11 señales de que estás atrapado en una relación de rebote poco saludable

There’s no really healthy rebound relationship, but some of them have the possibility of turning into a real one or friendship. But unfortunately, the odds are not in your favor, so if you suspect you’re just a rebound girl, you can check for these signs in your relationship.

Tu relación va demasiado rápido

When people enter a rebound relationship, their pain fades away and they forget how hurt they were. But once they’re all alone, that pain and those memories come back, forcing them to spend more time with you in order to forget their ex.

A relationship like this doesn’t have a natural course, and instead, you find yourself rushing forward and wondering what all the rush is about.

La intimidad está por las nubes

You can’t keep your hands off of each other, but you can’t talk about the serious elements of your relationship either. Rebound relationships are mostly characterized by tons of intercourse, which serves as a distraction from what’s truly going on.

If you find yourself in such a relationship, where you’re highly committed to your boyfriend but don’t know the course of the relationship, you could be atascado como un rebote.

He shows you off—a lot

Whether he shows you off to his friends or his exes, there’s a reason why he’s doing it. It’s one thing to be proud of having an amazing girlfriend, but if he’s showing you off just for your looks and not your brains, he could be simply using you as arm candy.

Te enfrentas a miradas escandalosas de sus amigos

Si te encuentras con miradas de asombro y sorpresa en los rostros de sus amigos, pero tu hombre no hace nada al respecto, eso podría ser una señal grave de que algo no va bien.

You’d figure his friends would know about his new girlfriend and support him but instead, you feel their disapproval and shock.

It’s hot ‘n’ cold amor

Su obsesión se convierte de repente en fría distancia.

He seems much more dramatic than any of your other boyfriends before him, and you don’t seem to understand why.

You just got stuck with a guy who still isn’t sure what he wants, because his ex is still stuck inside his mind.

Experimenta cambios de humor

This is completely normal if you think about it. He’s moved on, trying to ignore the fact that he’s been hurt, pretending to be a tough guy and all.

He’s happy with you, but the moment you leave, depression sets in and he’s left all confused and faced with emotions he doesn’t even want to admit to having.

It’s hard to deal with such opposite emotions, leading him to have intense mood swings.

You feel like he’s not taking you seriously

Cada vez que quieres hablar de algún tema serio, cambia de tema o dirige tu atención a otra parte.

Whenever you want to take things to the next level, such as him meeting your friends, he finds an excuse as to why he can’t do it.

He’s using you just to fill up the emptiness his ex has left and to pass the time, whether he’s aware of it or not.

Se niega a hablar de su ex

Se comporta de forma extraña al hablar de su reciente ex, fingiendo que nunca existió y que su ruptura no fue nada, sólo un juego.

Cuando sus amigos mencionan a su ex, él cambia de tema, no porque le importen tus sentimientos, sino porque sus heridas aún están frescas.

Esta señal es especialmente obvia si terminó una relación hace apenas un mes.

He calls you when he’s lonely, but neglects you when he’s happy

Una clara señal de relación de rebote profundamente malsana es cuando he calls you only when he’s down y necesita tu atención.

Broken people tend to enter a rebound relationship because they’re in need of someone’s attention, a quick way to heal new wounds.

If you notice that your man shares only the bad things with you, but the good ones with everyone but you, maybe it’s time that you leave him.

Expresa emociones intensas cuando ve a su ex o cuando alguien la menciona

He turns either aggressive or instantly happy or feels beaten down. But the most important part is that his emotions are intense, whether it’s anger, faked happiness or sadness.

He’s still not over his ex and the mentioning of her name still hurts.

Seeing her happy is even worse, as that’s when he tries to step up his game by showing you off, expressing intense happiness; but the moment she passes by, he’s depressed as fuck.

Ustedes dos no tienen nada en común

This one is pretty obvious. He never chose to date you because of interests that you share; you have one thing he needs and unfortunately, that’s your body.

In the beginning, it’s all fun and games, devouring each other and experiencing things in ways you never knew you could, but once that wears off, you have a normal need to get to know your partner.

Por tu propio bien, deberías encontrar la manera de dejar una relación así, antes de que los sentimientos se involucren y antes de que se convierta en algo tóxico para ti.