11 señales claras de que ama a la otra mujer y qué hacer al respecto

If you’re looking for signs that he loves the other woman, there’s probably a good reason for your doubts (as painful as it is to admit).

I’m here to help you figure out whether your significant other is seeing someone else, and worse off – if he’s in love with his new woman.

Hay muchas razones por las que un hombre casado (o un novio comprometido) podría estar engañándote.

Mostly, it’s because being with one woman simply isn’t enough, but sometimes, they develop genuine feelings for the other woman.

It’s extremely difficult trying to understand why your partner has suddenly fallen out of love with you. But isn’t it so much better to face the warning signs and know for sure?

Para ayudarte a obtener la claridad que tanto necesitas, te traigo señales innegables que demuestran su hombre es de hecho un tramposo.

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Señales reveladoras de que su hombre está enamorado de su compañera sentimental

1. When you’re together, you always sense he’d rather be somewhere else

Call it woman’s intuition, but us ladies just know when something’s off. Men think they’re so slick, but seldom do their actions go unnoticed.

It’s all about whether you want to see the signs or not. And it’s clear to me that you do.

So if you’ve got that gut-wrenching feeling in your stomach that he’d rather be anywhere but with you, listen to it.

Whether you’re just chilling on the sofa, getting ice-cream, or out clubbing, he is always zoned out. It’s like in his mind, he’s totally not present.

You can sense that he’s trying to act as if he’s fine, but that’s anything but the truth (and it’s soul-crushing.)

You’ve been suspecting that the other woman has taken your place in his heart for a long time, and this is just further proof that, emotionally, he’s just not with you anymore.

2. Reacciona a cada pregunta de forma defensiva.

Here’s the thing about men who cheat. Their guilty conscience rarely gives them a minute of peace. Most of the time they spend worrying whether they’d be found out.

Every time you ask them an innocent question, he gets weirdly defensive and sees it as an attack. Your man wants to appear calm and collected, but he’s anything but!

He’s self-esteem is clearly down, because he’s playing you, and the more he tries to hide it, the more obvious it gets.

Whether this is a co-worker you’ve had your doubts about for a while, or maybe even an ex-wife who has suddenly returned to his life, you have the right to know.

Intenta hacerle estas sencillas preguntas y observa su lenguaje corporal y su contacto visual:

– What are your plans for tonight? Should we go catch a movie or something?

– How was work today? Did your boss keep you late yet again?

– Is something bothering you? Lately, you’ve been a little off and I’m getting worried about you.

An innocent man won’t have an issue responding to these perfectly reasonable questions. But a cheater will immediately think you’re onto him.

To him, every question has the purpose of getting to the bottom of his affair and he’ll panic like crazy. He might even go call the other woman to let her know something’s up.

Todas estas son señales de alarma que no debes ignorar.

3. Sus amigos se han vuelto muy raros y distantes contigo

Obviamente, todos confiamos en nuestros amigos íntimos cuando nos pasa algo en la vida. Y lo más probable es que sus amigos sepan todo sobre su nueva mujer.

Han empezado a sentirse culpables por ocultarte algo que podría destrozarte el corazón.

Y esto se manifiesta en su comportamiento. Han empezado a evitarte, a pasar desapercibidos y a hablarte poco.

Tienen miedo de soltar algo accidentalmente, además de que podrían sentirse muy mal por toda la situación.

People don’t want to get in the middle of others’ problems, so avoidance is the answer. Your long-term relationship (or marriage) is on the verge of collapsing and you’re none the wiser.

Sus amigos están en una situación horrible y cuanto más te eviten y actúen de forma extraña, menos probable será que esta aventura termine.

Your soulmate is breaking your heart day by day, and his friends know it before you do. Observe their behavior and it’ll tell you more than you’d like to know.

Este es, con mucho, uno de los signos más evidentes de que ama a la otra mujer.

4. Ha dejado de publicar fotos contigo en las redes sociales

Solía presumir de ti con orgullo en su cuenta de Instagram, pero últimamente ha dejado de hacerlo.

Suddenly, you get this feeling he’s somehow embarrassed to post a photo with you anywhere. He even removes the tags when you post something of him.

It’s as if that is somehow hurting someone else’s feelings (and we both know whose).

You’re afraid to ask him about it as it might sound superficial, but you know that you’re onto something. Why does he suddenly not want to be seen with you on social media?

