10 cosas que los narcisistas nunca hacen
Lees sobre las señales de advertencia cada vez que abres un artículo sobre narcisistas. Lees sobre cómo reconocerlos, cuáles son sus rasgos y que son maestros del manipulaciónengaño, etc.
A narcissist will do this and that—they lie, manipulate and act to be something they are not. But isn’t it almost impossible to recognize a narcissist by the things he does because as I recall, the most common warning sign is that they pretend to be something they are not?
¿Cómo puede saber si fingen ser buenos o si realmente lo son?
Dado que engañarte y convencerte de una falsa verdad es prácticamente lo mejor que hacen, ésta no es una buena forma de descubrir su tapadera y estar seguro de que son narcisistas.
Pero lo que puedes hacer es buscar las cosas que un narcisista nunca haríacomo algo que no concuerde con su personalidad, algo que implique empatía o preocupación por los demás.
No matter how good of an actor he is, a narcissist will never do something that doesn’t concern him, something that doesn’t benefit him.
Here is where you can catch a narcissist off guard because they won’t expect you to look at things from that angle. Here is where they will definitely make a mistake because they can’t help themselves.
They can act all they want but they can’t act emotions and they can’t fake good deeds. It’s against who they are and how they think.
Here is a list of things that will help you blow a narcissist’s cover—a list of things a narcisista nunca lo haría:
1. Odian perder el control
Narcissists like acting like they own you, like they are your master. They like to think that you’re completely incapable of doing anything without their supervision or their help.
Pero todo lo que hace falta para detectar a un narcisista es ver cómo actúan cuando pierden el control, cuando ya no están al mando de tu vida. Si el control se reduce y entras en razón, se volverán completamente locos.
They’ll become angry and upset and you won’t know the reason why. If this is the case then you can be sure that his behavior is an indicator of a narcissistic personality.
2. Nunca muestran quiénes son realmente
When you first meet them they are perfect, maybe even a bit too perfect, which should be suspicious right from the start. They’ll hide their manipulative behavior by pretending to be sweet and kind.
They will reveal their true colors but only later when it’s too late for you to walk away no strings attached.
3. They don’t let anyone prove them wrong
Una de sus armas más fuertes es el acto de manipulación, cuando intentan convencerte de cosas que no son reales, que nunca sucedieron.
Even if they are caught lying to you, they won’t let it go. They’ll stick to their version of the truth.
Having a discussion with a narcissist is just a waste of time. You won’t win, that’s for sure, you can only get hurt in this painful process.
Al final, te manipularán para que te creas su historia, aunque siempre hayas tenido razón.
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4. Nunca se disculparán
Not only that they will manipulate you into thinking that you’re wrong but they will truly believe that they are right.
Piensan que son incapaces de cometer un error porque, a sus ojos, son pura perfección.
Even if they make a mistake, you won’t hear an apology. In their mind, everything that goes wrong around them is someone else’s fault and never theirs.
5. Nunca te perdonarán
Their expectations is the only thing that matters. And if you fail them, if you don’t live up to what they expect from you, they will never let it go.
Even if you say that you’re sorry, it won’t cut it.
Cada vez que os peleéis, de alguna manera traerán la discusión a la vez que hicisteis algo mal y a pesar de las disculpas, te echarán en cara ese error. Nunca lo olvidarán.
Cuando tienen que elegir entre el perdón y la venganza, siempre se decantan por la venganza.
6. They don’t have an equal
Para ellos, no hay nadie mejor que ellos. Nadie es tan inteligente o tan guapo como ellos.
Son simplemente el reflejo de la perfección pura. Están por encima de todos los demás.
Cuando ves a una persona con tanta confianza en sí misma, tienes que darte cuenta de que algo va terriblemente mal. Nadie debería tener una opinión tan alta de sí mismo y todo el mundo tiene inseguridades.
That’s your huge, red, warning sign right there—his gigantic ego.
7. Nunca muestran empatía
Other people’s suffering or happiness, whether it’s a good or bad feeling, has no effect on narcissists. They are unable to understand feelings.
The only thing they care about is themselves. They are extremely insensitive and they won’t think twice about saying something hurtful to anyone because they don’t care how that person is going to react or feel afterward.
Don’t confuse honesty with lack of empathy. Because even when you have to be brutally honest, you’re not going to be indifferent to that person’s feelings.
8. They don’t listen
They will pretend to listen to you until you shut up, and that is when they are going to blurt out everything that is on their mind. What you’ve said doesn’t interest them at all.
This happens because they don’t respect you or anything that’s on your mind. The only important thing is what they think and how they feel. Others don’t matter.
9. No son educados
It doesn’t matter whether they are rude to a stranger on the street or your friends—narcissists can’t be polite because they don’t care about other people’s feelings.
They will act rudely and be inconsiderate to the people you love because those people don’t mean anything to them. The only person who matters is the narcissist himself.
10. They don’t give compliments
They don’t want others to feel good about themselves. They want others to feel like crap so narcissists can feel better, greater and more important than them.
That’s why they never give compliments, they just want to get them. If you get a compliment from a narcissist, you should really look into it, because it’s probably just a tactic for something far more serious.
