10 pistas de que no va en serio y sólo juega contigo

You think you love your partner, but do you even know if you’re on the same page? While sometimes it’s still early to jump to conclusions, other times puede estar claro que alguien está jugando contigo.

I know how you feel because I also wondered about someone’s intentions, and tried to figure out their mixed signals only to realize they’re not even worth fighting for or losing my time.

When someone’s not serious about you, tell will show you that in numerous ways. Sometimes we’re just too blind to see something that’s obvious. So be honest with yourself, and if these sound familiar, don’t try to make excuses!

1. A menudo te deja colgado

Primero empezó a poner excusas cuando se suponía que os veríais, ahora he doesn’t even care if you made plans and just tells you he can’t make it or he’s not in the mood anymore.

Y no sólo eso, también tarda una eternidad en responder a tus mensajes pero tiene tiempo para publicar historias de Instagram. Un hombre enamorado nunca actuaría así.

2. You’re not his priority

Si pudiera elegir entre pasar tiempo con sus hijos o contigo, siempre los elegiría sin pensarlo. You’re there just when he feels like hanging out with you o no tiene nada mejor que hacer.

I know how frustrating this can be and make you wonder if you expect too much or should give him more space. Girl…no. You’re simply not important to him!

3. Nunca lo hiciste oficial

You do everything boyfriend and girlfriend do together – go on dates, have fun, and share intimate moments, yet you’ve never defined your relationship. 

Cuando no hay etiqueta, se siente libre de hacer lo que quiera sin ninguna culpa, and that’s why you never made it official. You deserve to know where you’re standing. 

4. Evita hablar de su relación 

Si intentas subir el “relationship talk” de alguna manera siempre se las arregla para salirse con la suya. Cada vez que hablaba de definir nuestra relación, cambiaba rápidamente de tema.

Así que cuando evita hablar de esto, sólo sé he’s probably not sure what he wants or simply doesn’t want to commit pero aún quiere tenerte cerca para divertirse. 

5. Te sientes como un juguete con el que juega de vez en cuando

You’re like a toy that’s always available for him to pick up when he wants and then throw away when he gets bored. This can be so draining and really damage your self-esteem. 

You can’t allow yourself to be a backup, you have to be their first choice. If they can’t respect that, then they don’t deserve you and you better find someone who’ll treat you right!

6. He’s acting hot and cold

One moment he’s all over you, responding to your texts within seconds, showering you with attention, and the other moment he acts distant and cold. I would always think I did something wrong and tried to gain his attention back. 

Ahora entiendo que if he’s not consistent, he’s not interested enough. You need to know it’s never your fault he suddenly changes his behavior so don’t hold yourself accountable. 

7. He’s always sending mixed signals

A veces crees que quiere pasar su vida contigo, pero luego llegan unos días que te hacen cuestionar todo lo que ha dicho. 

You’re not even sure what he wants and if you mean anything to him. A man who’s really in love with you would never make you question his love, trust me. 

8. Siempre acabas herido

He sometimes openly flirts with other girls and shows you he has options. It’s not rare he also says something hurtful and never even apologizes for it.

He’s indifferent to your emotions and if what he’s doing might hurt you. This is his way of making sure you know he’s not serious so he can do whatever he wants. Open your eyes, girl, don’t let your heart fool you. 

9. He doesn’t show interest in your life

You could be president of the U.S. and that man wouldn’t care. He never asks you what is going on with your life or what you’re up to. 

When you talk about something that happened to you he doesn’t listen. If he never asked you about your interests or showed he wants to get to know you, it means he doesn’t care because he’s not planning to commit anyway. 

10. Apenas sabes nada de él

The more you think about it, the more you become aware you don’t even know him that much. Nunca comparte nada sobre su vida y cuando le preguntas algo da respuestas vagas.

También actúa de forma misteriosa y doesn’t want you to know where he’s going or spending his time with. Si quieres saberlo, se pone a la defensiva y te ignora. 

He clearly gives you signs you’re not important to him and you can’t change people to be someone you want them to be. Even if you really like them, do you really want your life to be full of doubt and days where you’re left wondering what someone wants? 

I know we sometimes want to believe in something that’s not real but that will not get you anywhere. So leave him in the past before you regret wasting your time.