10 coisas que os narcisistas nunca fazem
Lê-se sobre os sinais de alerta sempre que se abre um artigo sobre narcisistas. Lê-se sobre como reconhecê-los, quais são as suas características e que eles são mestres em manipulação, enganos, etc.
A narcissist will do this and that—they lie, manipulate and act to be something they are not. But isn’t it almost impossible to recognize a narcissist by the things he does because as I recall, the most common warning sign is that they pretend to be something they are not?
Como é que se pode saber se estão a fingir ser bons ou se o são realmente?
Uma vez que enganá-lo e convencê-lo de falsas verdades é praticamente a melhor coisa que eles fazem, esta não é uma boa maneira de desmascarar o seu disfarce e ter a certeza de que é um narcisista.
Mas o que se pode fazer é procurar as coisas que um narcisista nunca fariaO que é que o seu filho quer é algo que não seja consistente com a sua personalidade, algo que envolva empatia ou preocupação com os outros.
No matter how good of an actor he is, a narcissist will never do something that doesn’t concern him, something that doesn’t benefit him.
Here is where you can catch a narcissist off guard because they won’t expect you to look at things from that angle. Here is where they will definitely make a mistake because they can’t help themselves.
They can act all they want but they can’t act emotions and they can’t fake good deeds. It’s against who they are and how they think.
Here is a list of things that will help you blow a narcissist’s cover—a list of things a narcisista nunca o faria:
1. Detestam perder o controlo
Narcissists like acting like they own you, like they are your master. They like to think that you’re completely incapable of doing anything without their supervision or their help.
Mas tudo o que é preciso para detetar um narcisista é ver como ele age quando perde o controlo, quando já não manda na sua vida. Se o controlo for reduzido e você recuperar a razão, ele passa-se completamente.
They’ll become angry and upset and you won’t know the reason why. If this is the case then you can be sure that his behavior is an indicator of a narcissistic personality.
2. Nunca mostram quem realmente são
When you first meet them they are perfect, maybe even a bit too perfect, which should be suspicious right from the start. They’ll hide their manipulative behavior by pretending to be sweet and kind.
They will reveal their true colors but only later when it’s too late for you to walk away no strings attached.
3. They don’t let anyone prove them wrong
Uma das suas armas mais fortes é um ato de manipulação, quando tentam convencer-nos de coisas que não são reais, que nunca aconteceram.
Even if they are caught lying to you, they won’t let it go. They’ll stick to their version of the truth.
Having a discussion with a narcissist is just a waste of time. You won’t win, that’s for sure, you can only get hurt in this painful process.
No final, eles manipulam-no para que compre a história deles, mesmo que tenha tido sempre razão.
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4. Nunca pedirão desculpa
Not only that they will manipulate you into thinking that you’re wrong but they will truly believe that they are right.
Pensam que são incapazes de cometer um erro porque, aos seus olhos, são a pura perfeição.
Even if they make a mistake, you won’t hear an apology. In their mind, everything that goes wrong around them is someone else’s fault and never theirs.
5. Eles nunca te vão perdoar
Their expectations is the only thing that matters. And if you fail them, if you don’t live up to what they expect from you, they will never let it go.
Even if you say that you’re sorry, it won’t cut it.
De cada vez que discutem, a pessoa volta a falar da altura em que fez algo de errado e, apesar do pedido de desculpas, continua a empurrar-lhe esse erro na cara. Nunca o vão esquecer.
Quando têm de escolher entre o perdão e a vingança, optam sempre pela vingança.
6. They don’t have an equal
Na sua mente, não há ninguém melhor do que eles. Ninguém é tão inteligente ou tão bonito como eles.
São simplesmente um reflexo de pura perfeição. Estão acima de todos os outros.
Quando vemos uma pessoa com tanta confiança, temos de perceber que algo está terrivelmente errado. Ninguém deveria ter uma opinião tão elevada sobre si próprio e toda a gente tem inseguranças.
That’s your huge, red, warning sign right there—his gigantic ego.
7. Nunca demonstram empatia
Other people’s suffering or happiness, whether it’s a good or bad feeling, has no effect on narcissists. They are unable to understand feelings.
The only thing they care about is themselves. They are extremely insensitive and they won’t think twice about saying something hurtful to anyone because they don’t care how that person is going to react or feel afterward.
Don’t confuse honesty with lack of empathy. Because even when you have to be brutally honest, you’re not going to be indifferent to that person’s feelings.
8. They don’t listen
They will pretend to listen to you until you shut up, and that is when they are going to blurt out everything that is on their mind. What you’ve said doesn’t interest them at all.
This happens because they don’t respect you or anything that’s on your mind. The only important thing is what they think and how they feel. Others don’t matter.
9. Não são educados
It doesn’t matter whether they are rude to a stranger on the street or your friends—narcissists can’t be polite because they don’t care about other people’s feelings.
They will act rudely and be inconsiderate to the people you love because those people don’t mean anything to them. The only person who matters is the narcissist himself.
10. They don’t give compliments
They don’t want others to feel good about themselves. They want others to feel like crap so narcissists can feel better, greater and more important than them.
That’s why they never give compliments, they just want to get them. If you get a compliment from a narcissist, you should really look into it, because it’s probably just a tactic for something far more serious.
