If I’ve learned anything during my humble years and romantic endeavours, it’s this: Communication is the key to every healthy relationship (and basically to a healthy everything).
When there is no communication, there is no honesty, there is no sharing the important parts of your life with your guy, and therefore, there is no connection.
And of course, there is no knowledge of how you two are actually doing, because you are solving all of the issues in your own head, and the same goes for him.
When you’re living in two separate worlds, it’s hard to reach that level of commitment that’s crucial for making him addicted to you and vice versa.
It’s important to communicate, to encourage him to talk to you about his hobbies and all those little things happening in his life.