Why hasn’t he posted a photo with you in ages? Why does he seem irked every time you post a photo of the two of you?

This is definitely suspicious. A man who’s in love with you would have no problem letting it show. But a man who’s hiding a secret… now that’s a whole other thing.

Social media isn’t that different from real life. You post what you love, who you love, and stuff that inspires you.

And if you’re no longer represented in his virtual world, that easily translates into his real world.

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5. He doesn’t look at you the same anymore

The first time I saw my man honestly sent shivers down my spine. It was an instant attraction and such an inexplicable connection that I couldn’t explain it if I tried.

And ever since that day, I haven’t been able to look at him differently. Every time I see him, it’s like the sun immediately comes out and there’s a reason to be happy.

¿Sabe a qué me refiero? Apuesto a que sí. Apuesto a que te pasó algo parecido con tu hombre, pero la forma en que te miraba entonces y la forma en que te mira ahora no se pueden comparar.

Ya no hay esa sonrisa instantánea cuando sus ojos se encuentran. Ya no hay esa actitud alegre y descarada cuando entras y te besa con fuerza y pasión.

Now, you’re just two people who used to be head over heels for each other, but somewhere along the way, the feeling has withered.

He no longer looks at you like you’re the only woman in his life. You spend a lot of time trying to look good for him, and no longer sees you.

No el verdadero tú, al menos.

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6. He’s always texting someone but refuses to say who

We’re all a bit attached to our smartphones, and that’s somewhat understandable. I personally love texting and have no problem admitting it.

But the thing is, I would never lie to my partner about who I’m constantly on the phone with. Why? It’s really simple.

Siempre pregunto le who he is constantly texting (I mean, who wouldn’t want to know?) especially if we’re supposed to be having quality time together.

And that’s precisely why I don’t have a problem telling him the same. How about your partner?

Does he seem shady whenever he’s on the phone and you’re around? Does be turn into the master of evasiveness when you casually ask him who’s keeping him so entertained?

If so, honey, you’ve got a reason to worry. Guys don’t have a reason to lie if they’re being faithful. But a man who won’t show you his screen and gets defensive is definitely up to something.

There’s a legit chance that she is taking all of his attention off you and he’s basically not even trying to hide it.

Ni en un millón de años pensaste que otra chica haría sonreír a tu hombre a través de un mensaje de texto y, sin embargo, aquí estás.

7. He’s got a new hairstyle (that you’re not particularly fond of)

Lately, your man has started to seriously change his image. He’s been buying new clothes (which was never on his mind before) and he has started paying more attention to his looks.

The latest change is in his hairstyle. Suddenly, he’s decided that he needs a new do, and the worst thing is – he knows you’re not a fan of it! So what gives?

Well, my guess is that the other woman suggested it or implied that he’d look great, and he did it.

Now, she’s the one he goes to for fashion advice and she’s the one whose ideas and opinions he takes into consideration.

It used to be you, but if you’re being honest with yourself, that has clearly stopped. It feels so wrong even saying this, but there is someone else out there who he cherishes above you.

¿Por qué si no iba a empezar de repente a preocuparse tanto por su aspecto? Dios sabe que nunca lo había hecho.

And ever since he did, you can tell that there’s something he’s keeping from you. Something painful that you’re trying to deny, but it’s getting harder and harder to be oblivious.

8. He doesn’t hold your hand in public anymore

Solíais pasear por la calle cogidos de la mano, felices y enamoradísimos. Salir con él era lo que más te gustaba en el mundo.

Era tan reconfortante ser abrazada por ese hombre que sabías que te cubría las espaldas y te quería con todo su ser.

Pero en las últimas semanas o incluso meses, sus niveles de PDA han descendido considerablemente.

You’ve noticed that every time you try to hold his hand as you’re running errands together, he always evades it.

There’s always a coldness present that you can’t define, but it’s clearly there. Every time you try to give him a peck on the cheek, he retreats. He’s just not into it anymore.

Básicamente, cualquier intento de ser un poco romántico es un fracaso. Lenta pero inexorablemente, se está distanciando de una forma que te rompe el corazón minuto a minuto.

The man who used to be your everything doesn’t even want to go out in public with you anymore.

I know this is excruciating, but if there is indeed another woman, you mustn’t let yourself remain ignorant. Be proactive about it in any way you see fit.

