You’re sick of dating or being single and you dream of getting married and finally ending the single life era.
As someone who’s been married for years, very often I recall times when I was single and feel nostalgic. I’ll tell you this:
Don’t rush into marriage! Trust me it’s not as great as you might think.
Enjoy your single life! Being solo is so freeing, single life is full of opportunities and easy like Sunday morning!
I could speak for days explaining why being single is so much better than being married. You don’t believe me? Let me sum it up for you:
1. You’re spontaneous and your schedule is flexible
You can decide to throw a party on a Friday night, or you can have a last-minute weekend getaway. Or you can just spend a Saturday in bed. All day!
The ability to be spontaneous is one of the main perks of being single. You’re free to do whatever you like, whenever you like it. You can play with your dog, grow exotic plants on your window sills, and spend a day shopping.
I wish I could be spontaneous. But there are kids, cooking, cleaning… phew no time for spontaneous activities.
2. Being single is way less stressful than being married
You don’t carry the mom’s mental load, so you’re relaxed and have fewer worries. As there is less housework and no parenting responsibilities, you don’t have to juggle a bunch of tasks all the time.
Most importantly, you don’t have to resolve conflicts with your hubby. You don’t have to apologize or waste your time thinking if you’ve been right or wrong when you shout at him.
No stress to weigh you down! Gurl, I’m telling you, you have no idea how great it is!
3. You’re independent and free to do whatever you want
You decide where to go, what to do, and who to meet without having to think about him, his schedule, or preferences.
You don’t have to worry if he is gonna like your new tattoo or your new hair color. You can adopt a dog or a cat without worrying if he might be allergic.
For married people it’s different, I can’t do anything impulsively. I always have to think about how it’s gonna affect my kids or hubby.
4. Your social life is more fun
When you’re not committed you can spend time with friends, attend networking events, and make important professional or personal contacts with different people.
Meeting new people will help you gain diverse experiences, learn new things, and grow as a person. Your network will expand and you’ll get invitations to many gatherings.
I remember myself dancing at an open-air party, splashed with loads of joy and fun. Those were the good times.
5. Financial freedom is priceless
You control your finances and make decisions about what to spend money on. Also, you can save or invest your money without having to discuss it with anyone else.
You choose your priorities and you don’t have to explain your spending habits to your partner. Wanna buy a new iPhone, why not? You earned that money, you get to spend it as you like!
I, on the other hand, have to plan any investment, always considering if a new bicycle for my son is a higher priority. Mommy can wait for a couple of months to buy a new phone.
6. Nothing stops you from growing personally and professionally
You’re free to try different things, explore your true personality, and have time for your hobbies.
If you want to thrive professionally and hone skills that will be useful and win you a promotion at work, you have all the time you need.
Wanna try yoga? Or Mindfulness? Nothing is stopping you.
7. Being single allows you better self-care
You can enhance your mental wellbeing and focus on self-care. You can meditate and practice different techniques for nurturing self-love and mental health.
You’re free to do things that spark joy and you become more resilient, self-confident, and feel good about yourself.
There’s no way I can ever meditate or do yoga at home. The kids are running around, playing and screaming, and when they go to sleep I’m too tired for anything.
8. Your single life is almost drama-free
You usually don’t fight with your coworkers or friends, right? Most of the conflicts we have are the ones with our significant other. So when you’re on your own, there are no conflicts. Yay!
Also, there is no need to resolve any relationship issues or analyze someone else’s emotions and reactions. You can just enjoy your life in peace and harmony.
When you are calm and relaxed, you’ll feel content and any potential problem will be easily resolved without getting too upset about it.
9. Your time is completely your own
When you’re single, you don’t have to coordinate schedules, plan around someone else’s obligations, or feel guilty for spending an entire weekend binge-watching your favorite show.
Want to sleep in until noon? Do it. Feel like taking an evening stroll just because the moon looks nice? No one’s stopping you. Your time is truly yours, and you can spend it however you like without compromise.
Meanwhile, I have to juggle a dozen responsibilities before I even get to think about my own time. And when I do, it’s usually already midnight, and all I want is sleep.
10. Travel is easier and more exciting
You can pack your bags and take a spontaneous trip without checking in with anyone. No waiting for your partner to take leave, no worrying about family obligations, no debating over the itinerary. Just book that ticket and go!
Traveling solo or with friends means full control over your experience. Want to go zip-lining in Costa Rica or explore hidden streets in Tokyo? Nothing’s holding you back.
For me, travel requires planning around school holidays, coordinating with my husband’s work schedule, and making sure the kids don’t throw a tantrum on the plane. Not exactly the stress-free getaway I used to have.
11. You sleep like a baby
Ever heard of the “battle for the blanket”? Yeah, that’s a married couple’s daily nightmare. Sharing a bed sounds romantic until you’re left clinging to the edge while your spouse snores like a freight train.
As a single person, you stretch out like a starfish, wrap yourself in all the blankets, and sleep peacefully without interruptions. No one stealing the covers, no random knee jabs in the middle of the night. Just pure, uninterrupted sleep.
I miss those days. Now, if it’s not my husband moving around, it’s my kids sneaking into bed at 3 AM, turning my supposed “rest” into a full-blown wrestling match.
12. No in-laws to deal with
Let’s be honest—dealing with in-laws is a whole new level of stress. The unsolicited advice, the family gatherings you have to attend, the expectations… It’s exhausting.
When you’re single, you don’t have to worry about impressing anyone’s parents or pretending to agree with their opinions just to keep the peace. No forced smiles, no awkward small talk—just you and your drama-free existence.
I, on the other hand, have mastered the art of smiling while secretly rolling my eyes inside. Family lunches, birthday gatherings, holidays… it never ends.
13. No relationship anxiety
Being single means never having to overthink texts, decode mixed signals, or stress over arguments. You don’t have to wonder if he’s pulling away, if he’s losing interest, or if you should have phrased that last message differently.
Your emotional energy isn’t drained by relationship doubts. Instead, you can focus on things that actually bring you joy—without worrying about someone else’s mood swings or silent treatments.
Meanwhile, in marriage, one small disagreement can lead to a whole week of awkward tension. And let’s not even talk about the mental gymnastics required to figure out why he’s acting distant.
14. You make decisions without compromise
Want to move to another city? Change careers? Remodel your entire apartment? You don’t need anyone’s approval. Being single means you make decisions based on what *you* want, not on what works for a partner or a family.
Every choice is yours to make. You don’t have to negotiate, explain, or justify. You can switch things up whenever you feel like it—no strings attached.
Me? I need to consult, discuss, and consider how every decision affects my husband and kids. Nothing is ever just about me anymore.
15. You have complete emotional freedom
Relationships come with emotional ups and downs. You have to navigate misunderstandings, handle someone else’s feelings, and sometimes even deal with heartbreak.
When you’re single, you avoid all of that. No emotional baggage, no relationship drama, no worrying about whether you’re making someone else happy. Just peace of mind and emotional stability.
I wish I could say the same. Some days, managing my own emotions is hard enough—let alone balancing my husband’s and my kids’. It’s a constant emotional rollercoaster.
Still convinced marriage is the ultimate dream? Didn’t think so. Singledom is delightful, believe me. Enjoy every moment of “me, myself, and I”, because once marriage locks you in, there’s no turning back!