10 magníficas réplicas para detener al maestro manipulador

Cuántas veces he querido que te callaras. Cuántas veces he querido gritarte que dejaras de lavarme el cerebro con tus asquerosas palabras hirientes.

Nunca pude. Me quedé ahí delante de ti, congelado, incapaz de mover un músculo, incapaz de hablar para defenderme.

That is what years of your manipulation did to me. That’s how you managed to have complete control over me.

Cada vez que peleábamos, volvía a pasar lo mismo.

Tú gritando por toda la casa, rompiendo cosas, y yo sentada, mirando en una dirección, esperando a que pares.

Even when you forced me to give you answers and talk to you, you wouldn’t let me.

I would start, a few words would come out of my mouth unwillingly, and then you’d cut me off. Then, you’d shame me even more.

Sí, viví con un manipulador. I’m not ashamed of it anymore, not now that it’s all over.

These people are everywhere. You can’t avoid them. You can’t recognize them. That’s the whole point.

Si supieras desde el principio que alguien cercano a ti en realidad te manipula, ¿habrías seguido con esa persona?

No, sadly, you only realize when it’s too late. You realize you’ve been manipulated instead of loved only when you hit rock bottom.

Los manipuladores saben qué decir para mantenerte callado y engañarte para que sientas lástima por ellos. Todo lo que dicen siempre tiene una agenda oculta.

Son capaces de manipular tus emociones para llevarte a tu punto más vulnerable.

In that state you’re the easiest to manipulate and control.

La mejor solución para lidiar con un manipulador es apartarlo completamente de tu vida e ignorar su presencia, pero, por desgracia, no todos podemos permitirnos el lujo de hacerlo.

When you don’t have a choice and for some reason, you have to stay in touch with your manipulator, here are a few comebacks you should use whenever you feel threatened:

“NO!”

Aprende a ser asertivo. Aprende a adoptar una postura. Hay muchos libros de autoayuda que pueden servir.

La cuestión es que tienes que aprender a creer en ti mismo y controlar tus sentimientos te vendrá muy bien.

Tu autoestima está casi por los suelos a causa de sus constantes humillaciones.

You don’t believe in yourself, and it makes you insecure. What you need to do is to break free from that emotional prison he put you in.

Say ‘no’ to him. Don’t be afraid because nothing bad will happen, and for the love of God, don’t fall for his tricks because while you’re fighting against him, he will try to make you feel sorry for him.

That’s his tactic to get you back out of pity.

“This time I’m going to choose myself.”

It’s hard to make such a change in your life, but for your own good, be brave enough and make the first step toward accepting and loving yourself for who you are.

Tienes que darte cuenta de que no eres tú quien estropea las cosas. No eres el malo, y nunca debes definirte así.

Después de todo, ¿por qué deberías sufrir porque otra persona tiene el alma corrompida?

Don’t feel sorry for people like that. Get away from them as soon and as far as possible.

Porque, si intentas ayudarles, sólo van a hacerte daño. En realidad, cuentan con que les ayudes, para poder traicionarte y, una vez más, conseguir lo que quieren.

“You don’t get to tell me what I can and cannot do!”

Don’t give up on yourself. You’re not meant to be in this world to be someone’s doormat.

Hay planes mucho mejores para ti, así que nadie tiene derecho a controlarte. Hazle consciente de ello tomando partido.

Los manipuladores se aprovechan de las personas débiles porque son las más fáciles de controlar.

If you talk back to him and show him through your words and actions that you’re not weak, he won’t be able to touch you.

“Your words mean nothing to me!”

When a manipulator has a feeling that you’re slipping away from his grip, that you’re no longer under his control, he will try hard to lure you back in.

Se esforzará por hacer todo tipo de promesas, diciendo las mismas cosas que usted quiere oír.

Cambiará de actitud sólo para engañarte y que confíes en su repentino cambio de opinión.

“I’m busy now. We can talk some other time.”

Make sure he knows you’re not available to him every time it suits him.

Make him see that you have a will of your own, a free will and you’re able to make your own decisions without anyone interfering.

If you don’t feel like talking to him right now, he has no right or the power to make you. Make sure he knows that.

“Step away from me.”

Los manipuladores utilizan la intimidación como su arma más poderosa. La utilizan cuando todos los demás juegos mentales fail. It’s their last resort.

If you’re in the middle of a fight and they don’t see a way of winning, they will walk into your personal space with the intention of scaring you.

Most victims can’t handle that kind of emotional pressure, so they fold and allow the abusers to get complete control.

Let your abuser know that you can’t be intimidated.

Even though you’re scared as hell, don’t let that fear show because fear is only making him stronger and more aggressive.

“I feel so sorry for you.” (read: sarcasm)

Para conseguir lo que quieren, los manipuladores intentarán provocarte simpatía.

Intentarán venderte alguna historia patética, para que sientas lástima por ellos y hagas las cosas a su manera.

Don’t let them manipulate your emotional state like this. Show them that this time you mean it. This time you’re serious.

“We’ll talk when you calm down.”

Quieren que reacciones antes de pensar. Quieren que pienses emocionalmente y no racionalmente, para que digas lo primero que se te ocurra y lo utilicen en tu contra.

Don’t fall into that trap, and avoid talking to him during a high emotional state.

“I’m a person worthy of respect and love.”

Manipulators are counting on you feeling worthless. They need you to feel like you are a nobody, so it’s easier for them to control you.

By showing and saying to him that you are as important as anyone else in this world, that you deserve respect and love, you’re automatically ruining his plans, and you’ll make him powerless against you.

“I’m not letting you get inside my mind.”

Los manipuladores son los mejores para cruzar todos los límites posibles que establezcas porque creen que pueden hacerlo.

And if you let them, you’re only encouraging them to continue doing whatever the hell they want without any respect for anyone around them.

Si les haces saber que te niegas a que te intimiden y te maltraten, retrocederán.

Remember this one thing—as long as you’re dancing to the music he’s playing, you won’t be able to get away from his manipulative grip.

Take a stand and make a change in your life. Don’t be afraid of anyone.