Either you’re together or you’re not, but in no way should you let him make you feel so unloved and unseen. You deserve the world.

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9. He’s emotionally detached from you

Una de las señales más verdaderas de que ama a la otra mujer es la repentina falta de intimidad emocional.

Solíais estar tan sincronizados emocionalmente. Sentíais la abundancia de su amor incluso a kilómetros de distancia. Su cercanía te aportaba tanta seguridad y consuelo que nada era comparable.

Sentías que te había tocado el premio gordo de los novios. Quiero decir, ¿cómo has tenido tanta suerte de encontrar a un hombre que adora el suelo que pisas?

It just seemed too good to be true, and unfortunately… it proved to be the case.

The emotional closeness you shared has disappeared into thin air. The connection you were so proud of is no longer there and the worst part is that he just doesn’t care.

It’s like you don’t speak the same language anymore. He doesn’t sense your needs and or provide you with the emotional fulfillment you used to enjoy.

Now, he’s an empty shell of a human being who merely exists by your side, but that’s it.

No love, no togetherness, and mentally he’s just not there with you. His emotions are only his because he has shut you out and left you to your own devices.

And now, you’re trying to find a good reason to explain it all, but deep down, you know that it’s all because of su.

10. He doesn’t tell you where he’s going and when he’ll be back

Esta es otra de las señales profundamente desgarradoras de que ama a la otra mujer. Su necesidad de verla y estar con ella supera cualquier sentimiento de obligación hacia ti.

He doesn’t even care enough to provide you with a good lie. He goes wherever he wants, whenever he wants, and shares nothing about it with you.

Nunca sabes cuándo va a volver y mucho menos dónde está. Se encoge de hombros, responde vagamente a todas las preguntas y sigue con su día.

¿Está con ella? ¿Se ha olvidado de ti? ¿Está tramando cómo y cuándo dejarte?

El número de preguntas que revuelven tu mente es interminable. ¿Cómo puede ser tan desconsiderado? ¿No sabe que tú también tienes sentimientos?

¿Simplemente ya no le importa? ¿Es tan serio lo suyo?

Te mueres por saberlo, pero al mismo tiempo sientes que la respuesta te destruiría emocionalmente.

¿A qué te dedicas?

11. Sus noches de cita se han vuelto inexistentes

Vuestras noches de cita solían ser lo mejor.

He’d take you to cool new restaurants to try new food, or he’d find an outdoor cinema where you’d watch romantic comedies under a blanket, holding hands.

Solía ser una de las cosas favoritas de tu relación. Ni que decir tiene que eso también se ha marchitado en el olvido.

Now, you’re lucky if he sits down to have a quick lunch with you.

Having quality time together has become but a dream. And you can’t help but wonder: Is this one of the most obvious signs that he loves the other woman?

¿Ha llegado el momento de ser sincero con uno mismo? ¿Las noches de cita están ahora reservadas para su? ¿Te están tomando el pelo?

Todo indica que la respuesta es sí. Pero, ¿qué significa eso a largo plazo? ¿Debes enfrentarte a él? ¿Debes defenderte de una vez y hacer que te trate con respeto?

Aunque eso signifique romperte el corazón, tiene que ponerse los pantalones de niño grande y ser un hombre. Si te ha sustituido por otra, debe tener la decencia de ser transparente.

You cannot keep living your life wondering when it’s all going to end. You need closure, and you need it ahora.

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¿Qué debe hacer ahora?

If you’ve recognized your man in a majority of these señales de que ama a la otra mujer, it’s time to face him with the truth.

My personal advice is: Never let a man play you for a fool. Don’t let him think that he can actually get away with his shady actions. It’s time to show him what you’re made of.

Yes, it’s tremendously painful and you cannot fathom continuing your life without him, but don’t let le que lo sepas.

Cry as much as you need to, but show him that he hasn’t broken you!

You’re way too good for him anyway. A man who can so easily replace you with no regard for your feelings isn’t worthy of your time.

La verdad duele, pero al mismo tiempo te proporciona la claridad que necesitabas desesperadamente antes de pasar página.

The sooner you detach yourself from his toxicity, the sooner your healing can begin. Cut your losses and find someone who’ll appreciate you, love you, and treat you with respect.

Know your own worth, because how you perceive yourself affects others’ actions toward you.