You think you love your partner, but do you even know if you’re on the same page? While sometimes it’s still early to jump to conclusions, other times it can be clear someone is playing games with you.
I know how you feel because I also wondered about someone’s intentions, and tried to figure out their mixed signals only to realize they’re not even worth fighting for or losing my time.
When someone’s not serious about you, tell will show you that in numerous ways. Sometimes we’re just too blind to see something that’s obvious. So be honest with yourself, and if these sound familiar, don’t try to make excuses!
1. He often leaves you hanging
Firstly he started making excuses when you were supposed to see each other, now he doesn’t even care if you made plans and just tells you he can’t make it or he’s not in the mood anymore.
Not only that, he also takes forever to respond to your texts but he has time to post Instagram stories. A man in love would never act this way.
2. You’re not his priority
If he could choose between spending time with his boys or you, he would always choose them without thinking. You’re there just when he feels like hanging out with you or has nothing better to do.
I know how frustrating this can be and make you wonder if you expect too much or should give him more space. Girl…no. You’re simply not important to him!
3. You never made it official
You do everything boyfriend and girlfriend do together – go on dates, have fun, and share intimate moments, yet you’ve never defined your relationship.
When there is no label, he feels free to do whatever he wants without any guilt, and that’s why you never made it official. You deserve to know where you’re standing.
4. He avoids talking about your relationship
If you try to bring up the “relationship talk” he somehow always manages to get out of it. Whenever I mentioned defining our relationship, he would quickly change the subject to something else.
So when he avoids talking about this, just know he’s probably not sure what he wants or simply doesn’t want to commit but still wants to keep you around for fun.
5. You feel like a toy he plays with occasionally
You’re like a toy that’s always available for him to pick up when he wants and then throw away when he gets bored. This can be so draining and really damage your self-esteem.
You can’t allow yourself to be a backup, you have to be their first choice. If they can’t respect that, then they don’t deserve you and you better find someone who’ll treat you right!
6. He’s acting hot and cold
One moment he’s all over you, responding to your texts within seconds, showering you with attention, and the other moment he acts distant and cold. I would always think I did something wrong and tried to gain his attention back.
Now I understand that if he’s not consistent, he’s not interested enough. You need to know it’s never your fault he suddenly changes his behavior so don’t hold yourself accountable.
7. He’s always sending mixed signals
Sometimes you think he wants to spend his life with you but then some days come and make you question everything he said.
You’re not even sure what he wants and if you mean anything to him. A man who’s really in love with you would never make you question his love, trust me.
8. You always end up hurt
He sometimes openly flirts with other girls and shows you he has options. It’s not rare he also says something hurtful and never even apologizes for it.
He’s indifferent to your emotions and if what he’s doing might hurt you. This is his way of making sure you know he’s not serious so he can do whatever he wants. Open your eyes, girl, don’t let your heart fool you.
9. He doesn’t show interest in your life
You could be president of the U.S. and that man wouldn’t care. He never asks you what is going on with your life or what you’re up to.
When you talk about something that happened to you he doesn’t listen. If he never asked you about your interests or showed he wants to get to know you, it means he doesn’t care because he’s not planning to commit anyway.
10. You barely know anything about him
The more you think about it, the more you become aware you don’t even know him that much. He never shares anything about his life and when you ask him something he gives vague answers.
He also acts mysterious and doesn’t want you to know where he’s going or spending his time with. If you want to know this, he gets defensive and brushes you off.
He clearly gives you signs you’re not important to him and you can’t change people to be someone you want them to be. Even if you really like them, do you really want your life to be full of doubt and days where you’re left wondering what someone wants?
I know we sometimes want to believe in something that’s not real but that will not get you anywhere. So leave him in the past before you regret wasting your time.