoming fit overnight. She’s changed her diet and counts her calories, even though her weight has never concerned her much.
She’s changed her hairdo and her entire style.
She is constantly buying new clothes and she pays special attention to her laundry. She puts on a lot more makeup than she used to and she’s started using a different perfume.
Basicamente, a sua mulher está a fazer tudo o que está ao seu alcance para voltar a parecer uma jovem. Passa horas em frente ao espelho.
Parece-me familiar, certo? Bem, no início pode ter ficado contente com esta mudança.
Ficou encantado por a sua mulher ter começado a prestar mais atenção a si própria e pensou que ela o fazia para ser mais bonita e atraente para si.
No entanto, passado algum tempo, apercebeu-se de que esta transformação não tem nada a ver com o seu casamento.
She still couldn’t care less how she looks when you two are home alone but puts all of her efforts into looking her best whenever she goes out without you.
Bem, detesto ter de ser eu a dizer-lhe isto, mas é provável que ela esteja a tentar deixar uma boa impressão num outro homem.
Maybe she is not being unfaithful but she is definitely in love with some other man who she’s trying to seduce.
A sua mulher não tem interesse em reavivar o faísca no seu casamento. She doesn’t see the need to win you over and she expects you to love her no matter how she looks.
However, she wants to be as beautiful as possible for her new crush. She always has enough energy and money to invest in her looks, since she knows it’s the first thing most men notice.
10. She’s told you she needs a break
Let’s be real: divorciar-se and actually visiting the divorce attorney is a huge step. Therefore, it’s completely normal that your wife doesn’t have the guts to tell you that she wants out of your marriage.
No, I’m not saying this woman fears you. However, she did promise to love and cherish you for as long as she breathes, and telling someone you’re leaving them is never easy.
That’s why many people do something different instead of immediately asking for a divorce: they ask their spouse for a break from their relationship.
Basicamente, querem pôr o seu casamento à prova. O casal continua casado, mas tira algum tempo para resolver as coisas.
This is exactly what your wife has been mentioning lately. She’s told you she needs a while for some introspection and to decide whether marrying you was a mistake.
Ela quer ver se vai sentir a sua falta e se consegue viver sem si. Ela quer descobrir se vale a pena salvar o vosso casamento or if it’s broken beyond repair.
Well, she wouldn’t have this break on her mind if you weren’t having some marriage problems, would she?
Por conseguinte, se isto é algo que a sua mulher tem vindo a sugerir, leve-o muito a sério.
In fact, asking for a break is usually one of the warning signs your wife wants to leave you but doesn’t know how to do it.
Ela pode já estar a sair com outra pessoa e quer experimentar a sua nova relação.
Nevertheless, she doesn’t want to cut all ties with you since she is not certain that things will work out with this new man.
Por outro lado, existe também a possibilidade de ela estar a ser realmente honesta quanto às suas intenções.
Talvez ela já não tenha a certeza sobre o vosso casamento e queira que ambos pensem nas coisas sozinhos.
De qualquer forma, se quiser salvar a sua relação, this is a chance to work on it. Remember that she hasn’t said her final goodbye just yet so there might be a chance of fixing your marriage.
Just don’t let her play with you. Don’t make your wife think that she can go out there and do whatever she wants, while you patiently wait for her to change her mind and come back to you, no matter what.
Converse consigo próprio e veja se esta rutura é algo com que pode lidar. Se a resposta for sim, aceite a proposta dela.
However, don’t forget to set up some basic terms.
First and foremost, set a date by which you’re both required to make a decision about whether you’ll get divorced or if you’ll give your marriage another chance.
Além disso, seja específico quanto a voltar a namorar.
Lembre-se que existe a possibilidade de voltar a juntar-se so don’t give her the green light to see other men if that will be an issue in your marriage in the future.
Another thing you should agree on during this break is the amount of contact you can have. Of course, if you have children together, you’ll have to stay in touch, whether you like it or not.
On the other hand, if it’s just the two of you, find a compromise. Will you go completely no contact so you can make a decision with a cold head or will you call each other occasionally?
11. You’re no longer her priority
O seu a mulher nunca foi do tipo egoísta. De facto, ela fez tudo o que estava ao seu alcance para provar o seu amor por ti e certificou-se de que tu sempre soubesses o quanto ela gostava de ti.
Well, lately, she’s become a real narcissist and an ego-centric. She’s been putting her needs before yours and she’s been acting as if compromise is the last thing on her mind.
Whether you like to admit this or not, the truth is that you are no longer your wife’s priority.
It’s not a problem that she’s putting herself first or that she loves herself more than she loves you – that is also what you should be doing.
The issue is that she’s been putting everything and everyone in front of you. This woman is treating you like her second choice and last resort and not as the person she chose to share her life with.
A família, os melhores amigos, os colegas de trabalho, o emprego, os passatempos e tudo o resto parecem ser mais importantes do que tu.
