10 preguntas que nos morimos por hacer a los hombres

Vivir en la modernidad significa tener múltiples opciones de comunicación, pero también significa la muerte de ese tipo de amor vintage y las relaciones.

Aunque las mujeres (al igual que los hombres) tenemos libertad para hacer lo que queramos, sigue habiendo algunas preguntas que nunca hacemos a los hombres porque tememos parecer demasiado serias o nos asustan las posibles respuestas.

Whatever it be, it is never a good idea to hush your inner voice whispering to you to ask certain questions; they might be of crucial importance for your relationship! So, here’s a list of questions to remind yourself to ask him because you definitely should!

1. “What are we?”

When you just start dating a guy, it is normal to start questioning in which direction the whole thing is heading. But, most of the times, women are afraid to ask this because they don’t want to appear too pushy and scare the guy away by doing it.

If you’re not sure about what you two really are, you should definitely ask him because there’s no point to living in a delusion when one question can resolve all the doubts you might have.

2. “How many people have you slept with?”

Muchas mujeres encuentran esto realmente incómodo de preguntar, y, de hecho es incómodo, pero es necesario. Al preguntarle con cuántas personas se ha acostado, obtendrás información sobre su nivel de experiencia con las mujeres y también sobre qué tipo de persona es. También puedes preguntarle con cuántas personas ha hecho el amor para ver su reacción y sus pensamientos al respecto.

3. “What do you think about our relationship being public on social media?”

You don’t want to add thousands of pictures of him and you on your social media only to realize that he doesn’t want the relationship to be public. So, asking him what he thinks about the relationship being public on social media is of utmost importance if you want to see if he’s into mediocre, romance casual o algo más serio.

If he says that he’s okay with it, it means he wants other people to know that you’re his and that he’s yours. But, if he’s not really okay with it, then it means he either needs more time or he’s actually interested in having an open relationship.

4. “Where do you see us as a couple in the future?”

Talking about the future on a first date is a big no-no, but you should definitely mention it later on to see his opinion regarding you as a couple. If he says that he doesn’t have any thoughts on this one, then it means he can’t yet see his future with you at the moment. But, if he’s already planned everything, then you can be sure that it’s the real deal.

5. “Have you ever had any substance abuse problems?”

Es realmente difícil descifrar si una persona ha tenido alguna vez algún tipo de problema de abuso de sustancias y también es realmente incómodo preguntarlo. Pero, por el bien de tu bienestar y el de tu relación, deberías preguntárselo. Las personas con un historial de problemas de abuso de sustancias tienen más posibilidades de volver a experimentarlo y por eso es importante conocer todos los detalles al respecto.

6. “Have you ever committed a crime or been arrested?”

If you’re going to be with someone in a relationship, it means you’ll spend lots of time with them. That is why it is important to be informed whether they have ever committed a crime or been arrested. The last thing you want is to inadvertently become his accomplice or be seen in a negative light because of his deeds. Also, this might negatively influence the quality of your relationship.

7. “Are you in debt?”

Being in debt after finishing college is one thing, but being in debt to the extent that you can’t see a way out of it is quite another. If your guy is in huge debt, it means he has a serious financial problem, which can affect your relationship negatively in future.

8. “What are your secret fantasies (in the bedroom)?”

Being intimate with someone includes reciprocity and you won’t be able to reciprocate in full until you’ve learned what your partner prefers in bed, their fantasías secretasy cosas por el estilo. Por eso es importante que hables de ello con él. Así aumentarás las posibilidades de hacer el amor y aprenderás mucho sobre él.

9. “Do you have a lot of female friends?”

Preguntarle por sus amigas no es un signo de celos, pero saltar sobre cada mensaje con nombre de mujer sí lo es. Por lo tanto, siempre es aconsejable preguntarle por sus posibles amigas para saber cómo reaccionar en el futuro cuando veas que aparecen mensajes en su teléfono.

10. “What’s your phone password?”

If he asked you for your phone password, and you think it’s rude to ask him for his, then think again. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed to ask for his phone password, especially if you feel like you can’t trust him one hundred percent.

And if he becomes hesitant to give it to you, then you will know he’s probably ocultándote algoque le ayudarán a determinar el flujo de su relación.