11 sinais claros de que ele ama a outra mulher e o que fazer a respeito

If you’re looking for signs that he loves the other woman, there’s probably a good reason for your doubts (as painful as it is to admit).

I’m here to help you figure out whether your significant other is seeing someone else, and worse off – if he’s in love with his new woman.

Há muitas razões para um homem casado (ou namorado comprometido) a estar a trair.

Mostly, it’s because being with one woman simply isn’t enough, but sometimes, they develop genuine feelings for the other woman.

It’s extremely difficult trying to understand why your partner has suddenly fallen out of love with you. But isn’t it so much better to face the warning signs and know for sure?

Para o ajudar a obter a tão necessária clareza, apresento-lhe sinais inegáveis que provam que o seu homem é de facto um traidor.

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Sinais reveladores de que o seu homem está apaixonado pela sua parceira de caso

1. When you’re together, you always sense he’d rather be somewhere else

Call it woman’s intuition, but us ladies just know when something’s off. Men think they’re so slick, but seldom do their actions go unnoticed.

It’s all about whether you want to see the signs or not. And it’s clear to me that you do.

So if you’ve got that gut-wrenching feeling in your stomach that he’d rather be anywhere but with you, listen to it.

Whether you’re just chilling on the sofa, getting ice-cream, or out clubbing, he is always zoned out. It’s like in his mind, he’s totally not present.

You can sense that he’s trying to act as if he’s fine, but that’s anything but the truth (and it’s soul-crushing.)

You’ve been suspecting that the other woman has taken your place in his heart for a long time, and this is just further proof that, emotionally, he’s just not with you anymore.

2. Reage a todas as perguntas de forma demasiado defensiva

Here’s the thing about men who cheat. Their guilty conscience rarely gives them a minute of peace. Most of the time they spend worrying whether they’d be found out.

Every time you ask them an innocent question, he gets weirdly defensive and sees it as an attack. Your man wants to appear calm and collected, but he’s anything but!

He’s self-esteem is clearly down, because he’s playing you, and the more he tries to hide it, the more obvious it gets.

Whether this is a co-worker you’ve had your doubts about for a while, or maybe even an ex-wife who has suddenly returned to his life, you have the right to know.

Tente fazer-lhe estas perguntas simples e observe a sua linguagem corporal e o contacto visual:

– What are your plans for tonight? Should we go catch a movie or something?

– How was work today? Did your boss keep you late yet again?

– Is something bothering you? Lately, you’ve been a little off and I’m getting worried about you.

An innocent man won’t have an issue responding to these perfectly reasonable questions. But a cheater will immediately think you’re onto him.

To him, every question has the purpose of getting to the bottom of his affair and he’ll panic like crazy. He might even go call the other woman to let her know something’s up.

Estes são sinais de alerta que não deve de forma alguma ignorar.

3. Os amigos dele tornaram-se muito estranhos e distantes de si

Obviamente, todos nós confiamos nos nossos amigos mais próximos quando algo acontece nas nossas vidas. E é provável que os amigos dele saibam tudo sobre a sua nova mulher.

Começaram a sentir-se culpados por lhe esconderem algo que lhe pode trazer tanto desgosto.

E isso manifesta-se no seu comportamento. Começaram a evitá-lo, a manter-se discretos e a não falar muito consigo.

Têm medo de dizer alguma coisa sem querer, além de que podem estar a sentir-se muito mal com a situação.

People don’t want to get in the middle of others’ problems, so avoidance is the answer. Your long-term relationship (or marriage) is on the verge of collapsing and you’re none the wiser.

Os amigos dele estão numa situação horrível e quanto mais a evitarem e agirem de forma estranha, menos provável é que este caso termine.

Your soulmate is breaking your heart day by day, and his friends know it before you do. Observe their behavior and it’ll tell you more than you’d like to know.

Este é, de longe, um dos sinais mais óbvios de que ele ama a outra mulher.

4. Deixou de publicar fotografias consigo nas redes sociais

Ele costumava mostrar-te com orgulho na sua conta do Instagram, mas ultimamente isso deixou de acontecer.

Suddenly, you get this feeling he’s somehow embarrassed to post a photo with you anywhere. He even removes the tags when you post something of him.

It’s as if that is somehow hurting someone else’s feelings (and we both know whose).

You’re afraid to ask him about it as it might sound superficial, but you know that you’re onto something. Why does he suddenly not want to be seen with you on social media?

