13 señales de que tienes una relación posesiva

Las relaciones posesivas varían en función de la gravedad de la posesividad. Mientras que a veces pueden ser celos leves, pueden llegar a un nivel en el que se vuelvan tóxicos.

Nevertheless, no possessive relationship is healthy. Every possessive relationship starts off like a fairy tale, where you have met someone who cares deeply about you so you’re not ready to look for signs that something is wrong, because it just feels good to be wanted.

But if you feel like you’re trapped in a relationship or the feeling of being stalked simply creeps up on you, maybe it’s time to look for the signs that your partner is the possessive type.

He’s controlling

Tiene la necesidad de controlarte wherever you go, as well as when and with whom. If he’s not involved in the decision making, he’s text-bombing you until he is.

He has ways of manipulating you into following his requests, which ultimately leads to cutting you off from your friends and family, until he’s the only one you have.

Compartir es cuidar, pero no para él cuando se trata de ti.

Exige conocer tus contraseñas

“Come on, what’s the big deal? What are you hiding anyway?”

Social media accounts are something private that we share with our significant other when we feel like it, when we trust them in a way that they don’t have the need to check up on us, because they trust us too.

But demanding to know someone’s passwords is neither healthy nor lovable.

 Clingy

When we fall in love, it’s natural that we want to spend every single moment with that person. We want to know how they feel, how they think and how they breathe.

Se siente tan bien, pero a medida que pasa el tiempo, aprendemos a vivir separados, pero juntos.

Si se niega a hacerlo, si sigue queriendo pasar contigo cada segundo de su tiempo libre, tienes un problema.

Te pedirá que dejes a tus amigos por él y que abandones tus aficiones, sólo porque quiere estar contigo.

Te acecha

This is not something any of us is really ready to admit. He’s my boyfriend, there’s no way he can stalk me.

But if you find him reading your messages, snooping around your phone and browsing history, logging into your accounts or popping up unexpectedly at your workplace or the bar where you’re with your friends, he’s a stalker.

That’s not cute behavior, that’s hella creepy.

Tú cumples sus deseos

If he wants to go somewhere, you go there. Compromise is a word he’s not familiar with, neither does he want to get to know it.

It’s all about him, because he knows what’s best for you anyway. If you don’t make his wishes come true, all hell breaks loose.

Cambios de humor

He’s so happy you’re finally with him, but the moment you mention a male colleague or a childhood friend, his mood changes.

Incluso las cosas más pequeñas hacer que se enfade o se moleste. He’s happiest when you’re only with him and talk only about him.

Acusaciones constantes

He’s constantly accusing you of flirting with other men, no matter whether you did or not. If you talk to a man, you’re flirting.

If you look at a man, you no longer love him. If you want to go out with your friends, you’re just looking for a way to cheat on him.

You’re always to blame, no matter what you do and how hard you try to prove your love to him.

He doesn’t respect your personal space

If you’re in a relationship, why do you need space in the first place?

Su idea de la mujer perfecta es la mujer que le es completamente sumisa, la que puede controlar y de la que lo sabe todo.

If you ask for some time alone, he gets offended, because it must mean you’re tired of him and you’re obviously hiding something. But, let’s be honest.

Everybody needs some ‘me’ time.

Bombardeo constante de mensajes

If you’re separated from him, at work or with your friends and family, he’s message-bombing you constantly.

Necesita saber dónde estás, qué haces, cuánto tiempo estarás fuera.

You can’t have a minute’s peace without him nagging and demanding your attention.

He’s extremely paranoid

He’s always afraid that you will leave him, that you’re looking at other men and cheating on him.

He needs to know why you’re talking to your friends, why your colleague calls after work, why you’re texting with your friends, if he is not enough, etc.

He’s always in a panic, in fear that his controlling is not strong enough and you will leave, and he’s in fear of losing his favorite toy.

Tiene la necesidad de controlar lo que te pones

Ese vestido es demasiado ajustado, esa falda es demasiado corta, esos zapatos parecen de zorra.

He’s trying to fit you into the mold of the perfect woman he has in his mind, regardless of how you feel about it and how hurtful it could be for you.

Intenta separarte de tus amigos

Necesita pasar cada momento de su día contigo, y quiere que estés disponible para él en cuanto te llame.

That’s why he will slowly start turning you against your friends, talking about how he doesn’t like them, how they’re toxic for you and how you don’t need them.

And it’s easier for him to manipulate you once you’re all alone and you lose your support system.

It’s all because he ‘loves you’

Justificar la manipulación y posesividad tóxica with love is his favorite thing. He tried to cut you off from your friends, because he knows what’s best for you.

He doesn’t want you to talk to other men, because he knows what they’re after. He wants you isolated, because the world is cruel and he can protect you.

Los celos no son amor. El comportamiento posesivo no es amor. Recuérdalo. Ningún hombre es digno de tu libertad.