10 pistas de que ele não está a falar a sério e só está a brincar contigo
You think you love your partner, but do you even know if you’re on the same page? While sometimes it’s still early to jump to conclusions, other times pode ser evidente que alguém está a fazer jogos consigo.
I know how you feel because I also wondered about someone’s intentions, and tried to figure out their mixed signals only to realize they’re not even worth fighting for or losing my time.
When someone’s not serious about you, tell will show you that in numerous ways. Sometimes we’re just too blind to see something that’s obvious. So be honest with yourself, and if these sound familiar, don’t try to make excuses!
1. Ele deixa-te muitas vezes pendurado
Primeiro começou a arranjar desculpas quando era suposto verem-se, agora he doesn’t even care if you made plans and just tells you he can’t make it or he’s not in the mood anymore.
E não é só isso, ele também demora uma eternidade a responder às suas mensagens mas tem tempo para publicar histórias no Instagram. Um homem apaixonado nunca agiria desta forma.
2. You’re not his priority
Se ele pudesse escolher entre passar tempo com os seus filhos ou consigo, escolheria sempre os dois sem pensar. You’re there just when he feels like hanging out with you ou não tem nada melhor para fazer.
I know how frustrating this can be and make you wonder if you expect too much or should give him more space. Girl…no. You’re simply not important to him!
3. Nunca o tornaste oficial
You do everything boyfriend and girlfriend do together – go on dates, have fun, and share intimate moments, yet you’ve never defined your relationship.
Quando não há rótulo, ele sente-se livre para fazer o que quiser sem qualquer culpa, and that’s why you never made it official. You deserve to know where you’re standing.
4. Ele evita falar sobre a vossa relação
Se tentar abrir o “relationship talk” ele consegue sempre safar-se. Sempre que eu falava em definir a nossa relação, ele mudava rapidamente de assunto.
Por isso, quando ele evita falar sobre isto, fica a saber he’s probably not sure what he wants or simply doesn’t want to commit mas ainda te quer manter por perto para te divertires.
5. Sentes-te como um brinquedo com que ele brinca ocasionalmente
You’re like a toy that’s always available for him to pick up when he wants and then throw away when he gets bored. This can be so draining and really damage your self-esteem.
You can’t allow yourself to be a backup, you have to be their first choice. If they can’t respect that, then they don’t deserve you and you better find someone who’ll treat you right!
6. He’s acting hot and cold
One moment he’s all over you, responding to your texts within seconds, showering you with attention, and the other moment he acts distant and cold. I would always think I did something wrong and tried to gain his attention back.
Agora percebo que if he’s not consistent, he’s not interested enough. You need to know it’s never your fault he suddenly changes his behavior so don’t hold yourself accountable.
7. He’s always sending mixed signals
Por vezes, pensamos que ele quer passar a vida connosco, mas há dias em que questionamos tudo o que ele disse.
You’re not even sure what he wants and if you mean anything to him. A man who’s really in love with you would never make you question his love, trust me.
8. Acabas sempre magoado
He sometimes openly flirts with other girls and shows you he has options. It’s not rare he also says something hurtful and never even apologizes for it.
He’s indifferent to your emotions and if what he’s doing might hurt you. This is his way of making sure you know he’s not serious so he can do whatever he wants. Open your eyes, girl, don’t let your heart fool you.
9. He doesn’t show interest in your life
You could be president of the U.S. and that man wouldn’t care. He never asks you what is going on with your life or what you’re up to.
When you talk about something that happened to you he doesn’t listen. If he never asked you about your interests or showed he wants to get to know you, it means he doesn’t care because he’s not planning to commit anyway.
10. Não sabes quase nada sobre ele
The more you think about it, the more you become aware you don’t even know him that much. Ele nunca partilha nada sobre a sua vida e quando lhe perguntamos algo, ele dá respostas vagas.
Ele também age de forma misteriosa e doesn’t want you to know where he’s going or spending his time with. Se quisermos saber isto, ele fica na defensiva e afasta-nos.
He clearly gives you signs you’re not important to him and you can’t change people to be someone you want them to be. Even if you really like them, do you really want your life to be full of doubt and days where you’re left wondering what someone wants?
I know we sometimes want to believe in something that’s not real but that will not get you anywhere. So leave him in the past before you regret wasting your time.