Why hasn’t he posted a photo with you in ages? Why does he seem irked every time you post a photo of the two of you?

This is definitely suspicious. A man who’s in love with you would have no problem letting it show. But a man who’s hiding a secret… now that’s a whole other thing.

Social media isn’t that different from real life. You post what you love, who you love, and stuff that inspires you.

And if you’re no longer represented in his virtual world, that easily translates into his real world.

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5. He doesn’t look at you the same anymore

The first time I saw my man honestly sent shivers down my spine. It was an instant attraction and such an inexplicable connection that I couldn’t explain it if I tried.

And ever since that day, I haven’t been able to look at him differently. Every time I see him, it’s like the sun immediately comes out and there’s a reason to be happy.

Percebem o que estou a dizer? Aposto que sim. Aposto que teve uma situação semelhante com o seu homem, mas a forma como ele olhava para si nessa altura e a forma como olha para si agora não podem ser comparadas.

Já não há aquele sorriso instantâneo quando os vossos olhos se encontram. Já não há aquela atitude alegre e atrevida quando entras e ele te beija com poder e paixão.

Now, you’re just two people who used to be head over heels for each other, but somewhere along the way, the feeling has withered.

He no longer looks at you like you’re the only woman in his life. You spend a lot of time trying to look good for him, and no longer sees you.

Pelo menos, não o teu verdadeiro eu.

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6. He’s always texting someone but refuses to say who

We’re all a bit attached to our smartphones, and that’s somewhat understandable. I personally love texting and have no problem admitting it.

But the thing is, I would never lie to my partner about who I’m constantly on the phone with. Why? It’s really simple.

Pergunto sempre ele who he is constantly texting (I mean, who wouldn’t want to know?) especially if we’re supposed to be having quality time together.

And that’s precisely why I don’t have a problem telling him the same. How about your partner?

Does he seem shady whenever he’s on the phone and you’re around? Does be turn into the master of evasiveness when you casually ask him who’s keeping him so entertained?

If so, honey, you’ve got a reason to worry. Guys don’t have a reason to lie if they’re being faithful. But a man who won’t show you his screen and gets defensive is definitely up to something.

There’s a legit chance that she is taking all of his attention off you and he’s basically not even trying to hide it.

Nunca, num milhão de anos, pensou que outra rapariga faria o seu homem sorrir através de uma mensagem, mas aqui está.

7. He’s got a new hairstyle (that you’re not particularly fond of)

Lately, your man has started to seriously change his image. He’s been buying new clothes (which was never on his mind before) and he has started paying more attention to his looks.

The latest change is in his hairstyle. Suddenly, he’s decided that he needs a new do, and the worst thing is – he knows you’re not a fan of it! So what gives?

Well, my guess is that the other woman suggested it or implied that he’d look great, and he did it.

Now, she’s the one he goes to for fashion advice and she’s the one whose ideas and opinions he takes into consideration.

It used to be you, but if you’re being honest with yourself, that has clearly stopped. It feels so wrong even saying this, but there is someone else out there who he cherishes above you.

Porque é que, de repente, ele começaria a preocupar-se tanto com a sua aparência? Deus sabe que ele nunca se preocupou antes.

And ever since he did, you can tell that there’s something he’s keeping from you. Something painful that you’re trying to deny, but it’s getting harder and harder to be oblivious.

8. He doesn’t hold your hand in public anymore

Costumavam passear pelas ruas de mãos dadas, felizes e tão apaixonados. Sair com ele era a tua coisa favorita no mundo.

Era tão reconfortante ser abraçada por esse homem que sabíamos que nos protegia e que nos amava com todo o seu ser.

Mas nas últimas semanas ou mesmo meses, os seus níveis de PDA baixaram significativamente.

You’ve noticed that every time you try to hold his hand as you’re running errands together, he always evades it.

There’s always a coldness present that you can’t define, but it’s clearly there. Every time you try to give him a peck on the cheek, he retreats. He’s just not into it anymore.

Basicamente, qualquer tentativa de ser só um bocadinho romântico é um fracasso. Lenta mas seguramente, ele está a distanciar-se de uma forma que está a partir o seu coração minuto a minuto.

The man who used to be your everything doesn’t even want to go out in public with you anymore.

I know this is excruciating, but if there is indeed another woman, you mustn’t let yourself remain ignorant. Be proactive about it in any way you see fit.