Your needs and emotions come last and she acts like she couldn’t care less about how her behavior affects you.
Isto pode ser visto até nas pequenas coisas.
She cancels the plans you two had whenever someone else calls her but she will never rearrange a get together with her friends just because you’ve asked her to.
Your wife forgets your birthday or anniversary date. She doesn’t put even the slightest effort into surprising you for
Valentine’s day or into being romantic on any other occasion.
She doesn’t take care of you and is no longer worried if you’re safe and sound. The worst part is that we’re talking about a woman who was always attentive.
Costumava preocupar-se se dormia bem, se comia o suficiente e se estava cansada.
Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not telling you that your wife should act like your mother but behaving like this is also not acceptable.
Ela já não faz sacrifícios em prol da sua felicidade. Tudo tem de correr como ela quer e os seus desejos são completamente irrelevantes.
This woman isn’t doing anything to please you or to make you happy. She is nowhere to be found when you need her the most and most of the time, you feel like you’re alone in this marriage.
12. Ela quer tornar-se financeiramente mais independente
Even though you are married, some kind of financial independence between partners shouldn’t be a question.
In fact, even though one of you doesn’t have a job, you are still completely equal in your relationship and your wife shouldn’t be in a situation where she needs to beg you to give her some money.
This is especially true if she is a stay at home mom. Even though she doesn’t earn, she still contributes to your household and should in no way be subordinate to you.
No entanto, continuam a ser um casal e a viver sob o mesmo teto. Isso significa que têm muitas despesas comuns e que a maior parte das vossas finanças também deve ser comum.
Um dos sinais reveladores de que a sua mulher o quer deixar é o facto de, de repente, querer tornar-se mais independente financeiramente.
É que se ela planeia candidatar-se a divórcio, it means that she’ll have to live by herself. It also means that she needs some starting capital to do so.
After all, she probably plans on moving out and now she won’t have your finances to rely on. That is exactly why she is saving and wants to become completely independent when it comes to money.
Se ela não estiver a trabalhar, irá procurar ativamente um emprego, mesmo que vocês estejam a viver muito bem sem um rendimento extra em casa.
On the other hand, if she has a job, she’ll become secretive about her financial situation. She’ll probably hide money from you or lie that her paycheck has been reduced.
The worst part is that she doesn’t have a concrete answer to your questions when you confront her about this problem. She is clearly hiding something or doing things behind your back.
Infelizmente, este tipo de comportamento também pode ser outro sinal de aviso da infidelidade dela. Viver uma vida dupla custa dinheiro!
13. She doesn’t include you in her future plans
Quando fizeram os votos de casamento, ambos prometeram passar a vida juntos.
Ambos decidiram que queriam envelhecer ao lado um do outro e que, um dia, só a morte vos separaria.
Isso significa que a sua mulher via um futuro ao seu lado. Por isso, quando ela deixa de o incluir nos seus planos, é certamente uma bandeira vermelha com que se deve preocupar.
She has probably already decided to leave you – she just hasn’t informed you about it yet.
When she looks ahead to her life a few years from now, she doesn’t see herself as a married woman; at least not married to you.
Of course, she doesn’t say this directly. However, you’re smart enough to notice the hints.
It’s like the pronoun “we” doesn’t exist in her dictionary anymore.
Só fala das coisas que quer fazer, da forma como espera organizar a sua vida e dos planos para o futuro que só a incluem a ela.
Tudo começa com pequenas coisas. Ela faz planos para o jantar sem sequer o mencionar, planeia férias com os amigos mas sem a sua presença, fala em ir passar um fim de semana fora e assim por diante.
O pior é que um dia ela começou a fazer planos a longo prazo como se fosse completamente solteira.
Quando ela fala em mudar de carreira, sair de casa ou mesmo começar a vida numa nova cidade, nunca o consulta sobre isso.
The sad truth is that you’ve already been erased from this woman’s life and she hasn’t even had the decency to tell you about it.
14. Recusa o aconselhamento matrimonial
Truth to be told, every long term relationship and marriage has its issues. What I’m trying to say is that not every marital crisis means the end has come.
De facto, existem profissionais com formação e conselheiros matrimoniais que lidam com este tipo de questões. Afinal de contas, esta pode ser apenas uma fase que você e a sua mulher irão ultrapassar com sucesso.
No entanto, há apenas uma condição para vencer este desafio. Ambos têm de estar dispostos a trabalhar no vosso casamento e ter o desejo de o salvar.
Quando ela recusa o aconselhamento matrimonial, é sem dúvida um dos sinais seguros de que a sua mulher o quer deixar.
She is not interested in dealing with your marriage problems and she doesn’t want to put any effort into giving your marriage another shot.
According to her, everything between you two is pretty much over and she probably won’t change her mind. In that case, you should probably see this as a red flag that your divorce process is inevitable.
