“A queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic) relationship is a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection (platonic) beyond what most people consider friendship.”

Summarized, a queerplatonic relationship is an intimate and intense relationship that doesn’t have characteristics of either a friendship or a romantic relationship. It is one of the most special, strong bonds you could experience during your lifetime.

Such a relationship is platonic but it also breaks the conventions of ‘just friends’ and even if there was the possibility of sexual tension between the two, neither would ever act on it because it just seems wrong.

Being in a queerplatonic relationship means being with someone who completes you on so many levels (that you didn’t know even existed), which is simply incomparable with what you might share with your romantic partner.

You feel like you’ve known each other for years and you can’t imagine your life without them!

They are like some type of a soulmate and you would likely never look at them in a sexual way because your relationship is so much more than that! You understand each other’s fears and emotions and sometimes you know what they are thinking without even asking them.

While to outsiders, a queerplatonic relationship might seem confusing (because people have this tendency to always believe that there’s something more romantic going on), this doesn’t mean that you should immediately give up on this special connection you have with each other.

Remember that sharing a queerplatonic relationship with someone is a truly rare and amazing thing to experience and if you’re wondering if you’re in one now, check the following 15 signs that your friend or bestie is so much more than that!

1. You’re excited about spending time with them

You can’t think of a single time you said yes to their plans and didn’t feel like it. Even if you don’t feel like clubbing, you’re still excited about spending time with them, because you just know that your day will get so much better the moment you see them. You even make sure to make time especially for them and if there isn’t any time, you cancel other plans for them.

2. You often wonder if that was too much

When you’re together, everything feels so natural and normal. You share your deepest thoughts and fears even in the early stage of friendship, because it just feels right. But once you’re on your own, you wonder if that was a little bit too much to share.

3. They get you when no one else does

When everyone else is looking at you like you’re crazy, they seem to get you. You’re so connected that there are no boundaries between the two of you and sometimes it feels like you can read each other’s minds.

4. There’s no awkward silence – ever

It’s like you can spend hours talking and the moment you separate, you remember something you forgot to tell them. You have so much in common, and you share so many things you’re passionate about that you can discuss them for ages. And you feel so comfortable with each other that it just feels good to tell them everything that’s on your mind, no matter how stupid, scary or messed up it sounds. They get you and you’re not afraid to speak your mind.

5. You complete each other’s sentences

Sometimes it freaks you out and sometimes it just feels amazing to have someone who’s always on the same page with you. They know exactly what you mean at all times and you even find yourself finishing each other’s sentences. To outsiders, it seems like you developed your own language, as you’re talking fast and without any further explanation, because you simply know what the other is thinking at that moment.

6. There’s slight jealousy when they’re talking about another friend

There’s nothing more painful for a queerplatonic relationship than a third person. It’s not like you don’t want them to have any other friends besides you, it’s just that you don’t want them to talk about them in front of you. You just feel special and when they mention someone else, that feeling goes away for a while. But don’t worry, this one goes both ways. They’re jealous when you mention someone else, too.

 15  Signs You're In A Queerplatonic Relationship

7. You feel complete with them

We are searching our whole lives for that someone who will make us complete, for that someone who will feel like the other half of ourself. And you can feel just that with them, in a way you can’t even feel with your own significant other. That’s not a sign that your relationship with your partner is not good enough or that there’s something wrong with it. Consider this as a blessing, because you have found something that many of us are still looking for.

8. Other people voice their suspicions about your relationship

They either tell you that it’s unhealthy to be that close with someone or that there’s something more going on than friendship. They may call you out for having a crush on each other or for ‘hiding your true emotions’. That’s because most people don’t understand the kind of bond you share, simply because of its rarity.

9. When you see their name on-screen, you get all giddy

You feel like a little schoolgirl when you see that they texted you or they’re calling you. You are eager to see what news they have to share with you, whether it’s maybe something new you can do together or something new that happened to them since the last time you talked (and that was like, minutes ago). It’s almost like you have a crush, but then it’s not.

10. They already know how you feel, so there’s no need for you to explain

Instead of looking for the right words, for the best way to express how you feel, they already know. It feels so good to have someone who knows how you feel, without even saying a single word. And even when you’re confused and you’re not sure how you feel about something, when they put it into words, it makes sense instantly.

11. Everything seems better when you’re with them

Everything seems less scary, and you feel like you can conquer the world when you’re together. When you’re down, they pull you up. When you’re happy, they’re happy with you. You don’t need expensive restaurants, clubs or pints of ice cream. You just need your bestie to make everything better.

12. When something happens, they’re the first person that come to mind

Whether it’s a bad or good thing, they’re the first person you think of when something happens to you. If they’re not there, you’re constantly thinking how they would have enjoyed it, how you wished they were there. You’re so close that you simply know how they think and what things they enjoy.

13. Weird nicknames

Queerplatonic relationships are based on mutual weird nicknames that you give to each other. Whether you’re still in high school or in your late 40s, it’s a way to tell everyone ‘we’re together’. Those nicknames mean something to both of you, but to everyone else they’re just, well, weird.

14. You dress alike without even trying

It’s like you read each other’s minds, as you dress alike without even telling each other what you’re going to wear. You just share the same taste in clothes, music and basically everything else, that it was only a matter of time when you would start dressing alike. You like each other so much that you unconsciously buy things that remind you of them, which leads to having almost the exact same wardrobe as each other.

15. They know what you need even better than you do

Whether it’s walking around all day, clubbing all night or simply sharing silence, they know what you need at that moment, even when you don’t know it yourself. That’s why it just feels so good to be in a queerplatonic relationship, because you make each other happy so naturally and without any fuss. You make each other happy because it makes you happy as well.

The Top 15 Signs You're In A Queerplatonic Relationship