Either you’re together or you’re not, but in no way should you let him make you feel so unloved and unseen. You deserve the world.

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9. He’s emotionally detached from you

Um dos sinais mais verdadeiros de que ele ama a outra mulher é a súbita falta de intimidade emocional.

Costumavam estar tão sincronizados emocionalmente. Sentiam a abundância do seu amor mesmo quando estavam a quilómetros de distância. A sua proximidade trazia-lhe tanta segurança e conforto que nada mais se comparava.

Sentiu-se como se tivesse ganho o jackpot do namorado. Quero dizer, como é que tiveste tanta sorte em encontrar um homem que adora o chão que pisas?

It just seemed too good to be true, and unfortunately… it proved to be the case.

The emotional closeness you shared has disappeared into thin air. The connection you were so proud of is no longer there and the worst part is that he just doesn’t care.

It’s like you don’t speak the same language anymore. He doesn’t sense your needs and or provide you with the emotional fulfillment you used to enjoy.

Now, he’s an empty shell of a human being who merely exists by your side, but that’s it.

No love, no togetherness, and mentally he’s just not there with you. His emotions are only his because he has shut you out and left you to your own devices.

And now, you’re trying to find a good reason to explain it all, but deep down, you know that it’s all because of ela.

10. He doesn’t tell you where he’s going and when he’ll be back

Este é mais um dos sinais profundamente dolorosos de que ele ama a outra mulher. A necessidade que ele tem de a ver e de estar com ela ultrapassa qualquer sentido de obrigação para consigo.

He doesn’t even care enough to provide you with a good lie. He goes wherever he wants, whenever he wants, and shares nothing about it with you.

Nunca se sabe quando o esperar em casa, e muito menos onde é que ele está. Ele simplesmente encolhe os ombros, dá uma resposta completamente vaga a todas as perguntas e continua o seu dia.

Ele está com ela? Terá esquecido tudo sobre ti? Está a planear como e quando te deixar?

O número de perguntas que se colocam na sua mente é interminável. Como é que ele pode ser tão indiferente? Será que ele não sabe que também tens sentimentos?

Será que ele simplesmente já não se importa? É assim tão sério com ela?

Está desejoso de saber, mas, ao mesmo tempo, sente que a resposta o destruiria emocionalmente.

O que é que faz?

11. Os vossos encontros noturnos tornaram-se inexistentes

Os vossos encontros costumavam ser a melhor coisa de sempre.

He’d take you to cool new restaurants to try new food, or he’d find an outdoor cinema where you’d watch romantic comedies under a blanket, holding hands.

Costumava ser uma das coisas que mais gostavam na vossa relação. Escusado será dizer que também isso se tornou obsoleto.

Now, you’re lucky if he sits down to have a quick lunch with you.

Having quality time together has become but a dream. And you can’t help but wonder: Is this one of the most obvious signs that he loves the other woman?

Está na altura de sermos honestos connosco próprios? As noites de encontro estão agora reservadas para ela? Estão a fazer-vos de parvos?

Todos os sinais apontam para que a resposta seja sim. Mas o que é que isso significa a longo prazo? Deverá confrontá-lo? Deverá finalmente defender-se e obrigá-lo a tratá-la com respeito?

Mesmo que isso signifique partir o seu coração, ele precisa de vestir as calças de menino grande e ser um homem. Se ele de facto a substituiu por outra pessoa, tem de ter a decência de ser transparente.

You cannot keep living your life wondering when it’s all going to end. You need closure, and you need it agora.

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O que deve fazer agora?

If you’ve recognized your man in a majority of these sinais de que ele ama a outra mulher, it’s time to face him with the truth.

My personal advice is: Never let a man play you for a fool. Don’t let him think that he can actually get away with his shady actions. It’s time to show him what you’re made of.

Yes, it’s tremendously painful and you cannot fathom continuing your life without him, but don’t let ele saber isso.

Cry as much as you need to, but show him that he hasn’t broken you!

You’re way too good for him anyway. A man who can so easily replace you with no regard for your feelings isn’t worthy of your time.

A verdade dói, mas, ao mesmo tempo, dá-lhe a clareza de que precisava desesperadamente antes de virar uma nova página.

The sooner you detach yourself from his toxicity, the sooner your healing can begin. Cut your losses and find someone who’ll appreciate you, love you, and treat you with respect.

Know your own worth, because how you perceive yourself affects others’ actions toward you.